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 Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 1:24 pm
Me and my partner want a baby, he works but I don't at the moment for reasons I would rather not say.
He turned 19 on the 27th of this month and I am turning 20 on the 23rd May. He brings home like a grand a month back. He has a car, and we both have lovely homes with lovely parents, I am going through the looking for a job at the moment, but I am on JSA and saving some money each month for this baby.
He really wants one but is scared that his parents would disown him if he get me preggers.
I dunno what to say to him really, he wants a baby, but everytime we talk about it he says, "Next year I promise." But I know he wants one now.
When are the best times to get pregnant? And what should I do before I actually get pregnant?
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 4:50 pm
Living together would be a beautiful place to start.
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 6:14 pm
You may want to look at the numbers first.
You'll want to live together, just you two or a room mate. You don't want to live with your parents when you have a child or you'll want to ask first.
So, add rent and your expenses(food, phone, electric, internet, ect.). When you get a total from that, subtract that from how much your boyfriend makes and brings home a month.
Now, look at health insurence. Childbirth for a completely normal labor and delivery can cost alot, sometimes too much. And that's if everything goes alright so keep in mind you'll want to have complete coverage for yourself.
If that would cost too much, you may want wait or look into other heath coverage.
Okay, so past that. What should you do before you get pregnant?
Go get an exam at your GYN. Make sure you can actually carry a baby and that you're healthy enough. You may want to ask about prenatal vitamins. If you're smoking or doing any drugs(which I doubt, just saying in general)you should stop before becoming pregnant. You should also talk to a doctor about any prescribed medicines you may be taking to see if they will hurt your baby.
You should also start eating healthy and getting exercise to stay in shape.
As for best times...you should have around $5,000 in your savings for just-in-case and maybe talk to your parents about it. Since your both so young, you may want to wait and make sure you can both handle it, financially and emotionally.
A baby is hard work. You won't really be able to to and party with your friends or really go a whole lot of places because you have to take your baby with you everywhere so even though you may say "I don't party" or things like that now, you may regret it.
All I have to say is make sure you're ready. If you bring a baby into this world, it doesn't have a choice who it's parents are. So it's up to you to make sure that baby has the best you can give it.
Hope that helps =D
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 8:36 pm
I do not think it is best in most cases to get pregnant while still living at home with Mom and Dad. Also, if either person has to worry about their parents getting angry, that also usually is a good sign that it isn't time. Obviously someone would have to be bringing in some money before bringing home a baby. Either way, it does not sound like you two are ready for a baby anytime too soon. What about college for you both?
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 12:19 pm
Oooo... We share the same birthday! (sorry for the off topic)
I personally don't think you guys are ready to have a baby. If he keeps pushing it off by saying, "Next year we can..." I think he's really trying to tell you he isn't ready to bear the responsibility just yet. Give it some more time!
And I think LonesLover had alot of good things to say!
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 3:17 pm
Lol, birthdays are awesome. Me and my boyfriend are gonna talk about it a little more to see what we want to do.
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