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The thread on adoption statistics for different races got me thinking: It seems that most people here are religiously-motivated in their pro-life ideals, meaning a child would likely be in wedlock and thus likely to be a wanted result of sex. For those who aren't abstaining from sexual encounters (of any faiths or lack thereof), at this point in your life would you put a child of yours up for adoption?

If so, what racial background are you? Do you feel it would, in your state, affect your child's likelihood of finding another family? Would you be comfortable with the idea that they may never find a home until they're adults? To what degree would you like to be involved in the child's life? Any other input you'd like to provide?

If not, what racial background are you? Would it affect your choice to keep your child, or would it have no bearings? Is it personal responsibility or the state of affairs of modern adoption that would drive you to raise the child? Finally, are there any other things you'd like to say about it?

If you plan to adopt, would race affect your choice of child? Why or why not? Would income bracket of the parents affect it, neediness, or your personal affinity with the child in question? Why? And of course...any other input?

I guess I'll start.

Race: White, but my boyfriend isn't.

Choice affected: Not really.

Why?: Personal responsibility, if I'm bringing a child into the world I'd damn well better be ready for the outcome and prepared to dedicate my life 100% to make sure they're happy and healthy.

Other things: Haha, not really. sweatdrop

Nah, I'm not saying religion's the sole motivator. Frankly though as long as people are for saving lives I'm enthused about it. I've just noticed kind of a trend in the pro-life movement. Of course it make sense considering most religions being for the preservation of humanity. Any reason to want to preserve life's a good reason in my book.

Boy it looks like I'm gonna be eating the religion comment for a while, huh? xd

I'm 16 and having a kid but I would never give my kid up for adoption cause I know I would regret it.

First off, I am agnostic, and that has no affect on my opinion of abortion. A human life has value to me, it doesn't matter whether it comes from God, or from a person, and I think that's important.

Secondly, I AM sexually active, but also gay, so it wouldn't be easy for me to have a child just... normally, in a day to day situation for me. Unless I was really drunk and Lymelady took advantage of me. ( heart xd )

But in all seriousness, I know a gay guy who had a kid, and his ex takes care of him. So it -does- happen. Now if -I- were to get a girl pregnant, I would... I dunno. I sure as hell wouldn't like it if she was pro-choice, because that'd make me really sad if she even considered killing the child. If she was pro-life and wanted to keep it, I'd be willing to do that, even though it would require a LOT of work on my part, and a little owning up, I think it would be worth it, because I'd have a little... person that I created, and that's kinda really cool.<3 And if she wanted to adopt it to someone else, I'd accept that too. I'd have a little bit of difficulty letting go (okay, a LOT...) but I think that if I wasn't able to support it, and if a child just isn't in the cards for me now, I think another family would make it just as happy.

You could say I'm pro-choice for the woman... except if she wants to kill it. Reasonable, I think. heart wink




I'm a white person, and I live in Canada where everyone's pretty liberal and accepting of whatever choices you wish to make. And I think the system's actually pretty good down here. There are a lot of "group homes", where kids are able to live with other adopted kids, and get regular visits from social workers, there are plenty of gay couples down here that ARE able to adopt (without the flak you'd get for being gay and wanting kids in America...), and plenty of couples that want kids, so I wouldn't be worried, I'd just hope that any child of mine has a satisfying life.

And if I wanted to raise the child, I'd definitely need a better job, help to raise the child, Daycare (one of which my aunt owns, so I've got a good in at a good bilingual daycare if need be.), and diapers, and all that good stuff. But the social assistance in Canada's pretty good, so I think I'd have a lot of the help I'd need to raise a kid. Which is what I like about Canada. Less reason to abort (yet, it's a choice that is widely talked about as being perfectly fine here, far too often.)




Race has nothing to do with it, for me. I'd just want a child that I'd love, and who would love me, and who I'd be able to steer in the right direction, and care for, and just... all that great stuff that kids are good for.<333

And yeah, I definitely want to adopt. As soon as I find a man who's as passionate about kids as I am, and whom I love, and can settle down with.

Whew. Hella long post, but I needed to say a lot. XD

I don't know it would be hard. Unless I didn't have any other choice I don't think I could but I'm not in that situation so I can say 100 percent.

...Okay, maybe I need to clarify. I don't think every adopted baby is white. What I was saying is that this was spawned in part by Winged Isis' thread on racial adoption statistics. These statistics clearly showed that in some states non-white babies were FAR more likely to get adopted. I was asking what your state was, what the state's most likely adopted race was, and how that correlated to your race.

P.S.: I'm atheist and there seem to be a lot of pagans here. I wasn't talking about the Christian right controlling adoption or whatever.