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Long story short:

Current girlfriend has a long history of unfaithfulness. I've defended her for months, because I trust her. Against all logic, I trust her. and she's told me that she really is trying hard to be faithful to me, and she knows I'm paranoid as it is in general about everything, without having to deal with living a city away from her, and knowing her history, and her having all guy friends.

I found out she lied to me about where she was yesterday, and was in fac talone, at her house, with a guy she used to sleep with. I flipped my s**t, and went after her about it. I didn't yell or anything, but I made the accusations. Mainly because this is NOT the first time she has been al lalone with this guy and had me say something about it.

She now isn't talking to me tonight. I just feel like I made an a** out of myself because I acted impatiently in anger. I honestly don't know what to do, because well...I really do feel like I drew a logical conclusion, though I know my approach was bad, but...she refuses to think I might have had a reason for acting how I did, and honestly, there wasn't one. I was impatient as hell.

any females out there got some advice for me? Or just wise males? ><

You better apologize to her with your d**k in a box.

I suggest couples counseling. If she's burnt that bridge for you you're a real special guy to her, but a lot of small feelings are going to snowball if you two don't learn how to be a healthy couple.

When in doubt, apologize.

Apologizing is all you can do, but the truth is from what I see you're trying to save the relationship and be civil. She then gets irritated and feels the need to lash out at you, the person that's giving her an open window to not be labeled "cheater" like she has been. There's only so much stress and childish behavior you can deal with, let alone put up with. Maybe it's time to let this one go.

Okay so she was spending time with a dude she used to sleep with. You have every right to be upset, and being as you were may not have been the correct thing to do, but it was... honestly what human beings do. You don't know what's going on, It's cool. We assume the worst in those kinds of situations. All in all it just needs time to blow over, but I have to be Brase about this and give you the run down and put in that extra effort to let you know I give a damn. <3

Some people don't take the little extra effort to tell themselves "If I were in his/her shoes, how would I feel?" Others do, and are ignorant about it. I believe it needs time and as others have suggested maybe a little chat to be civil about things. Everything should cool down, just don't beat yourself up for getting angry especially if she's done it before. She's probably trying to do better, and trying the best is all you can really ask for. Hey, the more you know about each other the better in my opinion. Could lead to better things... on the other hand...

I don't mean to be a silly sally but one large reason why I would suggest not just apologizing is because it could make her think she can just do it again. It might sound messed up, but a lot of people take advantage of kindness, and that's something that if you know she will, you just shouldn't put up with it and maybe just walk away sadly. I know you're that kind of person who is just in general kind, and for that you need someone who won't abuse your kindness. Bottom line: only you know in your heart when you should just walk away, but if you believe it's worth fighting for, than pick up arms.

Gotta be a man and brave it sometimes. Give it a smile and an extra inch yo... Go wrestle a bear, come back alive. Or be the bear... like a young Nicolas Cage. Kind like a... like a young Terry Crews! Whatever you decide, I wish you good luck. 3nodding

She just dumped me over the phone. Told me she needs to "get some things out of her system" and that she loves me, and if I give her couplfe of month-

I cut her off there. Told her there was no going back. If I was not as important as her partying, nympho lifestyle is now, I will nto be later, and that once this kind of trust is broken, it is not something you ever get back. She didn't see mt ocare all THAT much. What the ******** ever.

I just remembered: This is why I hate everything ><

*shrug* Give me three days, I'll be fine. for now, I want Belegarth more than I ever have..and I can't have that. I gave up my connection to that.for Melissa, actually. I ruined so much of my own personal life for this relationship...

Oh well. Decisions were made. Outcomes were reached. I can only move forward from here

Nah man, she can have her time. If in a week she gives me a call and wants to try again, I might think about it. Right before I deny it. Trust has been broken so many times now, I don't think she wants what she thinks she wants, or knows what she's thinking. She can live her life, I'll live mine. If she wants to have me as a friend in the future, I can do that