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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 3:41 pm
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So...I'm dating this guy...okay, we've been on one date and I'm seeing him again saturday. It was actually my first date in 2 and a half years sweatdrop anyway, he seems like a real good match. I mean, he skis (okay snowboards, but at least he can keep up he used to be an instructor) hikes, loves animals and nature etc etc. Our first date we walked along the lake and then just sat by the water and talked. He asked me what pets I had and I told him about my zoo, and how I had a cat for 14yrs but lost him this year. He says to me all casual like "I'm actually allergic to cats" eek ...
I just stared at him...and then said "Shhiittt"
I really like this guy, he is like my dream guy in every way. But...I can NOT live without cats. I am a CRAZY CAT LADY dating a guy who is allergic to cats. confused
So I was thinking...I'll see how it plays out, keep seeing him, if anything, at least to get back in the game. And then if he wants to get serious/exclusive. I will lay it out for him. That if he ever wants to live with me, he will have to live with cats. I can accept keeping them out of certain rooms, vacuuming constantly. But I can not NOT have a cat. I think i'd rather be single.
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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 5:01 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 17, 2012 10:26 pm
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Yea, and it depends on how severe his allergies are, if its just a stuffy nose, and a little sneezing, he can deal, and there are shots, and medications, its not a deal breaker for the most part these days. I would n** it in the bud though, you dont want to be like, eventually find out, after getting way attached and such. Also, people arent allergic to EVERY cat usually, you might be able to find one that doesnt trigger him!
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Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2012 7:02 am
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2012 7:09 pm
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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 8:15 pm
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Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2012 9:33 pm
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Posted: Sat Oct 20, 2012 3:06 pm
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Kithy Kitty Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Well there are vaccines for allergies nowadays. Keeping the house clean and the bedroom cat free can be enough for some people. I don't wana seem unsypathetic or expect him to be on drugs his whole life. I could comprimise by not letting the cats in the bedroom and vacuuming a lot, but that's as far as it goes for me. I have been on my own for the VAST majority of my life. So perhaps I am a bit biased when I say this, but...Men come and go. Absolutely they provide a level of companionship that can't be matched by pets. But even people who have been married for years, break up. I can not see myself living without a cat, but I can see myself living without a man. Spoken like a TRUE crazy cat lady sweatdrop I'm with you on this. Even though I got my dog after I was married... let's say it didn't happen that way. If he didn't like my dog or was allergic and refused to compromise with anything other than giving the dog away.. wouldn't happen. That's the end. He actually did that to me though. It was the "we have 16 cats so if you don't like cats... gtfo". I guess he was fortunate that I like them? The best thing you can do is talk to him and see how bad it is or how far he's willing to compromise.
See it's one thing to have a pet and say, I am not giving up this animal because I made a commitment to them. But I currently do not own a cat. So, it wouldn't be so far fetched to expect me to just, not get another cat. Right, I mean, I can understand, ur allergic to cats and ur girlfriend brings home a cat it's like ugh, WTF? But I am a cat person. It's just who I am. By some fluke I meet this guy 2.5 months after loosing my cat. But that does not mean I will not own another cat again. I'm just going through a temporary catless moment while I come to terms with loosing my best friend. I am still a cat person and will always be. To be with me and expect me not to have cats is to expect me not to be myself. Point Final.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Sat Oct 20, 2012 3:36 pm
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Kithy Kitty Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Well there are vaccines for allergies nowadays. Keeping the house clean and the bedroom cat free can be enough for some people. I don't wana seem unsypathetic or expect him to be on drugs his whole life. I could comprimise by not letting the cats in the bedroom and vacuuming a lot, but that's as far as it goes for me. I have been on my own for the VAST majority of my life. So perhaps I am a bit biased when I say this, but...Men come and go. Absolutely they provide a level of companionship that can't be matched by pets. But even people who have been married for years, break up. I can not see myself living without a cat, but I can see myself living without a man. Spoken like a TRUE crazy cat lady sweatdrop I'm with you on this. Even though I got my dog after I was married... let's say it didn't happen that way. If he didn't like my dog or was allergic and refused to compromise with anything other than giving the dog away.. wouldn't happen. That's the end. He actually did that to me though. It was the "we have 16 cats so if you don't like cats... gtfo". I guess he was fortunate that I like them? The best thing you can do is talk to him and see how bad it is or how far he's willing to compromise. See it's one thing to have a pet and say, I am not giving up this animal because I made a commitment to them. But I currently do not own a cat. So, it wouldn't be so far fetched to expect me to just, not get another cat. Right, I mean, I can understand, ur allergic to cats and ur girlfriend brings home a cat it's like ugh, WTF? But I am a cat person. It's just who I am. By some fluke I meet this guy 2.5 months after loosing my cat. But that does not mean I will not own another cat again. I'm just going through a temporary catless moment while I come to terms with loosing my best friend. I am still a cat person and will always be. To be with me and expect me not to have cats is to expect me not to be myself. Point Final. He'll just have to accept that you are a cat person and while you may not always have one or more cats at any given time, there is going to be a time where you will have a cat.
Even if it ends up not being that guy you're seeing now, any future guys will just have to be okay with it. You're not gonna change your animal preference for a relationship that has a chance of not working out. Now if you were having a kid I'd probably be on the other side of this but you're not so irrelevant.
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Posted: Sat Oct 20, 2012 10:52 pm
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2012 6:56 pm
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