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Ok, so I have a question about one of those unspoken rules between female friends. If you had this friend, and she and her boyfriend had been going out for five months, and they had been totally in love, and just really happy, and then, because of factors like distance and emotional strain, the guy broke it off, and your female friend was just totally broken hearted about it, and you knew this guy, and he had been your friend even before your female friend and him had started going out, and all of a sudden, like a week after they had broken up, you just had these romantic feelings for him, would you think about or initiate going out with him?

I personally would never do this to someone. It has happened to me, and I felt totally betrayed, because the girl didn't even ask me how I would feel about it. She didn't even tell me about it beforehand, all of a sudden they were just together, as if he didn't even need any time to get over me. I don't know if I am the only one who thinks what this girl did is totally wrong. What do you think?

First of all the friend should have consolted the girl first. The guy should have known better in the first place though...I don't think that I would do that to my good friend (maybe aquatences (don't really know the boyfriend/girlfriend situation)). Also the girl who was kinda screwed over should have at least been a bit sensative to her friends feelings of liking the guy.

I agree. If she had consulted me about her feelings for him and wanting to go out with him-- not even asking my permission, but just telling me and seeing how I would feel-- I would not have been as upset about it, and I might still be her friend today. I realize she has feelings too, but as to my particular situation, I knew her relationship with the guy would not last, and it was mostly just a whim on her part.

Hm....
She should have waited longer, or asked you 'bout it.
Personally I do not believe most teenagers really understand what we call "love". The brain simply is not programed to compute on that magnitude as such a tender age. Not until one reaches about 20-21-ish do I think they can really understand it fairly well. There are, of coarse, exceptions to everything, including this. But I think boyfriends/girlfriends are a distraction during the high school years. Besides with a 1-2% chance on the couple stayin' together after high school there hardly seems a point to it....






See the thing is it's different for guys. If his girlfriend broke up with him, then a week later one of his friends started goin' out with her, most guys wouldn't mind very much, unless he really, really like her VERY much. But girls probably wouldn't do that.... People might start thinkin' she was a whore or slut o somethin'.... Stupid society... with all it's.. stupidity....