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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 1:46 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2011 1:17 am
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Fashionable Businesswoman
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Posted: Thu Feb 02, 2012 11:44 pm
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 9:26 am
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-raises hand- I am a sufferer of domestic violence I think it started around...six...maybe seven...My mother would escape from the house to get away from the abuses of my (now ex) step father. What she didn't know for pretty much a decade was that he would then come after me. I'd be hit, always body blows so no one would see them since I was already bathing myself pretty much. It wasn't just that though...He would demean me, yell at me, "Everything wrong is your fault!" "You're the reason bad things happen" stuff like that "I'm doing this for your own good" you know...rationalizations.
Of course, it was only an issue when he was drinking but, well, he was an alcoholic. I was afraid to tell my mother because I didn't want it to get any worse. Later on I rationalized that she had enough already and I would just endure it...then, it was just life, I was allotted this fate. This all shook my faith down to the core too, I don't entirely put stock in these events being why I became an Atheist (my family except for my half sister all think I'm still christian) but, it definitely added fuel.
Anyway, this continued until I was sixteen and he kicked me in front of my mom, it was over that day, she was done with him and they parted ways permanently. Thankfully he never laid a hand on my sister, but she was his daughter after all, I was just the son of the woman he married.
The whole thing though, it had a definite effect on me...deep down I know have anger issues and I do my best to vent them healthily, I never, EVER want to be like him, I have a very tight control on how much I drink and cut myself off before I get to the point of TOO drunk to reason. I am...nice, or have been, to everyone as much and best as I can...to the point of basically emotionally bleeding myself dry...and for the most part, it's become reflex, it is hard for me to not be nice to people, even in video games...
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Fashionable Businesswoman
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 9:38 am
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Aiswynd Kiev -raises hand- I am a sufferer of domestic violence I think it started around...six...maybe seven...My mother would escape from the house to get away from the abuses of my (now ex) step father. What she didn't know for pretty much a decade was that he would then come after me. I'd be hit, always body blows so no one would see them since I was already bathing myself pretty much. It wasn't just that though...He would demean me, yell at me, "Everything wrong is your fault!" "You're the reason bad things happen" stuff like that "I'm doing this for your own good" you know...rationalizations. Of course, it was only an issue when he was drinking but, well, he was an alcoholic. I was afraid to tell my mother because I didn't want it to get any worse. Later on I rationalized that she had enough already and I would just endure it...then, it was just life, I was allotted this fate. This all shook my faith down to the core too, I don't entirely put stock in these events being why I became an Atheist (my family except for my half sister all think I'm still christian) but, it definitely added fuel. Anyway, this continued until I was sixteen and he kicked me in front of my mom, it was over that day, she was done with him and they parted ways permanently. Thankfully he never laid a hand on my sister, but she was his daughter after all, I was just the son of the woman he married. The whole thing though, it had a definite effect on me...deep down I know have anger issues and I do my best to vent them healthily, I never, EVER want to be like him, I have a very tight control on how much I drink and cut myself off before I get to the point of TOO drunk to reason. I am...nice, or have been, to everyone as much and best as I can...to the point of basically emotionally bleeding myself dry...and for the most part, it's become reflex, it is hard for me to not be nice to people, even in video games... i can relate completely. why though do you believe it was fate? why not believe that it was the devil at work trying to break your faith since he was afraid you would lead others to believe in God? I for one am not going to roll over to what is "fate" because I dont believe in it. To do so would imply that I have no way of changing the course of my life which I also do not believe. we were given the power of choice so that we can direct our path. sorry I dont mean to say that as a child they have much choice, but people and adults do and are held responsible to those weaker than them. at least that is how i see it. Thanks to Grace, you are still alive and strong and can help others. blaugh
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 9:42 am
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When the whole thought of fate came up, I was in my early-mid teens, I'd already suffered my separation of faith because during all of this I was trying to make sense of it and, well, it never made sense to me. If it makes sense to someone else, if it feels right to them, I have no place to argue, it is their belief, just as my belief is mine, and to each person their beliefs are sacred.
Now though, I am comfortable with my system of beliefs, I can understand and it feels right for me to believe what I believe.
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Posted: Mon May 06, 2013 3:56 pm
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Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 12:49 am
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Posted: Fri May 17, 2013 8:52 am
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Posted: Mon May 20, 2013 8:30 pm
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I've been through quite a bit myself. >.< I never had a broken family, or anything of that sort, but I was abused and neglected at the hands of babysitters and bullied constantly. One sitter, her son went so far once as to attempt to drown me in a friend's pool because he didn't like that I dunked him after he dunked me. He'd snap pretty often and take it out on me. I was always worried someone would blame my parents for all the bruises I was always covered in, but thankfully it never escalated that far.
Eventually once I got into my teens, I started to have a lot of trouble with depression and anger. I couldn't understand why I was being pushed around or bullied so much, or what made me such a mark. I still don't. It got to a point where I went through some pretty dark places and withdrew from everything. There were concerns I'd hurt myself, and I had treatment for a few years. I never did fully gain a healthy sense of self esteem though, and in turn that led to a very emotionally and mentally abusive long distance relationship with someone. It took two years to get out of that, and away from it, and then I was stalked by him for another three years after. Took a long time to feel "normal" and ok being around others, and I've not dated since.
I'm not really sure I ever will again. It's really hard to trust people.
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