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Posted: Mon Mar 11, 2013 8:07 am
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soren_alenko Little-Lenah Question.
Why are you doing this to yourself if it obviously only brings you grief? Because hopefully I won't find it so gross/repelling/etc. after enough times (had similar feeling about just regular doing it and such, and I got over that), and I want to make him happy.
But he isn't respecting your boundaries.
I know you want to make him happy, but you shouldn't do it at the cost of your own happiness. If he truly respects you, he would be happy that you've done so much for him, and not push you to further try blowjobs when you find it so repulsive.
If his exes gave him lots of blowjobs, it doesn't matter. If he's played the "My exes did it, and so should you" card, that is lowly, and rude, and disrespectful to say the least. You are your own person. You have your preferences towards sex. And you need to state that to him clearly.
There is nothing wrong with hating blowjobs. You tried. You tried again. You tried several different ways of doing it. And you still did not like it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
From experience I know that if you do something you don't like, and you continue to do it even though you don't like it, you'll continually have a negative experience. If you keep forcing yourself to give him blowjobs, you won't miraculously have a positive experience out of all the negative ones.
If you're dead set on trying to like blowjobs, then step away from giving them for a while. You need to come to terms with yourself and your dislike before attempting it again. And when you finally do feel ready to give him a b*****b, then it has to be on your terms. He can't just do whatever he thinks feels good, or else you're back to square one. You need to be the one in control. I cannot stress this enough.
And if he continues to disrespect you, you need to take action before disrespect becomes abuse.
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Posted: Mon Mar 18, 2013 3:35 pm
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Posted: Thu Apr 11, 2013 9:31 am
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Posted: Sat May 25, 2013 7:12 pm
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Posted: Wed Jun 05, 2013 6:00 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 05, 2013 3:33 pm
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I think we can do anything if we truly want to do it.
I don't speak of much experience, since I've only given a b*****b once, but I had no problems with it. I really thought it would be nasty and "OMG what am i putting in my mouth!?", but for me, knowing that I could bring my boyfriend pleasure made it all worth it. (And I didn't even register a taste, or mabye he's got very good hygien? ;3)
My point is that if you want to do something for another person, you're most likely to be able to do it. I HATE olives. My bf loves them. He's asked me to try them several times, and so I've did. (Oh my, they are nasty little fellas!) I still don't like them particulary, but I can eat them. Because he kindly asks me to.
So I'm asking you - do you, REALLY, want to give your boyfriend a b*****b? If you let your heart speak the purest truth, could you tell yourself that this is what you want? Because to me, it sounds like you are being forced, rather than doing it willingly.
Mabye you think you want to please your beloved, but deep down inside you just can't give blowjobs, and therefore they're disguisting. Therefore you fail at enjoying it.
I might be wrong, but search your feelings! And if you do find that blowjobs isn't something for you, than your guy must accept that, or you have to leave him.
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Posted: Mon Jul 28, 2014 10:31 pm
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soren_alenko Ok, so the boyfriend likes receiving blowjobs. I hate giving them. Or rather, they make me very uncomfortable, it taste awful, it freaks me out, it smells bad, the possibility of him going in my mouth disgusts me, and I personally find it demeaning (I'm not saying that it is, that's just how they make me feel). But he really likes them, and I feel horrible for not being able to bring myself to do it for him. To make me feel worse, I know that his first sexual experience was a BJ, and that his previous girlfriends gave them to him frequently. I've tried easing myself into them, but it hasn't worked. I want to make him happy, but as I've said before, this is something that deeply bothers me. He says that if I don't want to I don't have to (although he really wouldn't mind if I did want to as he has pointed out), but I can't help but feel that this really bothers him. How can I get over this? DO NOT DO ANYTHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO. now, if you just hate them, then go on hating them i guess. if he never gives you oral-genital sex, then you don't have to ever give it to him. ever. unless he gives it to you, there is no reason to give it to him since you don't like giving it. now, if he drinks fruit juice even just a few hours before it may help the taste. also, you can (and prob should) use an oral condom. also, giving/recieving head is supposed to be enjoyed by all parties. if you don't think you can ever enjoy giving head, then just DON'T DO IT. youre his lover so its not like hes paying you.
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Posted: Thu Oct 02, 2014 11:12 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 28, 2014 2:19 pm
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