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 Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 11:57 pm
I have some sort of issue with having sex. I'm finally with a guy I actually trust and really like. However well it kinda hurts when we have sex or at least when we try to, I've been to my doctor and she takes a look and tells me I'm fine. Though she didn't give my any advise on why my body doesn't produce enough lubrication. Even though while hes giving me oral or fingering me he says I get moderately wet and he says we don't need to use lube but when he tries to push inside me it hurts. I try to relax and do a lot of breathing since its known to help. then the pain is sort of mild, but I'm still feeling pretty good. Also I was using ky silk and well I'm trying to figure something out about it after he tries putting his manhood inside me without the lube I put a small amount on myself and then he tries again I don't really feel the pain as much. However if we try to do it once more like going into the second session and I use more the lube is kinda discomforting so we just stop. Does this mean I'm like allergic to it or is it bothering my skin because its sensitive, or could it be from the vigorous rubbing of the skin?
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 2:45 am
Could be both. If you think it's an allergy, you could try talking to your doctor and see if there's a way to find out whether or not you're allergic to that brand of lube. You could also try another water-based brand, like Astroglide.
Always use lube, if it helps. I found that if I wasn't lubricated enough and then tried having sex, it would still hurt afterwards even if we stopped so we could apply lube. So use it from the beginning, and it will probably help. If your boyfriend's saying you don't need it, tell him he's wrong and that it hurts if you don't use it. It's YOUR body, tell him how it feels and how you feel about the issue.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 10:52 am
I'm sure even a lubed condom might help some.
Well...that and may be some extra lube.
That and your boyfriend shouldn't try to tell you how your body feels. That's just being insensitive.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 11:01 am
You should listen to YOUR body and what feels good, not someone who lacks a v****a. wink
So the GYN ruled out any issues, I'd go with the lube. Not everyone can go 2 or 3 times back to back. Also, make sure you both are using the lube for sex, not just you on yourself. He has to use it on the condom too. So, of course lube's not going to be effective if you're all ready raw from not using it the first time.
You need to learn to communicate more with him. If he's forcing it in you and it hurts, TELL him.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 12:22 pm
lunashock You should listen to YOUR body and what feels good, not someone who lacks a v****a. wink So the GYN ruled out any issues, I'd go with the lube. Not everyone can go 2 or 3 times back to back. Also, make sure you both are using the lube for sex, not just you on yourself. He has to use it on the condom too. So, of course lube's not going to be effective if you're all ready raw from not using it the first time. You need to learn to communicate more with him. If he's forcing it in you and it hurts, TELL him. I think thats the part we for got I only put it on myself and not on the condom
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 12:25 pm
Nikolita Could be both. If you think it's an allergy, you could try talking to your doctor and see if there's a way to find out whether or not you're allergic to that brand of lube. You could also try another water-based brand, like Astroglide. Always use lube, if it helps. I found that if I wasn't lubricated enough and then tried having sex, it would still hurt afterwards even if we stopped so we could apply lube. So use it from the beginning, and it will probably help. If your boyfriend's saying you don't need it, tell him he's wrong and that it hurts if you don't use it. It's YOUR body, tell him how it feels and how you feel about the issue. I think I will try something different I think I only ever used astroglide once but it was sticky >.>, though I noticed with ky I have to sorta reapply it since it sorta dries up.
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Posted: Thu Feb 08, 2007 11:25 pm
Strange, I've used Astroglide for years. True, it can be gummy after awhile, but only if you are using a small amount. It's cheap! Use it as much as you need.
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