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 Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 4:17 pm
Squee has fallen for a boy again, oh dear...
A couple people call him an emo boy, and yeah, he listens to the music... But he doesn't really dress all that emo. He knows enough to stick to pants for his own gender, thank goodness. I can tell you right now he would -not- be able to pull that off.
He's really sweet, even though we don't talk all that much. Plus he can make me laugh, and we're into the same kinds of things... We're both artists...
Him looking the way he does doesn't hurt anything, either.
But he's already got a girlfriend. I'm not sure how long they've been dating, or how their relationship is going.
That doesn't mean that I can't try to further my status, though. That's my problem.
I am pretty much completely inept when it comes to this kind of thing with boys.
And, as much as I claim to be confident... I have -never- been asked out before. I have asked out eight boys, and have been rejected every time.
My only relationship was an online one of two months.
I hardly have good self-esteem when it comes to the field of dating.
Please don't give me that "Oh boys are gross and overrated, seriously, you're not missing much." D:
That's what everyone else gives me.
I'm looking for suggestions on how to tackle the shyness and conversation-starter problems, not pity.
So please, if you have any hints, ideas, advice... whatever, tell me.
I don't bite.
Plus I need to get to know some friendly faces in this place. ^^;
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 4:28 pm
Oh, emo boys, how I love them. heart xd I love it when guys where girl jeans. As long as they're really skinny, that is. I hope that didn't just make me sound really shallow.
I'm afraid I don't have much boy advice. Being homeschooled practically my whole life, I haven't gotten much chance to talk to boys. This one guy liked me once, but he was like, two years younger then me, and I didn't like him back.
If this love intrest of yours already has a girlfriend, you can't really ask him out or anything until he's single. So... you could wait. Or you could also just try to make friends with him (yeah, that's the best I have).
I don't really have any help on starting a conversation, I'm afraid. So really I'm competely worthless, except for in the friendly-faces area, but there's plenty of those in the PPS.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help, I hope someone else replies that can. xp
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 5:23 pm
Well....
boy advice may not be my expertise,
considering I have neither been asked out,
or asked anyone else...
But my friend Michelle has had 16 boyfriends in the past 4 years, so I think she'll know how to get a boyfriend.
She says that the best way to get to know someone is through MSN because you feel more comfortable being yourself, and that you should get to know him and be his friend until he breaks up with his girlfriend.
Well...
I'm not very helpful am I sweatdrop
But good luck!
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:30 pm
you sound like me.
i'm an awkward socialist.
i usually wait for people to approach me, so i don't know much about breaking the ice.
D;
we seem pretty useless thusfar.
oops.
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[heart attack] Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:36 pm
I don't think he's on the computer very much...
He only has one Myspace. And it says he hasn't been on since like, September 27th.
I guess I could ask him about that... Prod at him to get on and accept me or something...
Yeah, so it's not the best advice ever or majorly brilliant ideas, but thank you all anyway. xD It's nice to have a guild where I don't know anyone IRL to stalk my problems and try to help and end up making it worse. <3
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:37 pm
Just try to casually talk to him.
You technically can't go out with him if you don't feel comfortable around him.
So befriend him, make sure that he enjoys your presence.
But with him having a girlfriend, you're going to kinda have to wait on that one, sorry lol.
But maybe it'll break off soon, and you can try.
But in the mean time, get comfortable around him,
just talk, relax.
Don't necessarily think about him like an intimidating guy that you like,
just as a friend.
Sorry if it doesn't help,
but that's usually what I try.
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:47 pm
Almighty Squeechan Squee has fallen for a boy again, oh dear...
A couple people call him an emo boy, and yeah, he listens to the music... But he doesn't really dress all that emo. He knows enough to stick to pants for his own gender, thank goodness. I can tell you right now he would -not- be able to pull that off.
He's really sweet, even though we don't talk all that much. Plus he can make me laugh, and we're into the same kinds of things... We're both artists...
Him looking the way he does doesn't hurt anything, either.
But he's already got a girlfriend. I'm not sure how long they've been dating, or how their relationship is going.
That doesn't mean that I can't try to further my status, though. That's my problem.
I am pretty much completely inept when it comes to this kind of thing with boys.
And, as much as I claim to be confident... I have -never- been asked out before. I have asked out eight boys, and have been rejected every time.
My only relationship was an online one of two months.
I hardly have good self-esteem when it comes to the field of dating.
Please don't give me that "Oh boys are gross and overrated, seriously, you're not missing much." D:
That's what everyone else gives me.
I'm looking for suggestions on how to tackle the shyness and conversation-starter problems, not pity.
So please, if you have any hints, ideas, advice... whatever, tell me.
I don't bite.
Plus I need to get to know some friendly faces in this place. ^^;
But seriously...
Try just forgetting that you like him. And don't stare at him for long periods of time. Whenever you see him, give him your bestest great big smile (not too creepy though), and be thinking the whole time that your so pretty, why not he go out with me?
Just don't worry about it when you talk to him. And don't stalk him. But you don't seem like the stalker type. And if he does break up with his girlyfriend, don't think that he's going to bounce back really fast. Wait a little bit until he seems normal-ish.
Erm...I'm not much help. I flirt with guys just a little bit, but then I get scared and stuff, and then they usually find out and think I'm weird and creepy. So yeah. xD
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 6:48 pm
Yeah.
I'm comfortable around him until I hit a speedbump and I let a chunk of pessimism get in there, and it magnifies the blubber and intense fear of rejection...
