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 Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 1:12 am
To explain my story and the facts here goes:
-Started casually dating this guy about three weeks ago, quickly he wanted things to be more committed and serious I was weary but agreed
-Instead of asking for my address or the like the normal way, he FOUND it using the records in his work computer system (My mom has ordered things from the store chain he works for)
-He started researching me online
-He has violent mood swings, although never escalating in physical attacks, he is bipolar, goes from normal to Enraged in a blink of an eye. I have been present when he was SCREAMING to his roommate over the phone (when I tried to calm him down he verbally lashed out at me and became rather cruel with the things he said)
-When I broke up with him he called me up two days later, wanting to meet up to "talk" but when it conflicted with my schedule (and I was naturally hesitant for other reasons) he got pissy and said he didn't want to talk to me anymore... then started calling me up later that week. I finally answered the phone when I was led to believe he was going to hurt himself (he has a history of suicidal ideation)
-Last night when I got off work he was waiting for me in the parking lot, his car right next to mine, saying he wanted to talk. Which started civil until he freaked out, throwing accusations then stormed off.
Now... things haven't gotten physically violent in the least. I don't have any real reason to fear bodily harm. But if he's showing up at my work like that... should I start considering a restraining order if this persists? This situation is making me uncomfortable.
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Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 5:31 am
I donno if I'd get one *right now*, but start looking into the process involved, as it may take a while. That way you can be ready to go when and if it gets to that point.
He sounds scary and it's better safe than sorry... so I would say yes.
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 9:34 pm
i'd at least go to the police about it. if you fear for your safety, then i'd persue a restraining order. this is in no way, shape, or form, normal behavior. see what you can do about it. i'm not sure if the laws in your state will allow a restraining order due to the fact he hasn't harmed you physically, but he seems more like he's stalking you. and that's not cool either.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 8:54 pm
Luckily so far I haven't heard from him at all since Saturday. I think maybe he finally backed off. If a week or two passes and I still haven't heard from him I figure I'm in the clear. Whew.
Thanks for the advice smile
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2007 2:42 am
I agree with Nessa, maybe start looking into it, but don't do it straight away. I'm glad he's backed off a bit...
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