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 Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2007 3:18 pm
The last couple weeks have been really hard for me and my boyfriend. He's had a s**t load of stress going on with trying to find a job and get the hell out of his house. And then I've been sick and just started a new job, so we've both been busy. We're both stressing out a lot, so we thought it would be a nice break to have sex. This is where the problem lies.
As we started to make out more then normal, and take off each others clothes, the usual I guess, it was great. As I took off his belt and pants with my teeth, I noticed that he wasn't as hard as he normally is. I pointed it out and he said he knew, but that it was going to get harder.
It never really did.
When he tried to enter me, it was super difficult, because he was only half way hard. We tried tackling this issue by having me masturbate and having him jack off at the same time.
This got him hard, and we started to have sex. He kept getting soft while in me, and we tried like, six different positions to keep him hard. Nothing worked, so we just gave up.
The anxiety is a big issue I think, along with something else. For years, ever since he was like, 14, my guy has been seriously addicted to porn. Hes 18 now, and it was still an issue. Then, when we started dating, he slowly got off the porn. He hasn't looked at porn or jacked off in over 3 weeks.
Do you think that might be one of the things that has to do with this problem?
He said its not me, and I really don't think it is.
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2007 5:34 pm
It sounds like it might just be stress to me. Stress can keep a women from getting lubricated, and it can keep a man from getting or maintaining an erection.
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Posted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 1:08 am
You posted this in LI too. xp
I believe I said in that thread that stress and anxiety could be factors for why he can't maintain an erection, in which case it would be key for him (and you) to have sex when you're both more relaxed, less anxious about whatever's going on in your lives, etc. If you need to wait before that'll happen, then I guess you'll need to wait. Or just have oral sex or something.
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Posted: Mon Mar 12, 2007 12:48 pm
I haven't heard of a former porn addiction causing that problem, so I think that the blame lies more within the stress.
I wouldn't worry about it too much. There's still other things to do, like oral, using toys, or just making out and rolling around naked.
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Posted: Sat Mar 17, 2007 3:38 pm
LorienLlewellyn It sounds like it might just be stress to me. Stress can keep a women from getting lubricated, and it can keep a man from getting or maintaining an erection.
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