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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 4:51 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 6:20 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 6:23 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 6:37 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 7:52 pm
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I feel a little disrespected when my kids use my name. I know they don't mean disrespect, but the way I was raised was to not address my parents by their names.
I mostly look at it this way though. There are only 2 people in the world who have the right to address me as Mother, and I take pride in having them call me Mom and be proud of it. Anyone can call me Heather, but my children are the only ones who can call me Mom and it mean EVERYTHING that it can mean. Your husband may feel the same way. It is more than just a title.
Of course at your daughter's age, she is just picking things up as she hears them. I have a friend whose husband always calls her Honey. So when her son was 2, and heard Daddy calling Mommy 'Honey', of course he started calling Mom 'Honey' too. The boy is 10 now, and he still calls her 'Honey". LOL.... She gets allot of strange looks in the grocery store.
I am sure your husband probably realizes that she doesn't mean any harm or disrespect, or whatever, but he probably doesn't want his 10 year old daughter calling him by his name either. Your husband, being the way that you describe him as, probably has a genuine respect for the relationship a parent and child have, and he probably would like to see his daughter own that when she is older.
Let's face it. Most people, when they see an older kid addressing their parent by name see it as an act of disrespect, even if you don't see it that way, and sometimes the way other people perceive your relationship with your children can eventually affect the reality of that relationship. So, I wouldn't think of it as an unhealthy concern on the part of your husband.
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 8:00 pm
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Posted: Tue Jan 18, 2011 10:42 pm
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Aakosir So I was thinking about this today. And I'm starting to think that I do that too much, the whole thinking thing. But anyways. My husband really does not like when our daughter calls him by his name instead of Daddy. I am really curious why he gets so upset. But then again, I don't have the issue with her calling me by my name instead of Mommy.
But if you were/are a father, would you be/are you upset if/when this happens? Through the young ages? No. I went through phases like that among other kids. It's just a little point in your early life where you have discovered a new name for your parents and you want to use it. It's no big deal. However, I would have a problem with teenagers doing it. Teenagers don't do it for the curiosity or the discovery, but more of the rebellious reason behind it. It's mostly used by my kind to spite their parents for whatever reason, a verbal act of disowning them and making them from parents to adults living with them. Some adults can fully think what I last said, and it eats away at them. However, if she is a young girl, I wouldn't worry about it.
Now, if I was the father, it would all depend on her age how I would react.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 1:45 pm
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Captain_Shinzo Aakosir So I was thinking about this today. And I'm starting to think that I do that too much, the whole thinking thing. But anyways. My husband really does not like when our daughter calls him by his name instead of Daddy. I am really curious why he gets so upset. But then again, I don't have the issue with her calling me by my name instead of Mommy.
But if you were/are a father, would you be/are you upset if/when this happens? Through the young ages? No. I went through phases like that among other kids. It's just a little point in your early life where you have discovered a new name for your parents and you want to use it. It's no big deal. However, I would have a problem with teenagers doing it. Teenagers don't do it for the curiosity or the discovery, but more of the rebellious reason behind it. It's mostly used by my kind to spite their parents for whatever reason, a verbal act of disowning them and making them from parents to adults living with them. Some adults can fully think what I last said, and it eats away at them. However, if she is a young girl, I wouldn't worry about it. Now, if I was the father, it would all depend on her age how I would react.
I would probably slap her if she called us by our names as a teen. I would see that as disrespect.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 2:50 pm
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Aakosir Captain_Shinzo Aakosir So I was thinking about this today. And I'm starting to think that I do that too much, the whole thinking thing. But anyways. My husband really does not like when our daughter calls him by his name instead of Daddy. I am really curious why he gets so upset. But then again, I don't have the issue with her calling me by my name instead of Mommy.
But if you were/are a father, would you be/are you upset if/when this happens? Through the young ages? No. I went through phases like that among other kids. It's just a little point in your early life where you have discovered a new name for your parents and you want to use it. It's no big deal. However, I would have a problem with teenagers doing it. Teenagers don't do it for the curiosity or the discovery, but more of the rebellious reason behind it. It's mostly used by my kind to spite their parents for whatever reason, a verbal act of disowning them and making them from parents to adults living with them. Some adults can fully think what I last said, and it eats away at them. However, if she is a young girl, I wouldn't worry about it. Now, if I was the father, it would all depend on her age how I would react. I would probably slap her if she called us by our names as a teen. I would see that as disrespect. That is exactly my point. However, she's obviously a kid? If that's the case, this is nothing new. She will go back to calling you guys "mommy" and "daddy" by the end of this little name period.
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Posted: Wed Jan 19, 2011 6:40 pm
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:20 am
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Captain_Shinzo Aakosir Captain_Shinzo Aakosir So I was thinking about this today. And I'm starting to think that I do that too much, the whole thinking thing. But anyways. My husband really does not like when our daughter calls him by his name instead of Daddy. I am really curious why he gets so upset. But then again, I don't have the issue with her calling me by my name instead of Mommy.
But if you were/are a father, would you be/are you upset if/when this happens? Through the young ages? No. I went through phases like that among other kids. It's just a little point in your early life where you have discovered a new name for your parents and you want to use it. It's no big deal. However, I would have a problem with teenagers doing it. Teenagers don't do it for the curiosity or the discovery, but more of the rebellious reason behind it. It's mostly used by my kind to spite their parents for whatever reason, a verbal act of disowning them and making them from parents to adults living with them. Some adults can fully think what I last said, and it eats away at them. However, if she is a young girl, I wouldn't worry about it. Now, if I was the father, it would all depend on her age how I would react. I would probably slap her if she called us by our names as a teen. I would see that as disrespect.That is exactly my point. However, she's obviously a kid? If that's the case, this is nothing new. She will go back to calling you guys "mommy" and "daddy" by the end of this little name period.
Yup. It will just take her a little bit.
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:24 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 9:29 am
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Posted: Thu Jan 20, 2011 1:53 pm
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