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Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori

PostPosted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 9:26 am


Guys, I need some help. A couple weeks ago, I met this cute boy at a Halo party (That's like a nerd version of spin the bottle. xDDD) And I instantly liked him. He seemed friendly, and invited me back (I was only there as a guest) and yesterday, While I was skipping, he ran into me, told me he got suspended from school and invited me back to his house for a bit. I'm not calling it a date, but it felt kinda-sorta like one. ^-^;; So back at his house, I found out his name was Aaron (Is that how you spell the name? I seem to recall it had a "y" in it instead of an "o" too, but that doesn't look right...) he was studying to be a mechanic, and he was scared of heights. AND MYUUUU HE'S CUUUUUTE. Ahem.

We ended up trying to fix his "s**t bike" (It's what he calls it) and eventually, we gave up and headed into town, where I got us both italian sodas (If you haven't tried them, I HIGHLY recommend them to you) And he ordered kiwi watermelon. <3 He said he couldn't finish it, gave it to me.

Then we went to his... cousin's? house (He apparently has a very extended family in summerland), talked to his druggie cousin (He assured me she's clean, but she was obviously hungover from something....) and wrestled. Yes. The great fairy mendori wrestled someone to the ground. cool Granted, he's thirteen, but SHUT UP. IT'S LEGAL HERE.

So we ended up doing a bunch of random crap and then went to SADI to relax, where I met some friends and started being more phairylike again. X_X He got uncomfortable, and told me he was leaving after a while, and now that I think back on it, that was a clear invitation to go with him. >_> DAMN ME.

Anyways. The kid's basically a juvenile deliquent, though apparently he's never been arrested. He smokes pot sometimes (very rarely, he assures me), "carhops" regularly, and he's apparently had a whole lot of sex with his girlfriend. He does call himself a christian, and there are some clues he's been giving off that make me think he's gay in denial. He seems desparate to make himself seem "not gay", I caught him hugging all his female friends, (Awwwww) and when he said he wasn't gay, he said [LYKQUOTE]I'm not gay, I'm Christian, Christians are against gays."[LYKENDQUOTE] and he was totally blushing as he said it and obviously embarressed, Which makes me think he's trying to convince himself.

SO. The after-tax five-hundred-thousand-dollar-question: How do I get him to start being more Christlike (or give it up altogether) without letting myself get dragged down into what he does, AND keep him either as a friend or as /more/? I admit, I DO need to get out more, but some of the stuff he does.... Meh, both of us could probably live without.

Ignore the "is being gay/having gay sex a sin" debate, please.

DISCUSS:

Him/me (YES THAT'S SLASH. =O)
Missionary dating
christian beliefs
the question I have above
my (not-really-a) date with him


OH YEAH. Ever since then, I've had this feeling in my chest and stomach, like total emptiness and I can't fill it up no matter how much I eat. Is that heartache? ;-;


<3 Thank you, all!
PostPosted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 8:06 pm


Well first of all are u *him*? Cuz if im kind of confussed. lol. If u are than hunny you need some help! Ok well can you mail me and tell me if u are him or a girl so i can get iin better detail of what to say. lol.

kairigirl321


Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori

PostPosted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 8:33 pm


kairigirl321
Well first of all are u *him*? Cuz if im kind of confussed. lol. If u are than hunny you need some help! Ok well can you mail me and tell me if u are him or a girl so i can get iin better detail of what to say. lol.


`-` I believe I stated quite clearly I didn't want to debate homosexuality here.
PostPosted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 10:22 pm


Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori
kairigirl321
Well first of all are u *him*? Cuz if im kind of confussed. lol. If u are than hunny you need some help! Ok well can you mail me and tell me if u are him or a girl so i can get iin better detail of what to say. lol.


`-` I believe I stated quite clearly I didn't want to debate homosexuality here.


Ok, that's cool man... but the sig thing about Jesus...

Caterham_Paladin
Crew


Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori

PostPosted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 10:51 pm


Caterham_Paladin
Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori
kairigirl321
Well first of all are u *him*? Cuz if im kind of confussed. lol. If u are than hunny you need some help! Ok well can you mail me and tell me if u are him or a girl so i can get iin better detail of what to say. lol.


`-` I believe I stated quite clearly I didn't want to debate homosexuality here.


Ok, that's cool man... but the sig thing about Jesus...


Is intended as humour and is irrelevant. Do you have anything relevant to the topic to say?
PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 12:51 am


Um... yeah... I am cool with who you are... are you cool with who I am?

Um... read any good books lately?

Caterham_Paladin
Crew


Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori

PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 10:28 am


Caterham_Paladin
Um... yeah... I am cool with who you are... are you cool with who I am?

Um... read any good books lately?


Yes, of course I'm cool with who you are. neutral

Yes, actually. I've been reading Misquoting Jesus, and the Kama Sutra

(Not really the second one.)
PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 1:22 pm


My suggestion is to not worry about it so much, just be your self and see what happens. If you want him to act more Christ-like, ask him about his faith and see where he stands. If he seems to have a genuine desire to follow Christ let him know that you are concerned about his actions because he is falling behind, if he is only a Christian because his family is then ask him why he is not pursuing a relationship with Christ. Hopefully these questions will get him to evaluate where he is in his walk. It is up to him where he goes from there. Just be sure to respect his beliefs, ask questions and try to get him to think.

Lithanus
Captain


Kuroi Kokoro no Mendori

PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 1:29 pm


Lithanus
My suggestion is to not worry about it so much, just be your self and see what happens. If you want him to act more Christ-like, ask him about his faith and see where he stands. If he seems to have a genuine desire to follow Christ let him know that you are concerned about his actions because he is falling behind, if he is only a Christian because his family is then ask him why he is not pursuing a relationship with Christ. Hopefully these questions will get him to evaluate where he is in his walk. It is up to him where he goes from there. Just be sure to respect his beliefs, ask questions and try to get him to think.


Thank you!
PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 1:34 pm


I agree with Lianthus. It is also a good idea to pray about this with the Lord; since, God has great advice too. I also think you two should stick to public places; since he claimed to have sex with girlds before, being alone could be too much of a temptation for him!

drena_vadess40


Caterham_Paladin
Crew

PostPosted: Fri Apr 13, 2007 1:59 pm


Ah lith usually says the right thing *jumps on that boat*

and the book Misqouting Jesus sounds interesting... I might look it up someday.
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