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 Posted: Sun Feb 06, 2011 11:44 pm
Okay so I can't remember what we were talking about but I remarked to my friends that I'd rather have been a boy. Not in the sense of 'I feel like a boy, my gender is wrong, I feel wrong in my own body' transsexual kinda way, but just in a casual I think it would have been easier to be male.
Not that there's anything wrong with being female. Or that I'm saying guys have it easy.
But hey, if I was the first-born son, I would have inherited some of my grandpa's land. As it stands, my brother got it and I got nothing. I have to say, I was offended from a women's right sort of perspective, though emotionally not particularly bothered.
I think I would have been treated better by my father. He and my brother have all these guy bonding moments. And I don't think my relationship with my mother would have changed because she dotes on my brother as her little momma's boy.
I think life in general would have been easier perhaps. My mum still gets wary when I go out by myself, but my brother's been cycling everywhere alone or with his friends since a very young age. My mum blames it on the fact that as a girl, I have an increased risk to things.
Then it's little things like...not really having to care about what I look like when I leave the house. Or how I dress. Yes, I could do these things as a girl, but somehow I don't because it feels wrong to me and I don't feel comfortable when I don't look good in public.
Oh and the number of times I've been called heartless or emotionless because I'm less emotional than most girls. I don't think I'd have gotten that as an insult if I were a guy.
Who wouldn't want to be physically stronger? I used to be a competitive swimmer, I'm no stranger to exercise, but my brother who is a lazy couch potato can run laps around me. It's not like this is holding me back or anything, but still.
And well once a month, I think we all have that feeling...
I know I'm just playing off stereotypes. I know guys don't have easy lives, and I know don't have a terrible life as a girl (it could be significantly and exponentially worse).
So, contrast this for me, is there an advantage to being female?
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Posted: Sun Feb 06, 2011 11:56 pm
Free drinks at bars if you go out wearing a tight enough shirt.
.. really, getting s**t from men who think they can have sex with you is probably it.
And that's not even worth it because then you're using them or leading them on! :c
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 8:27 am
I agree with you almost completely.
Er, for arguments sake...Sexual dimorphism in great apes such as chimps or orangutans is said to benefit the female just as much as the male as females have supposedly adapted to not being able to get enough food due to their typical low-status in the group. Also, if there's some kind of natural disaster, the females are more likely to live because they do not need as many sources...(But at the same time, wouldn't the males be able to get the sources easier and fight off any competitors)?
I really dunno, we discussed it in my anthropology course.
PS: also human females live longer.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 8:41 am
Being a woman isn't so bad. At least not anymore.
Hell, we got off the Titanic first.
And the ever important fact that we have less vulnerable genitalia.
Women typically have a longer lifespan than a man.
Condoms usually don't make a huge significant difference in how much we enjoy sex (if we enjoy penetration at all, that is).
Also, we can orgasm more than once and still want more. Men are usually spent after the first go.
We're also immune to drafts (for now, at least).
Some social benefits:
We can be openly emotional. If we cry in public, we're not ridiculed.
We are versatile, we can wear basically any and all clothes without looking silly (unless the clothes themselves look silly). Guys, however, look silly in our clothes.
When we buy a vibrator, we can tell our friends without being embarrassed.
We can hug our girl friends and ever kiss their cheeks without having people wonder if we're gay. Hell, we can even hold their hand and it's normal.
If we get a pimple, we can conceal it without risking people thinking we're weird.
Gay people don't typically make us uncomfortable.
Plus many more.
Of course, these benefits differ from person to person, but they're pretty general.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 8:58 am
Female fashion is more diverse than male fashion.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 9:47 am
Yeah I don't know if I consider these advantages.
The manipulation one of getting guys to buy you stuff and whatever, that's not exclusively female, it goes both ways. Plus, that's cruel like you said.
Streets the anthropology stuff is really fascinating, but I guess not entirely relevant to human beings in the developed world.
Living longer in general might be kinda cool but I don't think the difference is substantial enough to be that cool. Besides, I think I'd rather be the one who died first than have to outlive the people I loved.
Multiple orgasms is pretty sweet. I can't fault that one.
And I don't think we should be immune to drafts, but I also don't think there should be drafts at all.
And oh god I hate the openly emotional crap. I am so thoroughly unemotional in public. I also feel completely helpless if someone else is being emotional in public. But I guess it's nice that we have the choice to be emotional, so yeah I'll give you this one.
