We're eloping, so much so that we're literally signing the legal paperwork and then running off to a hot spring for a week. Cheap, stress-free, and fun. What more could I want?
Know this, I HATE being the center of attention. My face gets red and stays that way, I want to hide, and it doesn't matter what the reason for the attention is, all I want to do is get away. I could NOT be a bride walking down the isle.
Here's the problem. My friends flipped out at me for not holding a ceremony, they want to come to the paper signing even, which is only going to be a 2 minute thing, so I can't fathom why they'd want to travel for 4 hours, and come stand in the Service BC building next to use while we sign papers. I appeased them somewhat by planning a potluck at the end of June for close family and friends as a casual celebration, so I thought that was good enough.
BUT turns out it's not, because we're not saying vow's I'm getting more flack.
To me, saying vows in front of some creepy priest does nothing but empty my wallet and creep me out. ALL that would do is marry us in the eyes of some church or something. And frankly, I haven't cared what a church thought for a long, long time. We've been together for 4 years, and lived together for 3 of them. We're common-law in the eyes of the government and signing the paperwork will make us legally married instead. In the eyes of God, I'm told by someone else, we're already married through our commitment and devotion to one another. Sounds fine to me. I care what God thinks, but I do not care what a church thinks, especially when they think to tell me they know what God thinks.
I saw my co-worker freak out for a year planning her own wedding, and then it was over in a few hours but cost over $15,000. The dress itself was 5 thousand, and it gets worn ONCE! From what I understand there are far more expensive weddings taking place every day. It's not just that I've never wanted the whole bride experience, nor is it just that I can't bring myself to fork over 4X as much cash for napkins just because they came from a store labeled 'wedding accessories', or $100-$6,000 for a CAKE? I can make one myself and I'm pretty good at decorating too, damnit.
Just frustrated a bit that everyone wants us to get married the way they think it should be done, but they're forgetting one thing: I may not be wearing a white floofy dress and walking down an isle, but I'm still a bride by all technicality, and what the bride wants.... right?
Know this, I HATE being the center of attention. My face gets red and stays that way, I want to hide, and it doesn't matter what the reason for the attention is, all I want to do is get away. I could NOT be a bride walking down the isle.
Here's the problem. My friends flipped out at me for not holding a ceremony, they want to come to the paper signing even, which is only going to be a 2 minute thing, so I can't fathom why they'd want to travel for 4 hours, and come stand in the Service BC building next to use while we sign papers. I appeased them somewhat by planning a potluck at the end of June for close family and friends as a casual celebration, so I thought that was good enough.
BUT turns out it's not, because we're not saying vow's I'm getting more flack.
To me, saying vows in front of some creepy priest does nothing but empty my wallet and creep me out. ALL that would do is marry us in the eyes of some church or something. And frankly, I haven't cared what a church thought for a long, long time. We've been together for 4 years, and lived together for 3 of them. We're common-law in the eyes of the government and signing the paperwork will make us legally married instead. In the eyes of God, I'm told by someone else, we're already married through our commitment and devotion to one another. Sounds fine to me. I care what God thinks, but I do not care what a church thinks, especially when they think to tell me they know what God thinks.
I saw my co-worker freak out for a year planning her own wedding, and then it was over in a few hours but cost over $15,000. The dress itself was 5 thousand, and it gets worn ONCE! From what I understand there are far more expensive weddings taking place every day. It's not just that I've never wanted the whole bride experience, nor is it just that I can't bring myself to fork over 4X as much cash for napkins just because they came from a store labeled 'wedding accessories', or $100-$6,000 for a CAKE? I can make one myself and I'm pretty good at decorating too, damnit.
Just frustrated a bit that everyone wants us to get married the way they think it should be done, but they're forgetting one thing: I may not be wearing a white floofy dress and walking down an isle, but I'm still a bride by all technicality, and what the bride wants.... right?
