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 Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:23 pm
Ever since I was a little girl I was teased of my weight and breasts. I come from a over-weight family, and I myself am quite chubby. I work out, do yoga and dance. Yet, to where I live, that is not enough. Here I must be a size 3 and fit into Abercrombie and Fitch, but this is something I cannot and will never achieve.
And on a daily basis I get called names like the one in the title and more. And ignoring simply does not help, what have you done in the past to tell people off? Advice would be appreciated.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:28 pm
Well hun, its like that everywhere...
"The grass always seems greener..."you know?
there are people near you who accept you for who you are? Do you have family who loves you? Best freinds?
it took me soooo long to realize that you shouldnt have to try and please lots of people by being thin, but you should continue to be yourself for people who already love you 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:33 pm
also...(dont take this as advice. its more of a warning.)
i lived in florida up until i was 11, then i moved to southern Georgia halfway through my 6th grade year. i was hated and taunted, all for doing nothing and not being most people's vision of loveliness.
So i did the only thing i knew. i introverted.
I have two older sister's and a little brother. Lily(the oldest) was sweet and freindly. Lisa, the second sister, was outspoken, some what selfcentered, and always spoke her mind. David, my little brother, was the baby of the family. i was the quiet one. i never talked to anyone, or made a disturbance if i could help it.
so when we moved, and i was thrown into such a hostile environment, i just turned more and more into myself and just kind of faded into a corner.
Long story short...
Dont hide behind yourself. you can take it. that meany heads wont be around forever..
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:36 pm
ClaudiaJade Well hun, its like that everywhere... "The grass always seems greener..."you know? there are people near you who accept you for who you are? Do you have family who loves you? Best freinds? it took me soooo long to realize that you shouldnt have to try and please lots of people by being thin, but you should continue to be yourself for people who already love you 3nodding Friends yes, family not at all. I do understand where you are coming from though, I do not try and please people, I've given up on that venture a long time ago, but after awhile hearing the same put downs gets old and well...it sinks in after awhile and I just don't like it. When I defend myself, I am the one who get's in trouble and it annoys me to the high heavens.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 8:49 pm
-Magicians Trick- ClaudiaJade Well hun, its like that everywhere... "The grass always seems greener..."you know? there are people near you who accept you for who you are? Do you have family who loves you? Best freinds? it took me soooo long to realize that you shouldnt have to try and please lots of people by being thin, but you should continue to be yourself for people who already love you 3nodding Friends yes, family not at all. I do understand where you are coming from though, I do not try and please people, I've given up on that venture a long time ago, but after awhile hearing the same put downs gets old and well...it sinks in after awhile and I just don't like it. When I defend myself, I am the one who get's in trouble and it annoys me to the high heavens. after a while i started hearing the same ones too. then it clicked. i started making fun of Them for not being able to think up anything better that "Gawd, how can she even Fit through the doorway." (im not that big anyway. xp ) Pity their small minds!(and asses! mine is a WHOLE hellova lot more comfy!)
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 11:20 pm
shes pretty much covered what needs to be said. but mainly i would agree with her advice about going into a corner. i did the same thing and it made things ten times worse.
being thick skinned helps but really you get a thick skin from all the verbal abuse to its a double edged sword.
mainly just show em that they need to go ******** themselves and your not just another "fat" kid. try being a little more outgoing and if they reject you keep trying. as soon as you give up they think they win and they will never let you live it down.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 12:09 am
Lets see when in High School I said things such as
"OMG I'm fat! NOOOOO when did this happen! Why didn't anyone tell me!" and just give them a stare.
"Wow... that was about as original as a your mama joke, speaking of your mama...."
"I hope you enjoy staring, because I charge by the pound and there's no way you'd ever be able to afford this."
"I'm fat, way to state the obvious. Your d**k is small. See I can do it too."
etc... *shrugs* really in the long run they're not worth wasting time or effort on. Life continues. Take solace... they probably need to put others down to feel their own self worth. Don't loose yours just because they don't have any.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 3:39 am
Whut are yu talk'in aboot! I have beeen ridiculed through my whole life of school, I'm nearing the end as I reach 11th grade, but realize one thing, no matter what your made fun of for, it all hurts the same, so in turn yu just have to put up with and keep a sunny view, I've been beaten up, called names, threatened with death, hell I even spun into a depression a boy tormented me for one thing my whole school life, buck teeth, I was written death notes over buck teeth, it made me feel horrible about my teeth, I ended up wearing all sorts of braces and retainers that mde me feel like he was rihgt, but you nkow what, I got the last laugh, that kids off in some juvi hall and I'm gonna graduate early and follow my dreams, nothing is gonna stop me, so you can tell those preps and asses to shove it up there... oh.. I kind of got carried away, I've never had a wait prob;em myslef, I'm a skinny nerd guy.. heh....
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:48 am
Honey, Ive got the same problem...
Sometimes, chubbiness is simply genetic. The best thing that you can do is ignore them and learn to love yourself. Once you've got the confidence to act like you really are a size 3 or whatever, the ones that are gonna 'look' bad are them.
I know its hard sometimes....BELIEVE ME i do....But be strong. Theres always people here for support and your friends and family.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 1:01 pm
All I have to say is thank you.
I've read all the responces and all I can say to all of you is thank you. Sometimes I feel like the only one who is or has gone through these problems but is really helps to know that people have gotten through this and still loved themselves no matter what.
~The
Magician.
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 11:19 am
Just get in their face and tell them "i'm three times you size and can crush you like the little bug you are." Its always worked for me, but it could always make it worse.
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 12:38 pm
Being big you can never blend in, so you learn to be a rebel.. you can't go with the flow because you don't measure up.. but this isn't always a bad thing.. but it is difficult to continually have to defend who and how you are.
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Posted: Mon Aug 15, 2005 11:56 am
Don't take it so hard. I've been there before. When I would walk up the bleachers in the mornings at school, there was this group of guys (with a really cute fat guy as their "leader" I guess you would say) that would call me stuff like "chewbacca", "Fatty", "Tubby", "Bigfoot", "Pinoccio", and others. I've been called pinoccio, because I have a big nose, and bigfoot because I have big feet. I'm real easy-going, because I don't care what people think of me, I just ignore them. Plus, I've still got my friends. Who are all kind of big, but not by much. I'm just glad they're not like those skinny bitches who call us sp-eds.
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