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rickyhitman

PostPosted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 12:06 am


well this was my friend not me!
trust me its isnt me.
some that get really disgusted please dont read!
well my friend is about my age and is ok in life but messes up in school sometimes.but he is smart and always a good person . i hanged with him for a long time. eventually later on he called me and told me he had to tell me something. we later met at my friends house. he told me he molested a girl when he was 13 up to 15 and he is 16 and a half right now. i was shocked!
he said he has done it many times he tried to stop...
he couldnt tell his parents because if he did they wouldnt accept him.
he said he stop when he realized what he was doing. he had soo many problems with people harrasing him. and he said during his childhood he has a memory when he was molested by a guy and thats all he remembers.
he told me it was soo hard to deal with he tried to kill himself said he deserves to go to hell. i dont believe that for years he has been kind and i cried because my own friend helped others and never helped himself.
he told me and a girl only. the girl also helped.
just in months he has changed from anti social to guy who is normal.
but does anyone think its wrong. cuz i think he was the victim.
he was so scared telling me. he thought i was going to kill him or something like that. he cried telling me. it was hard to deal with he never got help. he is cool but everytime i see his face when he is sad, i see the hell he went thru. so whats your opinion about this how would you feel!
PostPosted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 1:03 am


Of course it is wrong. Child molestation is always wrong. There is never any excuse. Many, many people were molested as children, yet they do not use that as an excuse to go molest some other kids. That's disgusting.

I am not saying that he is not a victim in anyway, he certainly was if he was molested himself. But that does not change the fact that he has also been the attacker, not just the victim.

Some people are attracted to children and really can't help it. We can't always help what we are sexually attracted to. However, we still have self control. Just because something looks tempting, that is no reason to necessarily give in to it. People who are attracted to children and do not feel that they can control themselves and resist temptation need to seek counseling quickly, whether they think their parents will be angry or not. He has no excuse for what he did.

LorienLlewellyn

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rickyhitman

PostPosted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 6:23 am


yeah i already got him a counseler.
any other opinions.
PostPosted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 6:30 am


well i know it is wrong but you wouldnt understand him.
he has totally changged his view he knows it was wrong but he had the guts to admit it and move on with his life.
i think he was sexualy attracted.
now it just seems that was in the past.

rickyhitman


LorienLlewellyn

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PostPosted: Fri Feb 09, 2007 10:39 am


rickyhitman
well i know it is wrong but you wouldnt understand him.
he has totally changged his view he knows it was wrong but he had the guts to admit it and move on with his life.
i think he was sexualy attracted.
now it just seems that was in the past.


You're right, I doubt I would fully understand him. I hope that I never fully understand child molesters, even ones who gave it up.

I hope the counseling continues to help him.
PostPosted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:10 pm


I feel that you calling him a victim is totally wrong. As much as I feel for your friend what he did was wrong and was his choice. If he is going to wollow in self pity that is his own fault. He chose to do what he did and he should suffer the consequences.

I'm sorry but that is just my opinion. And I would be grateful to have a friend like you who cares for someone no matter what they have done.

animalia02

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