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Phimms

PostPosted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:55 am


and I am interested in this guy. (by the way, I'm a newb...) I really want just go up to him and say "Hi, hey I like you!" but if I did my dad would murder me. And that's why I am as shy as hell.

Ok, the guy knows me, but I don't have him in any of my classes. And we talked like twice, for 5 minutes. I really want to ask him out before the end of the year, or atleast get to know him better, or get his phone number of something.

But I live with my father untill the end of the school year, then I will be able to go to my mother's also. My father will not let me date anyone, talk to any boys, and if say a boy's name in front of him, then he will get pissed. And I don't know why. And I am afraid to talk to him about it, because I am afraid he might hit me. My mother doesn't care at all.

I don't know what I should do, ask him to hang out, or do nothing? The thing is I have never dated or actually hungout with a guy before because of my father.
PostPosted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 2:34 pm


You need to talk to your Dad.

I know, I always say "Talk to them!" but it's done me a great deal of good in the past.

All Dad's are protective of their daughters, no matter how old or young they are. It's nature. They don't like the fact that their little girl is all grown up and is all ready to start a life of her own. Most parents are like to guys "You'll never be good enough for our daughter".. But the truth is, they just don't want you getting your heartbroken.

If you can talk to your Dad about it, do. Or even talk to your Mum. Don't go into details if you don't want to, just tell them what they need to know. It sounds a little mean, but if they fly off the handle at the mention of a boys name, it wouldn't be worth risking any detail telling. If you understand. D'x

I'd try and approach this guy before the end of school, and like ask for his number, or email address. You could talk to him over the summer and get to know him, then maybe like, casually ask him to hang out one day.

Jumping in first, and being all like "Hi, will you go out with me? I like you." sounds a bit desperate.. Getting to know him better will even your chances out a bit.

Hope it goes well! <3


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Phimms

PostPosted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:39 pm


Thanks, and yeah, I know it would be despirate. sweatdrop But that just plays in my head. I really wouldn't think I would actually do that though.
PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 6:25 am


I told my dad I liked a boy, and hes like: thats nice. Good for you. I'm like:Thats it?!? He said yup.
Anyways, I have the same problem, but not with my dad. But thats my problems, not yours.
Talk to your dad. And soon. You really should talk to the boy, but before you do anything else you need to talk to your dad, and make him understand. But dont get mad, just say what you want to say calmly, that way he's less likly to get angry. You'll aslo want to ask why he wont let you go out with boys, or talk to them. (You do that anyways, but he doesnt know that, so dont mention it.) Once he tells you why, you can find a solution to make him feel better, and he can let you go out.
Best of luck biggrin

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PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 8:22 am


The fact that he would hit you, and get pissy for you just saying a boys name, really gets me. I don't think either is right. but hey.

Just talk to him about it, either that, or call your mom on the phone and talk to her about it?
PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 10:14 am


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The fact that he would hit you, and get pissy for you just saying a boys name, really gets me. I don't think either is right. but hey.

Just talk to him about it, either that, or call your mom on the phone and talk to her about it?

I think I might talk to my mom about it first. Thanks.

Phimms


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 9:23 am


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My dad's the same way. That's why when I got my first boyfriend, I talked to me mom about it. She was okay with it and always covered for my with my dad when he would ask who I was talking to. So go ahead and talk to your mom about it then get to know this boy.






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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 11:14 am


I also agree you should tell your mom first. Maybe she seems she doesn't care because she doesn't realize it? confused
Anyways, telling it straight to your father can be kinda risky... try to get support from someone that might have influence towards him.

Good luck! heart

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 1:35 pm


I agree with the others, talk to your mum first. Does she know how angry your dad gets when you mention boys? I think thats definitely something to discuss with her, and maybe she can ask him why that is. I don't know how old you are, but if he thinks you're too young for dating then he's probably being protective.
PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 2:34 pm


Yeah, thanks for the tips. I hope they will help in the future! heart

Phimms


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 10:53 am


Yup. Try to talk to your dad. I had the same problem with the boy, but I just wanted to be his friend. Now I am. I'm lucky we had two extra days of school. X_X Anyway, just talk to him more often and get to know him more. Try becoming his friend. That way you won't freak him out. It really works, trust me.
PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 1:59 pm


again x)
just try to talk
he's just protecting you & afraid to lose you to another boy ^^
I red it somewhere

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