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 Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 9:25 pm
I think everyone who is pro-life(or pro-choice if you want) should adopt at least one child. I'm not saying go out and adopt if you don't have the resources or a good stable relationship with your current or future spouse, but if you are able and want children there are so many that need homes. If you can its best to adopt those that have a harder time being adopted out, ethinically mixed children or children with disabilities. Being pro-life is more than just voting down abortion or making more laws to get parental consent laws, it comes down to what you do in your life individually. Personally I plan to adopt at least three children and possibly more. Things to disscuss, were you planning on adopting a child eventually? The importance of applying our pro-life views to our lives. If more people adopt and there is less children waiting in foster care/group homes will the pro-choice side have less to complain about?
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 10:03 pm
I don't know if I'm going to adopt...if I want children, may have to...but I might not have to. I really don't know what I'm going to do as far as how I'm going to be a mom.
Truth be told, pregnancy always made me squeemish. Yes I know it's only nine months compared to a life of being a mother. But still. I saw that "Miracle of Life" video and as awesome as the movie is...that scene where the kid is actually being born just totally scared the poop out of me. If labor is as painful as it looks....gah! Seriously...I was freaking terrified and I went home swearing that I was going to adopt my kids. No way was I going to go through that unless I actually became pregnant. I know it's not the best reason in the world to adopt but I guess it's relevent...and it was a big factor in getting me to consider it in the first place.
As it is, for all I know, it may be impossible for me to get pregnant. I don't exactly have the greatest relationship with my reproductive system. razz If that were the case, heck yeah I'll adopt! Just because I can't bear children doesn't mean I don't want to be a mom.
But I understand that there is a certain appeal to raising your own kids that you and your partner helped create. I wouldn't really hold it against a parent for raising their own kids and not adopting. As far as I'm concerned, they've already shown how prolife they are by not aborting.
That being said...I have no idea what I personally am going to do. That's between me and my boyfriend to talk about (if we ever get married) since he'd have to raise them too. But I don't think adopting children is a sign that one is more or less prolife than the woman who decides to keep her baby (assuming that they are both prolife activists since there are prochoice people who have their own children, adopted or not, as well). I'd think that would be a prime example of applying prolife views in your life.
Out of curiosity, are single people allowed to adopt or is that something I've only seen in movies?
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 10:09 pm
It depends where you live if they allow single people to adopt. I know for example in Utah only married couples can adopt, but I think in most other states single people are allowed to adopt, most just choose not to.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 8:21 am
Well, as a gay male, I have, mostly, a choice only to adopt.
Actually, one gay friend of mine told me that he wanted a child that was of his blood, and didn't want to adopt-- And I suppose that would be nice.
But I just... I think of those kids, and the lives they could have. They need all the love they can. And if I were to just... have a baby manually, I would feel selfish. It would fulfill some of those emotional needs, of course, but it just... would feel all wrong to me.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 8:55 am
*sigh* I think its an oxymoron to be pro-life...and yet not want kids. I seriously don't want kids. If I get my wife pregnant, then yes, I'll raise it and love it and want it, because its mine. But right now, the very thoguht of having kids freaks me out.
But, if I do have a kid, I want it to be a girl. I don't knwo why...and it seems weird for a guy to want a daughter...but I just do. My mind works in curious ways.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 2:52 pm
I'm considering adopting. I don't know when or if it will be more than one child, but I would like to do it.
I don't know that I agree that a pro-life person should adopt though. You should adopt if you want to and if you're going to love the child. A point of view shouldn't obligate you to actions that agree with that point of view, if that makes sense. I do think being pro-life means at least considering it, but if adopting isn't what a person is meant to do, then they shouldn't be expected to that.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2005 5:44 pm
I'm fairly positive that unless I gain gobs of money, I won't be allowed to adopt in this country because of my medication history, which includes IV medication.
The problem these kids have in getting adopted isn't a lack of adoptive parents.
It's a lack of common sense on the part of adoption agencies. You can't adopt kids who aren't your race. At least, not around here. If you want to, you need to go out of the country to adopt, which is what a lot of parents do.
If you own large dogs, if you've got a history of medication (even legal medication), if you're single, if you work in certain places, you aren't allowed to adopt. A lot depends on the agency I guess, but the problem is not lack of want. It's lack of allowance.
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2005 9:15 pm
I should restate what I said before, If you are planning on having kids then it would be a very good idea to adopt at least one.
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Posted: Fri Dec 02, 2005 3:49 pm
I'm thinking of maybe adopting someday, not any time soon though. When i'm married, i'm not sure if we will plan on having kids or not ( not that I won't love and care for my child if I do get pregnant, just doesn't mean that their planned or not) but if we do want kids ( saying if I ever get married, i'm single right now) then that would be nice. I want to adopt a kid from a another country. Like a baby girl from China or someone from Thailand or some other country.
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