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 Posted: Sat Jul 01, 2006 11:15 pm
I manage at a small privately owned cave and after work I am ready to wring a few necks... I believe that venting is necisary and I think it would be interesting to find out how everyone here deals with stress and how the release it...
My ways of venting are dangerous and sometimes stupid... they have changed as I have gotten older. When I was younger I kept all my anger and sorrow bottled up. Men don't cry and they don't throw fits so I didn't. until one day when I was 16 I just broke down...
I was sitting at home alone and all the things that had happened in my life were going through my mind... It didn't take long for my memory trip to turn to bad memories... Frineds I had lost family that I had hurt with words and never got to say sorry... I just couldn't take it. I shattered my brand new bokken on a punching bag and just kept swinging until I was exhausted.
If I had been real with myself I never woulda' broke down like that and I may have been willing to bite my pride and appologise for my actions in certain cases...
My main form of strees release is music and my car. There is an old stretch of road near my workplace that I will use for a small rush to help me relax. I crank up my radio and drive... just a bit fast... ok sometimes way to fast, but I need it after work sometimes.
My second form of strees releif is my guns... I clean them... inspect them... and shoot them if I have the opertunity. You would be amazed how much thinking you can do while pumping rounds into an old tree. I have turned my faith and problems over and over behind the stock of my 12GA.
It's something about the action of the firearm, the sound of the muzzle blast, and the smell of the gun powder that relaxes me... old memories of the family I guess.
Side note... This topic was brought about by listening to Nickel Back for hours... Something about that style of music akes me do alot of thinking.
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Posted: Sun Jul 02, 2006 7:46 am
Sometimes when I'm stressed out I'll go for a run. I exhaust my self then have natural happy chemicals pumping through my veins afterwards. When I'm walking afterwards as a cool down I start to think about things.
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Posted: Sun Jul 02, 2006 3:12 pm
I guess that works... Heh around my place I would end up as a hood ornament.
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Posted: Sun Jul 02, 2006 10:15 pm
Yeah, I tried running there late at night... not very many sidewalks sad .
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Posted: Mon Jul 03, 2006 11:31 am
Yeah I was kinda worried about it but I decided that you could take care of yoursself.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 1:24 pm
*grimmaces, but decides to say this anyway*
I know how you feel, Paladin. I really do.
There, I said it.
Now I guess I can explain myself... I do the same thing sometimes, bottle everything when it's a LOT healthier to just let it go. There aren't many people I can really talk to IRL; I'm more open here in Gaia than I'd ever dream of being at home, I guess because nothing that's done here can ever reallyhurt me. Amaris is one of only two people here in the real world that I feel like I can trust (the other being my pastor... though he's not my pastor anymore, he had to move not too long ago... and it's long distance to call him from here sad ) But when it comes down to it, I just break down and cry-- curl up on the bed, hug a giant teddy bear, and cry.
A lot of times, reading helps-- or watching a movie. Just give me a while to get away from whatever's bothering me, time to let it settle back into perspective. Singing helps, too... and though physical activity helps, often it only makes it worse-- I get pretty violent when I'm angry. Amaris and I have wooden katanas that we take out and spar with every now and again; I'll spare you the details and say that she never told me to "let her have it" again when I was that upset. I could have taken her head off, if they had been real. *sighs and shakes her head* That's what bottled emotion will get you-- trouble, and pain.
I'm trying to fix that-- learn exactly what it means to "give it to God"-- I ask for your prayers as I go on with this.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 2:24 pm
I don't think I vent... I usually try to stay in prayer whilst at work... just talking to God relieves that stress that builds at work. So I guess I do vent but it's not like getting violent.. I get violent sometimes just 'cuz! 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 8:20 pm
I usually write it all down in my journal. Writing as always been my way of venting and I belive its really helped. I sometimes write my prayers and I have a pray box that I put them all in. I also write down the things that I think are keeping my attention from God and then I take the peices and burn them. It see them go away in a 'real' sort of way helps me mentally try and get rid of them. Its helps me visualize getting rid of them and it helps me focus more on God
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 9:17 pm
Wow I amg etting some response here... seemd like we have a really varied crowd... well my first form of ventign (driving) put me a little further in debt today.
I stayed in my lane and kept my car in control but I was going 5 over while making a really extreme corner. The officer couldn't get me for the driving so he hit me for the speed and said I was going 11 over the limit when entering the corner... No use arguing...
