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 Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 3:58 pm
I used to think I was bi/gay. I had no reason to I was just really lonly and this guy would talk to me and made me feel good. I thought I was falling for him. It ended up that we kissed and I didnt like it. Now I know I am streight. If you think you are bi or gay I would say do the same, experiment to see if your sexuality is really like that. Some may disagree for reasons I understand but this is my view of what you should do.
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Posted: Sun May 06, 2007 4:38 pm
I disagree. I do not encourage young people to experiment like that. I say that sexual preference is about who you are attracted to. People should know who they are attracted to without having to do anything sexual with them. I knew that I was attracted to men long before I ever did anything sexual with one. Even now, if I spot an attractive man from across the room, I can tell you that I am attracted to him even if I have never kissed him.
I think a lot of people kiss others of the same sex and try to use the whole experimentation thing as an excuse. It's absolute bull to say that we need to kiss everyone in sight so that we can figure out who we are attracted to. Imagine how long we would all be out in the dating scene if we had to kiss everyone just to find out all our sexual likes and dislikes!
Also, just because you did not like kissing that one man, that does not prove anything other than that you don't like kissing that one man! I am a straight female, but I am sure there are men out there that I would not like kissing. If I kiss one man and don't like it, that certainly would not prove to me that I am gay. If I kiss my father, or an old man, or a man who smells awful, or something else that would just be a turn off to me and say, "Ew," after that does not make me a lesbian!
So, in short, I strongly disagree with your advice. It really isn't practical or logical (no offense, a lot of young people who are trying to figure out who they are and what they like think the same thing you do initially).
I would advise young people who aren't sure what they like to not experiment with everyone just to find out. Kiss who you want, there's nothing wrong with a kiss. But I think you should kiss someone because you want to kiss them, not because you are eager to label yourself "gay," "straight," or "bisexual." If you don't know who you are attracted to, don't worry about it. You'll figure it out eventually. It's not a race. Don't label yourself if you're not ready to. Take your time. Be who you want to be and date who you want to date.
And keep in mind that bisexuality isn't always 50/50. You can still like one sex more than the other and be bisexual (maybe you like men about 70% and women about 30% for example).
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 8:27 am
I do agree its just that it worked for me so I thought it might work for someone else. I didnt mean it for young people either, it would just futher confuse them. Your right though and I appoligize for giving bad advice.
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 11:13 am
Tormenter_of_Souls I do agree its just that it worked for me so I thought it might work for someone else. I didnt mean it for young people either, it would just futher confuse them. Your right though and I appoligize for giving bad advice. No problem. A lot of people think that experimenting might be best. For some people maybe it is. I just like to warn people that they shouldn't be kissing everyone out of being too eager to label themselves. Like you said, that can make things more confusing! I don't think you necessarily gave bad advice because now we got to talk about it, so now people who might be confused get to hear different opinions, experiences, and reasoning.
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 2:06 pm
I know sexuallity is a confusing thing within itself. I am feeling depressed right now so I shouldnt give out advise until I feel better. My judgement would be wrong.
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 2:35 pm
Tormenter_of_Souls I know sexuallity is a confusing thing within itself. I am feeling depressed right now so I shouldnt give out advise until I feel better. My judgement would be wrong. Why are you feeling depressed right now?
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Posted: Mon May 07, 2007 10:57 pm
Personally, I'm more for soul-searching than experimenting. If you're experimenting, you're messing with other people's feelings, too. It's not cool to date someone, get close to them, and then go "Oh, btw, I'm not into your sex anymore." It's a pretty hurtful thing to do, really. :/
Plus, there's always a chance you didn't feel chemistry with that person. Sexuality is very confusing, and tends to change with time.
Sharing what happened with you is good, I don't mean to sound like I'm coming down on you. sweatdrop A lot of people will probably read that and think more seriously before really getting close to people. Fantasies are one thing, but real life isn't always the same way.
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Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 11:14 am
Kupi-Chan Personally, I'm more for soul-searching than experimenting. If you're experimenting, you're messing with other people's feelings, too. It's not cool to date someone, get close to them, and then go "Oh, btw, I'm not into your sex anymore." It's a pretty hurtful thing to do, really. :/ Very good point. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 1:59 pm
Kupi-Chan Personally, I'm more for soul-searching than experimenting. If you're experimenting, you're messing with other people's feelings, too. It's not cool to date someone, get close to them, and then go "Oh, btw, I'm not into your sex anymore." It's a pretty hurtful thing to do, really. :/ Plus, there's always a chance you didn't feel chemistry with that person. Sexuality is very confusing, and tends to change with time. Sharing what happened with you is good, I don't mean to sound like I'm coming down on you. sweatdrop A lot of people will probably read that and think more seriously before really getting close to people. Fantasies are one thing, but real life isn't always the same way. I agree.
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Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 11:18 am
*blinks*...Meh. I've experimented before & I liked it.
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Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2007 8:40 pm
Haha Maybe he was a bad kisser... totallly joking heart
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Posted: Wed Jan 02, 2008 6:51 pm
I disagree. You don't always haveto experiment to know whether your bisexual or not. And kissing on the other hand wouldn't prove it in my opinon. I have kissed and madeout with girls but I still am deciding whether I am bisexual or not.
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