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I have heard time and time again the speech that "You cannot like both sexes. You can only like one, and you will figure out which one it is eventually."

There are many people who do not accept bisexuality as a true orientation. They think that bisexuals are just confused and have not figured out whether they are truely gay or not yet, or they are just experimenting.

In my opinion, I am bisexual, and sure, it may change, because I am at a young age. But I know some woman and men who are in their 20s and 30s and are still dating, and still consider themselves bisexual.

Discuss:
- Is bisexuality a true orientation? Or are bisexuals just confused?

(PS: Kids, I got permission from Desirable Ai, but she said that if there's already another thread like it, feel free to lock this one)

i think that it is (given that i am also) and i cant help but have feelings both ways so if someone were to come up to me and say that it wasnt real then i think either a they just cant accept truth or cant comprehend it. there have even been documents writen that says that every ones bisexual and that those who swing more to one way do so but no one is completly one way or the other they just dont act on there feeling torward the same gender or they cant accept themselves

I agree that is lack of understanding.
I concider myself bi, and I'm in a relationship with a guy, and have been for about two years now. I plan to marry him sometime within the next three or so years(I'm 18 ) and still find myself attracted to females. Infact I have a huge crush on this girl who's four years older than me, and my boyfriend knows it as she is one of our friends. Unfortunatly for me, my hunny is not into sharring me with anyone else. I've tried. So even though I do love him, I'm still capable of liking, or loving, other girls even though I don't plan on leaving him.

I notice that it's only bi-sexuals posting in this thread so far, so I get to be the first different one. whee

I do believe that "bisexual" is an orientation. I have friends that are such and a girlfriend that is one too. However, the term "bisexual" is being used a lot and is to the point where it's being considered a fad. I think this is why some people consider those that claim to be bisexual confused. Also, as others stated in a previous posts, those that say it are usually are closed minded or can't understand because they have only ever liked on gender.

This doesn't mean that I personally don't think some people are confused when they claim bisexuality (because honestly, and this is my opinion, I don't think you can be dead certain of your sexuality until mid-teens or later). I just think that bisexual is a valid orientation. 3nodding

When I was growing up i never heard of the term bisexual till I think I was like 16. I was always really confused about my sexual orientation. I new I liked guys, but I also found some of my friends very attractive that were female. I remember that my friend Brittany moved away and mailed everyone letters that she was a lesbian and that made me so happy because I though I could relate. Then she mailed everyone back saying that she was joking because she wanted to see everyones reactions. sad But anyways so yeah I was really confused, I lived in a small town where it was not really accepted to be gay, lesbian, bi, pan, or trans. And everything was put on the extremes, you were either a lesbian or striaght. So I believe that there is such thing as bi, because with out even knowing the term when I was younger I knew I did not fit in to the classic lesbian/straight mold.

ok ..im BI and im just gonna say it plain and simple ok ...u cant like both of them equally...u either like one more or thats it no if and or buts about it..and u cant say no i like them both the same cuz its bull u always feel more attracted to one more than the other who ever says anything else is in total denial or they gettin that ill sex....like most BI's only like the side that they like least just for sex when it all comes down 2 it its bout sex..who gives better satisfaction who u got the most cravings 4 but then sometimes u just want the other like eating ice cream in the winter u know its way!! to damn cold to eat it but then one day u get the ill craving that u have 2 have some...so u get some just as simple as that..there no such thing as not able in liking both..because if u think of it alot of things u like more of..once again with the ice cream lets say u love chocolate..but that doesnt mean once in a while u dont want strawberry either...anyways my point is that since now a days everyone is BI u cant say if they are confusse or not cuz honestly i have alot of friends that think thier BI when they really in a phase but some ppl honestly are BI and thats just the way it is.

I myself am bisexual. I have been so for many years, so yes, it is true. And I'm pretty certian I'm not going to change to prefure only one.

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Now, to my story. I have two best friends, one is also bi, but the other one HATES gays, bis, everyone not stright. We know we can never tell over friend, he would hate us. But at the same time it feels like I am lieing to my best friend.
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I've heard the theory before, and I think it's valid and logical. But then, I guess the fact that I identify as pansexual myself makes it that much more believable to me.

It's hard to say--a lot of people don't believe in bisexuality because they don't understand feeling things for both sexes. Similarly, because we have attractions to both sexes, we may apply those feelings to others and characterize them with "attractions" that they don't have. It's an empathy thing, I guess.