Life can suck sometimes. I am gonna keep that ticket on my desk as a reminder, but once I make my Se7eN all bets are off and the limit is only for people with normal cars. Mine will be GTS class! I could outrun the police easy... if it was still the 70's and in back raods AR or TX.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 10:20 pm
LynUridain *grimmaces, but decides to say this anyway* I know how you feel, Paladin. I really do. There, I said it. Now I guess I can explain myself... I do the same thing sometimes, bottle everything when it's a LOT healthier to just let it go. There aren't many people I can really talk to IRL; I'm more open here in Gaia than I'd ever dream of being at home, I guess because nothing that's done here can ever reallyhurt me. Amaris is one of only two people here in the real world that I feel like I can trust (the other being my pastor... though he's not my pastor anymore, he had to move not too long ago... and it's long distance to call him from here sad ) But when it comes down to it, I just break down and cry-- curl up on the bed, hug a giant teddy bear, and cry. A lot of times, reading helps-- or watching a movie. Just give me a while to get away from whatever's bothering me, time to let it settle back into perspective. Singing helps, too... and though physical activity helps, often it only makes it worse-- I get pretty violent when I'm angry. Amaris and I have wooden katanas that we take out and spar with every now and again; I'll spare you the details and say that she never told me to "let her have it" again when I was that upset. I could have taken her head off, if they had been real. *sighs and shakes her head* That's what bottled emotion will get you-- trouble, and pain. I'm trying to fix that-- learn exactly what it means to "give it to God"-- I ask for your prayers as I go on with this. Hooray for sparring! I just recently got into it, but I couldn't do it with actual bokkens. I don't like getting hit with solid wood, and I don't want to hurt anyone. But a friend suggested a fun noodle with a 1/2 inch pvc pipe in the middle then wrapped in duct tape. The pipe provides the structure, the noodle is the cushin that keeps the damage temporary, and the duct tape keeps it from falling apart easily, and acts as a safety mechanism if it breaks(I know from experience) The best thing about this idea is that it is very cheap and easy to make, the only other thing you need is a saw. A bokken were I live cost any where between $12-30, and 3 or 4 pvc pipes(longer that 7ft), 5 noodles, and the duct tape were all around $20. So far I used up 2 or 3 pipes, 3 noodles and almost a whole large roll of duct tape, and made 2 katana sized, 2 short sword, 1 great sword, 1 long staff, and 1 short staff. So my and my friends spar with a variety of styles, and none of us has gotten seriously hurt. I highly recomend it to everyone. biggrin Back to the actually topic, one thing I am thankful for though is that God has awarded me with terrific patience. I used to bottle things up and explode often in violence. My mother chasized me so much against it that I wanted to control my anger and when I gave my life to Christ, I sought God for the help I needed to change and here I am. It took me years to change, but I did change. Its a lot easier for me to hold back my anger and instead of bottling it up, I release it through prayer. So don't any of you despair, you can get your anger behind you, you just have to stick it out through prayer.
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Posted: Sat Jul 08, 2006 10:46 pm
Lol me and my bro used wood 1x2s and cut em to our liking... we used to beat the hell out of each other. Once we got so into it we kept hitting after they were broken... btw me and my bro were angry children and my mom could do little to stop us. Come by and check out the action anytime. If we are together for more than 4 hours sparks start to fly. rofl wahmbulance
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Posted: Sun Jul 09, 2006 8:18 pm
Well, I don't really vent unless someone notices that something's not right with me. Otherwise, I just keep it to myself and put it in my bottle. Granted, it doesn't help, but it's what I'm used to.
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Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 7:39 pm
I draw images of whats bugging me deep inside.
I write poetry of my feelings.
I sing out my frustration free style.
I play my guitar or my keyboard.
I RP on gaia.
I talk it out with friends/family.
But what makes me feel better than those is sitting with my dog Smokey outside or in town at an outdoor cafe eating grilled cheese sandwitches with chili drinking milk and watching the day go by.
*gaspgasp*
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Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 8:04 pm
Wow... I guess you are much more normal than me... But I am now a member of a local skeet range. Me and my bro fired of 250 shots each in less than a few hours... I feel so relaxed now. (but my shoulder hurts)
I'm gonna go back next week! blaugh wahmbulance
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 5:08 am
Haha.
Dad would take me out to the range and I'd shoot a pistle to a can over and over. Him and I go hunting together, but I don't think I really want to this year, or the next. I'm to busy with Music theory and stuff.
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