Versatility of clothes is quite nice but again, that comes with the flip side of added pressure to look good. Possibly worth it? I don't mind it, but I don't think I'd mind if I was a guy either.
Not having to worry about being gay...yeah, doesn't work for me, when people find out I'm bi, some people get a bit wary. Lame.
And gay people shouldn't make anyone uncomfortable anyway.
So yeah, that's what, 2 1/2 advantages?
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 10:08 am
Women have the fantastic ability to overthink and dwell!
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 10:30 am
Sort of a win/lose thing, I feel women have ... more feelings.
Of course if you're feeling an awesome feeling it's like ******** YEAH but once you get a shitty emotion going on you feel like dying.
CAN NOT WIN.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 11:39 am
Well, women typically live longer, but have higher incidents of chronic illness. The ol' phrase goes, "Men die quicker, but women get sicker."
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 12:14 pm
As long as we are talking about stereotypes ... you get to decide when/how often to have sex in a relationship. Chivalry, guys open doors for you, pay for your food. You can use your period as an excuse for almost anything. Childcare/maternity benefits (at least in the U.S.) that men don't get.
I'm not sure it would be easier to be male. They have a lot of social restrictions too, probably as many as women.
But the way I see it, ******** social expectations. I will wear as little or much makeup as I desire and cry as much or as little as I want to and I don't really care for anyone who expects me to behave differently. I know I sound terribly idealistic and the world doesn't always work this way but if we don't challenge standards like this then nothing will ever change.
/cue someone coming in calling me a feminazi
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 1:17 pm
If you were a guy you wouldn't be considered unattractive if you didn't shave/wax your legs, armpits, pubes, or eyebrows all the freaking time.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 1:18 pm
I mean, most modern cultures are patriarchal, so most of the clear advantages would go to men. And even though women typically get away with more things (being emotional in public is the biggest thing that comes to mind, but I'll think of more), it all stems from the belief that women are inherently weaker than men, and therefore most of society has lower expectations of us. Though probably one of the biggest advantages is maternity leave, though I believe France (and maybe more countries) are implementing paternity leave.
Biologically, there really isn't an advantage either way- though females are expected to be more selective with sexual partners because they have the responsibility of carrying children. I'm not sure if that's exactly an advantage, though.
Lol I just got out of my Gender and Sex Roles class, so I've been thinking about this.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 1:39 pm
I don't know. Some women have this emotional and mental hold over me at times that so engrosses me, it's hard to focus on anything else. I call that a huge advantage against me.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 1:50 pm
Undecidability I mean, most modern cultures are patriarchal, so most of the clear advantages would go to men. And even though women typically get away with more things (being emotional in public is the biggest thing that comes to mind, but I'll think of more), it all stems from the belief that women are inherently weaker than men, and therefore most of society has lower expectations of us. Though probably one of the biggest advantages is maternity leave, though I believe France (and maybe more countries) are implementing paternity leave.
Biologically, there really isn't an advantage either way- though females are expected to be more selective with sexual partners because they have the responsibility of carrying children. I'm not sure if that's exactly an advantage, though.
Lol I just got out of my Gender and Sex Roles class, so I've been thinking about this. Yeah I think one of the major advantages of being a women is the family-related stuff, including children. Starting with maternity leave. Right now in the UK they're drawing up plans to allow parents to share parental leave (so if there's 6 months total, the woman can choose to take 2 months, the father takes 4 or the father takes it all or any combination really). I think that's a good step towards correcting what has been pretty unequal, and it's advantageous to parents in general because different people have different situations which differing paternal leave could help. But yeah, right now, I think men are entitled to 2 weeks whereas women are allowed up to a year. It's easier to gain custody of children as a woman. Men have to pay child support, regardless of their say or stake in the child's welfare. e.g. a woman is allowed to get an abortion, but a man cannot opt out of child support if he didn't want to 'keep' the baby so to speak. Also men pay alimony but I think it's extremely rare for a woman to pay alimony to an ex-spouse, regardless of their income. So I suppose these are 'advantages' to being a woman, currently, although I really hope I'd never have to use my gender as an advantageous bidding chip as it were, in a scenario like this.
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Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 2:57 pm
Darling Kei Condoms usually don't make a huge significant difference in how much we enjoy sex (if we enjoy penetration at all, that is). Keep telling yourself that.
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