But when I'm having a good day and nothing like that happens, I'm just dandy. xD So I'll just have to work harder at shooing away anything depressing.
I'll have to bring skittles to school more often.
...Or pocky. He likes pocky...
And yeah, it's not like I'm going to set out to break them up. That'd be mean, and I'm not capable of doing something that bad. >>
It wouldn't really help me if he ever found out I was behind it, anyway. xD
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:02 pm
Almighty Squeechan Yeah.
I'm comfortable around him until I hit a speedbump and I let a chunk of pessimism get in there, and it magnifies the blubber and intense fear of rejection...
But when I'm having a good day and nothing like that happens, I'm just dandy. xD So I'll just have to work harder at shooing away anything depressing.
I'll have to bring skittles to school more often.
...Or pocky. He likes pocky...
And yeah, it's not like I'm going to set out to break them up. That'd be mean, and I'm not capable of doing something that bad. >>
It wouldn't really help me if he ever found out I was behind it, anyway. xD
Skittles? The guy I like LOVES Skittles! So kewl. I don't know if he knows/likes Pocky stuffs.
But bring both. Because then it's all, choosy! <333 And then he can choose between the two based on his mood.
Feeling a bit more emo boy? Have some fruity Skittles. Lololol. Sorry, that wasn't very nice. xD
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:17 pm
Yeeaaah it wasn't too nice but it made me laugh. xD
That settles it then.
I shall bring pocky and skittles.
He had better be at school tomorrow. ><
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:29 pm
Girl! Didn't your mama teach you the FIRST rule of dating? Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, EVER develop a crush on someone who's taken! Tsk!
*Hypocrite XD*
Okay, so you've gone and gotten a crush on this taken boy...
How to handle that...
Well... my situation worked out for me like... magically or something... so I'm not really sure what advice to give you. =/ I could tell you what I DID, but that probably won't help. I basically just admired from afar. Not too far, because she was my best friend. XD But y'know, as far as I could. (Admittedly, I... tend to be the stereotypical teenage girl when it comes to crushes, so I like, blushed and stuff. But y'know, I was as quiet about it as I could be.) And then one day she broke up with her boytoy and asked me out. ._. I... don't claim to really understand it.
Um. Hm. How well do you know him? If it's like, a friendly aquaintance or someone that you don't really know, maybe getting to know him better would help. That way, you could learn what you do (or don't) like about him, and you might also pick up some information about the girlfriend.
Try being his friend first, then worry about the crush. If you can't maintain a friendship with someone, there's no way a relationship could work out, y'know?
That probably wasn't very helpful at all. XD But good luck, hun.
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:37 pm
No, so I guess it's a good thing I've never dated anyone [that she would approve of anyway, as the online relationship would've made her flip >>]. ^^;
Friendly acquaintance. We have art together. This week we have English together; every year for the seniors, at the end of Macbeth, an acting troupe comes in for a week and we do stuff with them. Classes got rearranged...
I -tried- to talk to him in there today but the actors had a knack for making us do stuff every time I started to talk. @_x
Oh I know the girl and who she is.
I really can't stand her, and not just because she's dating him. We actually used to be friends... I do hope he's not getting any diseases, with all the stories I heard before...
But anyway. >>;
I'll just have to start talking to him more in art.
I already share my food goodness with him, so.. just a step up from that, that's all... Shouldn't be too difficult. xD
I hope. ._.
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Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 7:44 pm
First of all.
Hunnie, if he's taken,
don't go after him.
'Cause then you'll
either end up as the
"other woman" or
the cause of their
break-up.
And neither of those
options are too pretty.
I'd say, just try to
approach as a friend,
without getting too
friendly and leave it
at that.
If he happens to break
up with her, give him some
time before you start
making your moves.
As for being more
confident, my advice
would be for you to
act like you don't
care what people
think about you.
srsly.
I used to have the
world record for low
self-esteem. One day,
I just decided to *act*
like I was Ms. Confidence,
even though I didn't
really believe it then.
After a while, I began
to believe it and I feel
a lot better now.
Basically, any guy/girl
who turns you down is
really not worth it.
You should try to stay
away from relationships,
just for a little while.
When you're ready, it'll
be a lot easier, trust me.
Aaand...I think I'm
friendly, and I've got
a face {not a particularly
nice one, but it's a face
nontheless}, so if you
ever need a friendly
face, I'll be around.
biggrin
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Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 3:38 pm
 Wouldn't you know I forgot those skittles I was gonna bring to school. DX
Oh well. I have tomorrow.
I've made some progress. We goofed around during the Macbeth acting thing today.
[Every year for the seniors, when they do Macbeth, an acting troupe comes for a week for fun. He's in my group. <3]
So.. I'll keep you guys posted... I guess. xD what is that
mysterious TICKING noise?
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Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 4:13 pm
Almighty Squeechan Wouldn't you know I forgot those skittles I was gonna bring to school. DX
Oh well. I have tomorrow.
I've made some progress. We goofed around during the Macbeth acting thing today.
[Every year for the seniors, when they do Macbeth, an acting troupe comes for a week for fun. He's in my group. <3]
So.. I'll keep you guys posted... I guess. xD what is that
mysterious TICKING noise?
And I know that kind of girly. She's nice, sort of, of and on-ish, but she turns evil since she's dating your crush. So you don't know.
But you still think she's mean and evil.
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