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First off, you've got to be honest with your feelings. If you really feel like there's nothing. Do it.
Second, talk it down with him. Explain why the relationship is not working for you. He might not know it, but he might be feeling the same way too.
Third, assess the situation before jumping the gun at him. Five years is a long stretch of experiences between you two. Think about it very carefully before doing step one and two.

Hope this helps.

Good luck!

Keep your goal in mind. When you break up with someone, a lot of the time they'll try to talk you out of it, if they still want the relationship. If you're sure you want to end things, don't let him derail you. But be kind about it. Explain what you're feeling without attacking him. Too often break-ups become even more painful because the people involved see it as a chance to air every grievance. That won't do any good. It'll just make it harder for both of you.

Er, I'd really like some advice on something that's been bothering me greatly. I recently transferred from one school to another because of anxiety issues, and although my parents are convinced that they've made a brilliant decision, I keep thinking otherwise.
I feel very disjointed and feel a sense of not belonging at this new school, mainly because of their humourless classes and focus on traditional learning methods (tests, homework, and the like). After being in schools that value innovation, original thought, and creativity, as well as being a top student, I feel dumbed down and stupid for not adhering to their rules.
The main problem lies with the assistant principal, who asked to see me on Wednesday morning. I was shaking as she told me that I was exacerbating my anxiety symptoms and that I should attend maths class. My maths teacher hates my guts, and has become a trigger in the last few weeks. I decided to stick it out. After that, she ruminated in my bag and looked in every single one of my books, planner, and the like. She called me a truant for my need to go to sick bay. I get the general sense that she doesn't believe me.
On Friday, I had a panic attack because of a test that was coming up soon. Their syllabus and my old school's didn't match up at all, and I felt stupid for not knowing what they did before my arrival. Apparently, my school's year coordinator was away, and coincidentally I had her and the school counsellor "treat" me, which resulted in the most humiliating and degrading feeling I have ever experienced in my life. She quite plainly told me to stand up from the bench and walk over to my locker which was quite far. Being in the middle of a panic, I sobbed all the way to my locker, feeling dizzy and stupid as she stared at me and said that should I fall, she would just call my dad and tell him that "I went out and did that."
I keep reliving the words truant, fall, and my old school which I miss dearly. I feel suicidal and disassociated throughout many of the school days and it physically hurts at times that my eyes water and my fears become quite somatic. I feel as if I have no one to turn to, especially because she abused her power.

I left my old school in a flurry of confusion and misunderstanding as my anxiety was particularly severe in those days. I took some time off, as a holiday, and started seeing a therapist. My sessions have almost finished, and up until these incidents I was doing pretty well as a result of those and self determination. Mum and Dad decided to break ties with the old school and I sense that they thought the school was the source of my anxiety and wanted a quick scapegoat, I think. Counselling there wasn't the best, but at the moment feels a thousand times better to what I'm receiving at the mo.
I'll definitely stick it out for a bit though to assess whether or not the assistant principal would change. It doesn't seem too likely based on responses by classmates. Everything just feels so different. I've changed schools plenty of times (travelled around the world when I was younger) but never have I felt this unwelcome in a new environment. I'm just confused as I have told them everything- from my panic attacks and my triggers to the place I get therapy, and all I can hear is her muttering to the other staff whenever I happen to walk near.

Doing a bit better than usual, and have gotten used to the main rules and regulations of the school. I've met a new friend who's also absorbed in science and technology, and we've planned to attend the Sydney Science Festival together. I guess turning back to a hard place isn't going to help me somehow.