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 Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 3:03 am
ok...
i know its an abnormal conversation but in this aby-normal world we are faced with as such, natrualy.
ill explain this now for future refrence.
im bi, i like guys alot more than girls but recently ive fallen for this girl,
and i have not had sex in more than two months.mind you.
and my mind is constantly trying to figure stuff out, i hope to go this is just hormones... i cant deal with this tug-of-war for my whole life.
for the last month i havent been... cumming...
ive been having this probem lately and i have looked around for an awnser.
but i wind up here.
from what i understand i suffer from "anaorgasma"
this is from wikipedia:
Anorgasmia (often related to delayed ejaculation in males) is a form of sexual dysfunction sometimes classified as a psychiatric disorder in which the patient cannot achieve orgasm, even with "adequate" stimulation. However, it can also be caused by medical problems such as diabetic neuropathy, multiple sclerosis, pelvic trauma, hormonal imbalances, total hysterectomy, spinal cord injury and cardiovascular disease. Anorgasmia is far more common in females than in males and is especially rare in younger men.
A common cause of anorgasmia, in both men and women, is the use of anti-depressants, particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). Though reporting of anorgasmia as a side-effect of SSRIs is not precise, it is estimated that 15-50% of users of such medications are affected by this condition. Some popular SSRIs are venlafaxine, escitalopram, paroxetine, fluoxetine and sertraline. The chemical amantadine has been shown to cure SSRI-induced anorgasmia in some, but not all, people.
i cross refrenced my info from this with another article likewise from the same source:
Delayed ejaculation, also known as retarded ejaculation and ejaculation incompetence, is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man achieves orgasm within 2-4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not orgasm at all or orgasms after prolonged intercourse which might last 30-45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse.
Physical causes of delayed ejaculation imply some diseases and conditions which affect a man's ability to orgasm.. These include many neurological (for example stroke or damage to the back or spinal cord) and endocrine diseases (diabetes), prostate problems, some allergies and high blood pressure. As well difficulty in achieving orgasm can result from pelvic surgery that involved trauma to pelvic nerves which are responsible for orgasm.
Delayed ejaculation might be a side effect of some medications, usually of some antidepressants. Another reason for delayed ejaculation is excessive use of alcohol. In this case physical and psychological causes might co-exist. Alcohol addiction often implies psychological disorders which cause a man to become nervous and jealous without any reason. Thus two causes join and deepen the problem.
Prevention
First of all a man should have healthy attitude towards sexuality and his sexual response. He should be fully aware of the fact that anxiety and fears cannot contribute to a normal and satisfying sexual experience.
A man who wants to avoid ejaculation problems should concentrate on the pleasure he gets rather than worrying about when and whether his ejaculation is going to occur. The partner should also be tactful and should not put pressure on the man by asking him whether he has ejaculated or not. Instead a partner should create a relaxed atmosphere in which a man will feel free and enjoy sexual pleasure without worrying about ejaculation. And of course, open discussing of anxieties and fears contribute to better sexual relationships and normal sexual satisfaction.
will the nice people present help me put the jig-saw pieces together.
i cant see the whole picture.
maybe its hormones. possibly stress and anxiety scince my family found out about my orientation, friends abandoment.
or possibly the refrenced article "prevention"
i am uaualy afraid of what others think. afraid that the people i love will leave again, afraid of whats next, afraid that i might hvesome deaise that makes me streril...
and maybe its the anxiety of wanting this all to be over.
please the good people reading this, the ones willing to help.
i've never been good with puzzles, just soduku.
edit: *decides to put his age, after re-reading a part of the assumption*
age:14
vegitarian*
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:48 am
You can go to the doctor to rule out physical causes. It sounds like it might be psychological though. You'll have to relax and not worry about it. When you're ready to ejaculate, you will. Any partner that is decent and worth your time will be understanding of it anyway, so you shouldn't worry about what they will think.
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 12:38 am
thanks...
its just..
i cant go to my parents with this...
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i hope to god its all in my head.
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Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 9:24 am
2-4 minutes? wtf.. I never knew that.. hmm..
Anyways, I'm not quite sure I really understand.. you can't ejaculate while haveing sex? you said you haven't had sex in 2 months, so how do you know?
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Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 5:37 am
It could be because you worry about it or simply one of the wonderful things puberty wants to do to you for the while, but go to your doctor and ask him/ her about it.
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Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 10:49 am
yea it will probaly go away and you mate will probaly understand and will continue to help you untill you have a orgasm
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Posted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:18 pm
2-4 minutes? wow... I never knew that. I thought my boyfriend was quick after 20 mins.
As for your problem, just ask your parents to schedule a doctors appointment, and talk to your doctor. there's no point in worrying about it when you can just go ask a professional. you can also ask for your parents to wait outside if you don't feel comfortable with them knowing. =]
hope that helps.
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