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 Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 1:38 pm
I'm a fifteen year old sophomore, I go to a small school in a small tourist hub of a town. I'm on the girls' tennis team for my high school [ even though I'm not all that good ], and I take several advanced/AP level classes [ with a current ~4.0 GPA ]. My family's lower-middle class, and that's tough where I live, because it's a very wealthy area to live in--but I deal, and no one really cares that I don't wear hollister or ambercrombie. It does start to get a little awkward though, when they see what I do wear.
I'm the type of girl who spends her weekends sewing her own clothes. They're not "punk" or "goth" or anything. They're just weird and cute, and I love them. [ My favorites range from my fuzzy boot-covers, my failed dinosaur gloves, and my current WIP: a pink peasant-sleeved hoodie. ] I'm the type of girl who's fun, weird, and... has blue hair. It was never a problem when I had long, pretty hair too, like a normal girl's. However, I had to push it, and I cut it all off. Still though, I have great friends, and people don't have any problem talking with me--or vise versa. [ I'm a very friendly, sociable person. ]
So then, why did I come to you? Well, I've had a history with bad boyfriends. I've had about five boyfriends total, and they were all disasters. They each end up having some significant mental problem that I didn't find out about until well into the relationship. [ IE: "schizophrenia", OCD, pathological liar, or my favorite: gay. ] I realize at fifteen, you're not supposed to find the love of your life, the person you're going to marry, or even a vaguely long-term commitment. However, I can't help but want a normal relationship with a normal guy. However, it's just really hard to find that when you're a blue-haired bisexual who doesn't look like anyone else. And it's not that I can't be unattractive--I've been told I have a really nice body, and that I ruin it with my hair and my... eccentricities. I just don't want to change myself, because I only have this short time in my teenage years to really be whatever I want before I have to change my appearance to get into colleges or get a job. Does that mean I should give up on dating altogether, or should I reserve some hope that there's at my age, in my town, I'll actually find a normal guy who doesn't mind a funky female?
Sincerely,
That girl with the hair
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2007 9:23 pm
I'm thinking about your problem. Don't want you to be thinking no one cares wink
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Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 3:18 pm
Believe it or not, I'm jealous that you are allowed to express yourself as yourself in at least your appearance. I don't get that until I move out; the exact opposite of you.
But that's beside the point.
In all reality, look at what makes you happy.
If you need to throw away your unique look--your self-expression-- just to get a guy that is attracted to someone at least normal-looking, how would you feel?
Most guys that are attracted to freaky-individuality can be pretty crazy themselves...
But in the end you need to do what makes you happy.
If you want to ditch the hair for a "decent" guy, then by all means do it.
But if you find yourself unhappy because you had to change so much, then stay the way you are.
There's somebody for everybody, and you just haven't found him yet.
Just try to enjoy your childhood while it lasts
I'm sorry if I didn't give you a straight answer...
But I want you to know that someone read it all and cared to reply
heart
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Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2007 7:18 pm
Holocaust,
that was a really nice answer. I think that's exactly what I needed to hear.
I don't think I will change my hair,
not for now at least.
I'll have to change it soon enough for real reasons.
Thanks both of you for listening,
and thanks a lot for a wonderful response RH.
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Posted: Thu Apr 26, 2007 5:18 am
there are guys that are decent that prefer bizarre appearances. so far you've just happened to pick some out there type people. its true that you'll need normal hair for getting a job, if not college but for now just be yourself. some people love others because they're different from the rest. its better to be loved because you are you and not because you're just another girl.
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 3:29 pm
Guys seem to like the typical kinda girl. I live in a similar town as you do and all girls are here are over eyelinered, straightened hair, and abercrombie/hollister wearing posers. I dont think they have given you enough chance on this one. Keep doin what you're doin and dont stop for anyone.
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Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2007 4:33 pm
I hope you're able to read this, because it's been too long since I've checked anything in this guild, but...
You're welcome ^^
I really only want to tell people the truth, and I've found that so many people aren't used to hearing the truth that it's sad.
Because the truth usually makes people think something amazing, or feel really special.
But I dunno, I'm excellent at ranting...
So yeah ^^
Just, you're welcome, end of story lol
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Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2007 8:07 pm
awww nurse betty!
crying
don't change the way you feel comfortable for other people >_<
it might work for some but when i did that it was just the same, cept i felt like s**t more of the time.
gonk
you... should wait, for a guy who will actually like you, if you are as you say then you sound like a great person >_< i'm sure things will get better.
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