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I don't know how to do this, really.
Broke up with my little boy's father yesterday, and spend the night at a friend's place. Today I came back over and we talked a bit about what we're going to do. I can't afford to live on my own, and since it's a shared custody situation, there's no chance of assistance or BC housing or anything. We came to the sad realization that we'll still have to live together for quite a while-- here until hopefully just july, so I'll be sleeping on the couch, and then hopefully find a 3 bedroom to move into. We'll still be stuck together, but at least with seperate rooms. From there it'll take a while, but I'll save up to get my own place.

So first off, I don't know how to deal with still living with him. We broke up because he finally admitted he thought it was a mistake to ever get together, I never really meant anything to him, and he regrets not going after his ex when he had the chance. Wonderful.

Secondly, when we do get seperate places, I don't know how to deal with only seeing my little boy half of what I do now. With going back to work and everything, I feel like I don't get enough time with him as it is. But when I'm living on my own, it'll be what? A week on and a week off?
I really don't know how to deal with not seeing him for a week. With missing out on half of his life. And I can't stop crying when i think about it.

How do other people cope with this???

nope, i only have one friend here, and she lives with her mom
and we don't have a signed arrangement, but we've always decided that if anything happened, we share equal custody of Leto.
Tyerel's an a** to me, but he's a good father and Leto loves him.

Yes, getting a lawyer is the best thing you can do right now. You need all the information you can get to make the best decisions.

Because if you were able to get sole custody with visitation rights for the father, wouldn't you be able to get government assistance and child support from him? And are you working anywhere now?

Living together for a while may become tricky if one of you starts dating someone else too. Like what if he tries to date his ex again? Would he kick you out and try to live with his son and new gf and just remove you from the picture? You need legal protection in place.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. It sounds like a really rough time, but I know you can do it for your little boy. He'll give you more strength than you realize you have.

Try to talk with your ex about how you two behave around each other. If he's a total a** to you, he's setting a really shitty example for your son.

Sorry you have to go through with this though, break ups are never easy, especially when you have children to consider.