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Go with her to the grocery store and ask for extra fruit instead of all the candies that you don't want anyway. If you have to do it, reach into the cart and put the candies right back on the shelf after she's put them into the cart. Explain, "I don't really want these things. I know you're buying them for me, but since I don't want them, I thought I'd save the family some money. Let's go back to the produce aisle for a little more fruit, okay?"

Also at the store, explain that you have nutritional needs, and the candies aren't going to meet them. You'd rather spend the money, and your daily calorie allowance, on a bit more fruit rather than the things that are making you unhealthy.

Point out, "We have six bananas, five kiwis, three apples, and two nectarines. That's sixteen pieces of fruit. There are four of us in the family. Each of us needs at least two fruit servings per day. That's fifty-six pieces of fruit. I'm thinking we either need more today, or we're going to have to buy more later this week, because this week I'm planning to get my share."

At home, take the fruit, divide out your portion -- a fair share, no less -- and hide it in your room. You have nutritional needs. You deserve to have them met. You are a growing youth. If your nutritional needs aren't being met, and your family has enough money to meet them but isn't doing that, then that is actually a form of abuse. They wouldn't go to prison for it, but you do need to stand up and say, "I'm trying to reach adulthood without developing scurvy or rickets or a heart condition. I need more fruit and vegetables in my diet. What I don't need is all this candy and sweets."

Now you're thinking! biggrin It's hard to eat healthily when someone else is shopping and you're not in control of what comes into the house. But it can be done, if you're willing to make a little extra effort. Also, if you're given lunch money during the school day, spend that on fruit, or on a lean turkey wrap, or a salad. That way, even if there's stuff in the house that isn't good for you, at least you'll be getting what you need while you're away from the house.

Honestly, I don't suggest going without candy or sweets entirely. Have one treat about every three days to a week. It'll keep you going and make you feel not so deprived. When we feel deprived, we tend to make up for it, and then some. "I haven't had candy or sodas in a week... so what if I had a deep-fried Snickers bar, a chili dog with extra cheese, and two pieces of cheesecake?" You wind up eating more than you would have, if you'd just allowed yourself a small indulgence.