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 Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 9:32 am
Hypothetical situations:
''Say that you were on the pill and had been for several months and it was working fine for you. You reached the stage with your partner that you wanted to start sexual intercourse. You tell him that you are on the pill and he says in that case he won't be wearing a condom. You express your concern about STIs and STDs and that even though being on the pill may mean you can't get pregnant that risk is still there. He accuses you of not trusting him and says that he has already been tested for STIs and STDs and that he will show you the paperwork for it.''
Okay, so what should you do if the following happen?
A:- You are fairly confident that he has not had any other sexual parnters since he had the STI test and you have seen the paperwork indicating he was negative, is it okay to go ahead with sex without a condom?
B:- You are sure he has slept with someone else after the STI test but are not sure whether or not it was protected. Is it fair to demand he wear one anyway?
I just want to know if you are on birth control and you know for certain both you and your man are clean then it is okay to proceed without a condom when it is your first time of sexual intercourse with that partner?
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 12:47 pm
It depends.
If he has been tested since he was with his last partner, then it's up to you whether or not you want to use a condom. Many couples do not when they are in committed STD-free relationships.
However, if you are not sure if he was with someone after the test, a condom would be a good idea. Also, keep in mind that HIV can take a while to show up on a test, so a negative HIV test is not a guarantee. It might just mean that he tested too soon after getting infected.
It also depends on how badly you want to prevent pregnancy. If you are young and a baby is the last thing you want, I would opt for the condom. If you're older and a baby would not be a bad thing right now, then you can go without if you want.
It also depends on if you take the pill every single day and at the same time every day. If you tend to forget, that's another reason to use condoms.
No one should ever get angry at anyone for asking them to use a condom though. Even if a baby would not be so bad right now, and you are positive that he has no STDs, it's still ok to use a condom. If he gets angry and says you don't trust him, maybe he's not worth it in the first place.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 4:05 pm
Handy Tippex Hypothetical situations:
A:- You are fairly confident that he has not had any other sexual parnters since he had the STI test and you have seen the paperwork indicating he was negative, is it okay to go ahead with sex without a condom?
B:- You are sure he has slept with someone else after the STI test but are not sure whether or not it was protected. Is it fair to demand he wear one anyway?
If I wanted him to use a condom, even though he got tested and I am on Birth Control- Neither of these scenerios would matter to me. Either he'd HAVE to use a condom or he wouldn't be getting any from me. No glove no love.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 6:02 pm
LorienLlewellyn No one should ever get angry at anyone for asking them to use a condom though. Even if a baby would not be so bad right now, and you are positive that he has no STDs, it's still ok to use a condom. If he gets angry and says you don't trust him, maybe he's not worth it in the first place. She said it right there. If you asked him to wear a condom and he got upset, he's not worth having sex with in the first place.
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Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 3:28 am
Thanks guys. I was thinking the same thing, I mean yeah techically it would be fairly safe if the man was clean but it would certaintly put your own mind and many other womens minds (if in that situation) at rest because there is always that small chance of pregnancy.
This was merely hypothetical, I don't even have a boyfriend right now, let alone thinking about engaging in sex. BUT it is something that has happened to a friend, who I thought I should advise. But it is something that could happen.
Another thing this guy said is that wearing a condom makes it less pleasurable for him and is slightly uncomfortable... But surely that is a small price to pay to make your partner feel secure?
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Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 2:07 pm
Handy Tippex
Another thing this guy said is that wearing a condom makes it less pleasurable for him and is slightly uncomfortable... But surely that is a small price to pay to make your partner feel secure?Exactly.
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