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 Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 5:05 pm
Ok so I had a dream where I had sex with some1 I used to like, I told my bf because it made me feel guilty, he is acussing me of still liking that person, and thinking about them, jw how many people think that is fair, or just give your opinions.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 6:52 pm
I think it depends on what exactly made you feel guilty. And how you feel about him outside of the dream.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 6:59 pm
The dream itself made me feel guilty because I have a bf, but at least a day or so before the guy who I had the dream about I swear was staring at me in class, the next day after I had the dream he talked to me, only to find out a page #, I used to like him Freshman year, I'm now next year going to be a senior, he is graduating this year, but idk i guess I still somewhat liked him but I honestly don't know why I dreamed about him when I already gave up caring about his opinion and if he liked me or not. And up until today I swear he still looked at me >.< creeps me out a lil.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 7:03 pm
I find it unfair because you told him about it and thats a really embarrassing thing to talk about with your boyfriend. If your going to be honest and tell him about something like that then yes unfair.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 7:06 pm
I think.. you should of probably kept it to yourself. Just because you have a sex dream about someone doesn't always mean anything so you didn't have anything to feel guilty for. As for your bf, he needs to chill out & understand that you can't control what you dream about.
If you're really over him & don't care about his opinions.. you should probably be a little more mature about the fact that he looked at you. It's just looking.. its not like he ran up and groped you.. if he did that, THEN you should be creeped out.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 8:02 pm
I agree with Lady Kira X about the part about him looking at you.
If I had a gf that told me about how they had a dream like that I wouldn't mind that much as long as I knew how they felt about the guy and stuff. I would talk it out with her because there is no point of getting upset if you don't know everything to it.
You can't control what you dream about like Lady Kira X said and he shouldn't have a problem with it from what you said. If you told him everything then he should be chill about it. He should be thankful for the way you feel and trust you even more since you told him and was mature about it.
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:34 pm
Well no one likes to hear that their lover is fantasizing about another man. So its reasonable that they're upset. He'll probably get over it though, its just jealousy and as long as you don't keep having these sex nightmares...
Heh... sex nightmares
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Posted: Tue Jun 14, 2011 10:36 pm
You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep...
Yeah, that isn't fair. It's considered normal by psychologists that people have dreams of intimate relationships with closely related family members. Having sexual dreams of anyone, people that you simply just know, isn't necessarily an indicator that you like them. It just means you had a dream where you had sex with them. You can't really control what goes on in your dream. You can (obviously) control what you consciously act on. He has no right getting angry at you if you haven't made some kind of suggestive gesture to this person in real life. He just sounds a little jealous.
...because reality is finally better than your dreams...
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Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 5:20 am
I have had dreams like this before but different people only like 2 or 3 other times, but his argument everytime will be that you can control your dreams, so since he thinks that, that is why he over reacts, and he does get jealous very easily, he hates any other guy touching me, I should make him learn how to relax.
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Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 6:25 am
Firstly, he needs to freaking relax. IF you really wanted to have sex with this other guy and liked him, you probably wouldn't still be with him (or even tell him about the dream in the first place)
Secondly, that fact that you TOLD HIM instead of keeping it to yourself shows a trust that he shouldn't get pissed about...
However, thirdly, put yourself in his shoes. If he said that he had a dream about having sex with another girl, how would you feel?
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Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2011 8:59 am
it would make me sad, but since I trust him I know it would never happen and he should know the same
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 3:58 pm
gemo_2007 I have had dreams like this before but different people only like 2 or 3 other times, but his argument everytime will be that you can control your dreams, so since he thinks that, that is why he over reacts, and he does get jealous very easily, he hates any other guy touching me, I should make him learn how to relax.
Wow, controlling your dreams is called lucid dreaming, and it is VERY difficult to do. Most of the time, you are just passively viewing the events in your dreams and have no control over them.
...because reality is finally better than your dreams...
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:04 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:24 pm
Well you did everything right (or it sounds like it from here). You had a dream, you openly shared it with your boyfriend- no secrets. He's just a little jealous, maybe insecure. Let him steam for a bit. If he doesnt get over it in less than a week, talk to him about it to assure it means nothing, etc.
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Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2011 5:24 am
smile your right. It also kind of annoys me when he gats that way because we have been going out for almost 6 months now and to me it feels like he should know that I don't like anyone else, I really don't. I hope he gets better at not getting jealous so easily and sometimes he is a little insecure. If I ever get the chance I will prove to him that I'm not going anywhere ^_^
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