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 Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 4:46 am
It is hard for me to type this.
My boyfriend of 4 years and I broke up. More like...I broke up with him,
He really is...well was a good guy. He knew how to make me laugh, How
to make me stop crying but he had two strikes against him.
I have Fibromyalgia as well as Ovarian Cancer, he asked me how I was
feeling and I told him I was feeling a little better and he said.
"I don't even know why I ask...your sick and that is all you will ever
be for the rest of your life" So that really hurt but the next day he said he
didn't remember it and I forgave him and went on...but just 2 weeks ago he said something else to hurt me, or it was more of an action.
Because of the way I'm raised. I have trouble showing affection...it's something that I won't do unless it is initiated by the other person, it's
not something I really can change at this point and time.
But he came over to my house the other night, and he didn't come
anywhere near me and treated me like s**t. So when he got home I
called him, he told me it was payback for me not showing affection.
"How does it feel? an entire night with no affection"
That really hurt, because it's not something I can help, not something
I planned for to happen. So after sitting down and thinking about it
I decided it was time to end it.
I called him and had him come over....which turned out to be the biggest
mistake of my life. My parents had no idea any of this was going on so they went out and left us alone as they usually did at sometimes.
I told him I wanted it to be over, he pushed me against the wall and held me there telling me It wasn't over until he was done. I tried to fight back
he was just too strong. I remember him pulling some sort of bottle out of his pocket and forcing me to drink something. I don't know what it was.
He then pushed me to the couch where he proceeded to rape me. He got out of the house before my parents came home and I had managed to get dressed again but I couldn't move off the couch. I felt like someone had just knocked the wind out of me. What ever he made me drink did that.
My parents thought I was sleeping and I couldn't respond to them until I woke up well into the night and could move again. I don't know what happened or what he made me drink, and I can only think that he had had it planned if he had something like that with him.
We called the police and they said they couldn't do anything because there was no proof of anything happening...pretty much them telling me that none of this happened. But there is proof I have bruises and I'm scared that I might be pregnant. I don't think he used a condom.
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 11:38 am
Women need to go to the emergency room as soon as they are raped. That way any injuries will be documented, as well as semen samples. They might have even been able to tell you what you drank. Many women do not go to the emergency room, and unfortunately, the police are right; nothing can be done then. Rape is very difficult to go through, and it requires a quick and clear head, which is certainly tough to keep in that situation. Without that sort of evidence, however, there just isn't anything the police can do. Sadly, they can't take our word for it because too many women would lie just to get people they are angry with put in prison.
Your best bet now is probably to get a restraining order. Take pictures of any bruises that you have. Then at least, if he ever did anything to you again, it would be easier to get a conviction.
Pregnancy also isn't proof that it was rape. Take a pregnancy test as soon as you can. You might want to get STD tests just in case. You never know if he has done this before.
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Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 5:19 pm
I agree with Lorien.
You said here:
Because of the way I'm raised. I have trouble showing affection...it's something that I won't do unless it is initiated by the other person, it's
not something I really can change at this point and time.
It's good that you have acknoledged this and it's NEVER too late to change something. If you have a boyfriend now or when you do get a bf...just tell him how you arn't very affectionate and ask him to help you become more affectionate. You seem like a nice person and what your ex did was horrible. It's good that you called the police though. *high fives* Not many people tell someone after they are raped. I do think you NEED to go and see a doctor straigh away. Get some pregnancy tests done just to make sure.
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