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Quick question. I understand why you'd tell your doctor you thought you were pregnant, so that she/he could test you and let you know for certain. I understand why you'd tell your boyfriend, who impregnated you, because it's his child too, and he might have some input, and he certainly has some responsibility in the situation. I understand telling your parents, since this will affect their lives as they live with you and will probably be seeing a pretty big impact on family finances.

I'm not yet understanding why you needed to tell your rabbi. He'd notice soon enough when you started to show. Did you need his input on what to do? No, you said you'd already decided to keep the baby. Was he the father? No, you already told us who the father was. Is your rabbi also your own father? No, or you'd have said "I think I need to tell my father, and for bonus fun, he's also my rabbi."

Basically you just wanted to give him a chance to judge you. Why?

First of all, you're expecting so Mazel Tov!!!


Secondly, 70- 90% of communication or so, as statistics vary, is noverbal so I couldn't say exactly how the conversation went without the undertones. Seemed to go fine, though.

EDIT: Oh, yeah, and I see nothing weird about seeking spiritual guidance from a rabbi at such a time.

Thanks a lot! A sheynem dank! Well, I've known my rabbi for all of my life, so he IS like a father to me.

Secondly, I ask my rabbi about a lot of things, he's good at giving me advice and helping me tell from right and wrong. I love him as I love my brothers. He's pretty much my family.

He's called me in again today, and he said that he was happy for me and that G-d does what He means to do, so the baby must have happened for a reason that only He knows, right?

That part was left out of the original post. The original post read something like "I told him, he didn't say anything useful." Now that we know that you weren't just saying something, but asking something, it does make sense. Now that we know he actually said useful things, it makes more sense yet. Good for you, for seeking advice from the wise people you know.

Lol, my little brothers were in their room thinking up names and giggling over Shlomo...They even made up names.

I haven't thought about Hebrew names yet...O.o

Well, I certainly won't be naming he/she Moyshe.

This can turn into a naming thing or something! biggrin

It is customary to name a baby either with the same name as a deceased relative or with a name strating with the same letter as the name of a deceased relative, I think.