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 Posted: Sun Sep 09, 2007 1:51 am
Okay, so here's the story:
My friend and i have been best friends since about.. 7th grade. Which is about 5 years. We're mean to each other, swear at each other, yadda yadda, yet we're pretty close no matter how much we fight. And just this year he told me he likes me, and yeah i like him back. He sad he's liked me since Sophmore year, and although ive liked him back i've denied it and said i liked him only as a friend and nothing more. A while back though, i let it slip that i liked him back. Basically the reasons holding me back from ever wanting to tell him before is the obvious jepordizing our friendship since like.. dont wanna ruin our friendship, dont want things to be awkward after we break up, dont want us to change how we are, yadda... Ahaha. Anyway, plus i'm too shallow to have ever really considered him as boyfriend material, seeing as hes FAR from my definition of a "hawt guy". Eheh. Well, he's told his friends about us basically, and everyone says we already seem like a couple despite we're not going out. We talk on the phone, hang out a lot, yadda. A few weeks ago though, he was at my house and we were being nerds and playing God of War 2. So, we were playing, then he mentions that he doubted thatd id ever really stab him since i was too much of a nice person or something. See, cause he once asked me if i would kiss him, and i said only if id be able to stab him. But then when he said he doubted me i admitted thatd id couldnt bring myself to stab him, but only cut him. So he was all "no you wont" and i said "Yeah i will". We argued for a bit and then he just grabbed me kissed me. And yes, i cut him. xD But anyway... yeaah, he kissed me. Then it happened multiple times that day.. Eheh. Err anyway, i had actually just gotten out of a relationship the week before that happened, which is a WHOLE other story that i don't want to get into now because of its complications. I feel somewhat like a whore for kissing him so soon after just breaking up with another guy, but i couldnt totally help it cause ive liked him but ive been telling myself for the longest time not to and/or that i didnt like him, yakno? Arg, this seems so complicated and confusing now. >> Anyway, i told him that even though we kissed, i'm not totally ready to get into a relationship again for various reasons; some of which ive already stated. So, it's been a couple of weeks since all this happened, and he asked me if i said i was ready to officially say we were together, and i said "not really, besides i like being single". So, he pretty much convinced me that despite how i say im single, we're kind of not because we seem so much like a couple already, and that weve kissed, that we pretty much are together. I kind of waant to say "alright, lets go out then" since ive liked him for the longest time it seems, but the thing holding me back are my friends. Its not that theyre telling me not to go out with him.. The thing is, they dont even know. xD [[and when i refer to friends i mean my 7 closest friends]] Its not that id want to hide it from them, it just never really came up, ya kno? Since we're always fighting and stuff and how im always, "ew! Id never go out with him!" or "id kill myself before i do". So im just totally eating my words on that so I guess i kind of don't know how to bring it up. And the reason i care so much of what my friends think is because we're those kinda girls who tell each other everything and get an opinion from each other for everything. xD and i just wanna hear what they think and yeaah. Plus like, when i broke up with my ex, i told them i'd like to stay single for a while. But my mind's been swayed. >> Ehhh, so i'm kind of confused on how i feel. Can you guys give me an opinion? I'm just so lost. So lost that i don't even know what i'm confused about. Ehh. And i know, its so old now considering how long ago it all happened, but i gotta tell someone, and i trust u guys despite im not here often. >>;;
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 9:43 pm
I think that if you two truly like each other, then go out. You two have already kissed [and I love how you described it "just grabbed me and kissed me" Lol], and you two like each other. Who cares what your friends say, right? If your friends are holding you back, or if you're afraid to go out with him because they'll harass you for eating your words or something, then it's time for new friends. :]
Hope that helped.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 8:52 am
Wow. First part sounds somewhat like my situation right now. N'ways...
Go out with him. If you really do love him, you wouldn't care about your friend's opinion and you would go ahead and go out with him. True friends should be happy for you no matter who you love.
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 3:27 pm
The person you date should be a friend, and the person you marry should be your best friend. I'm not sure when it comes to actually getting involved with someone who was a friend first. It depends on the situation, I guess.
If you two have liked one another for a while, then it's not likely that either of you will lose interest anytime soon. I say go for it. If your friends bring up what you said about him, just tell them the truth.
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