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PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 5:20 pm


When I was 30lbs heavier, everyone was rooting for me. Everyone was so proud that I was putting forth the effort to lose weight, to exercise, to live a healthier life.

But I guess the tables have turned because now that I'm at a healthier weight, everyone eyes me with a look of concern on their face when I eat a damn salad.

"Are you only eating a salad? Shouldn't you eat something a little more filling? You're still hungry, right? What else have you eaten, today? Do you want dessert? Blabla..."

Wtf? When I ate a salad before, everyone was encouraging me and told me I made a good choice. Now that I'm healthier and still want to shave off a few more vanity pounds and maintain a healthier lifestyle, I'm apparently re-ed-ed. I mean, come ON. Am I not allowed to be healthy? Am I doomed to be overweight for the rest of my life just to keep those around me from worrying about me? What the heck? People stoop over my shoulder every single time I eat just to make sure I actually am eating. They watch me to make sure I don't rush to the bathroom to shove my fingers down my throat. Have I in the recent past? No. Do I look like I have an ED? Do I look emaciated? No. So leave me alooone!

You know what else frustrates me? I searched for "weight loss" on devArt, and all I came up with was emaciated girls lying on the floor covering their boobs with their hair and hands and larger girls with things written on their skin illustrating the fact that being skinny/thin is bad neutral I was very disappointed to see not but one positive result for it. What the heck's up with that? It's not good to be underweight, and it's not good to be overweight. Sure people need to love the skin their in (c), but that doesn't mean it's good to be either. No one needs to be virtually perfect. . . but it seems like most people are extreme, you know? People either look in disgust at larger people or they look in disgust at skinny people. Everyone just needs to find a happy medium! A happy HEALTHY medium! And just accept the fact that some of us really want to get to that happy HEALTHY medium! And that we're getting there through healthy means! Just because I'm at a healthy weight doesn't mean I'm eating too little or barfing everything I eat back up! I just want to be left alone in my happy world of healthier living! crying

Anyone else frustrated? :'D


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 11:32 am


Yeah, I see what you're saying. For girls like me that think that fat can be sexy (because hey, I'm fat, and I'm sexy)-- it can be hard, because then people accuse me of being a hypocrite for losing weight.

I'm honestly not losing weight for vanity reasons-- I'm already sexy. I'm losing weight because I'm tired of being the first to get tired on walks, and I'm tired of worrying about developing diabetes (which runs in the family so I have good reason to be worried). I'm also tired of having to buy my jeans at specialty stores-- it's more expensive! D:< I want cheap, CUTE clothes, which is hard to get when you're plus-sized.

I don't think fat OR skinny girls are disgusting. Pudge can be hot. I don't really find emaciated people to be sexy...

but I think good health and being comfortable with your body are the most important things.

Try not to let it bother you when people jump to conclusions-- gentle reminders like "I'm just trying to stay healthy, I don't have an eating disorder" should work fine.

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 2:08 pm


You're absolutely right, Svenja. Your friends supported you in the midst of change, but now they seem not to understand that you need to MAINTAIN your weight loss. You can't just go back to the way you used to live, because you'll make yourself as unhealthy as you were before. Remind them of that fact. "Look, you have a fast metabolism, so you're probably hungry a lot of the time when I'm not. You worry about yourself, and let me honor my own body's needs. I'm happy with the way I look, just as I always was. Now I need to maintain my current good health by continuing to keep the habits I've spent so much effort to build up."

I think people can be physically attractive at a lot of different sizes, but the fact is, your health is important. Your ability to afford to dress yourself so that you feel beautiful is imortant. Most of all, your self-esteem is important -- and how could you keep that, if you reverted to the habits you sought to change? "I've reached my goal. Now I can pig out, not exercise, gain some weight, and feel frustrated at my lack of willpower. Now I get to look forward to seeing myself as weak-willed, lazy, and unintelligent! Yay!" NOT. You're right to continue treating yourself like a person who deserves the best of health. Tell your friends that either they can support you, they can be silent on the issue, or they can be somewhere else at mealtimes.
PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 12:26 pm


I agree that both skinnier and larger girls can be beautiful. I think it has more to do with how one carries themselves and they weight they own, you know? Like if emaciated or naturally skinny girls wear the right clothes, they can be hot. If a larger girl wears clothes that aren't too snug, that flatter her shape and curves, she can be hot. If anyone carries their head high and if they believe that they are beautiful, then there should be nothing to stop them :] I just get upset when I am unable to find the positive side of weight loss in places and on sites that aren't weight loss related. I wish it could be easier for others to understand.

I feel like I have to remind everyone on the planet every time I eat. "I'm trying to be healthy, remember? It doesn't just stop once I've reached my ultimate goal weight. The numbers might not drop anymore, but if I don't keep eating correctly and exercising, it's all going to come back and I don't want that. Ever."

@ Blinky ~ Most people thought and some still think I'm losing weight for vanity reasons. Like boys.. but why would I do it for the attention of boys I don't know when I'm already happy and snug in an almost 1.5 year long relationship? I called mine vanity pounds because that's generally what people call the last 5-10lbs you want to lose x3 Hehe.

@ Divash ~ A lot of my friends have expressed jealousy, which gets to me pretty bad. They say that they hate that one friend that always gets the attention from the guys even when they're not wanting it. They say they don't recognize me anymore because of all the weight I've lost and always get frustrated and sometimes won't eat all of their meal with me when I eat healthily in front of them. It shouldn't make me feel bad, because I've made the decision and have kept the commitment to lose the weight and they haven't. . . but it still gets me down sometimes, you know? A lot of my friends have made attempts at losing weight and getting in shape, but they all find excuses to stop. One of my friends joined curves for the summer, but there isn't a curves in our college town, so she just stopped exercising all together. Another friend of mine was attempting weight watchers and trying to kick her addiction to diet coke, but she claims that stress over came her, so she just started eating junk again and then they came out with that "diet coke plus" bull s**t. She says "it's healthy, now!" and doesn't see why it would still be better for her health to not drink it u_u;;

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