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It's "hymen."

No, the hymen will not repair and break again. And honestly, the chances of you bleeding to death from it are incredibly low (especially as a woman and therefore not likely to have hemophilia). Of all the things you should be worried about when having sex (pregnancy and STDs, for example), this ought to be the last thing from your mind.

Since you've lost your virginity recently, I feel that I must ask. Did you use protection? What kind did you use (condoms with spermicide, for example)? Have you and your fiance talked about what you would do if you accidentally get pregnant? Do you think you will be able to support a baby? Or are you both comfortable with abortion? Is abortion possible at your age and in your state? Also, once you become sexually active, you should be going to see a gynecologist at least once a year. Have you started going to your appointments? If not, have you started looking for a doctor?

It will not break again. However, you may bleed more than your first time simply because your v****a could still be tight enough to tear a little something in it. I bleed my first two times. Actually more my second.

Most women have trouble orgasming. There's a variety of reasons for this.

1) Women's physiology is different from men and many women aren't able to orgasm during sex - only during clitoral stimulation. Whether or not you can orgasm during sex is largely dependent on your personality (ie: how turned on you get by the thought of having sex) and your physiology (ie: how sensitive you are vaginally).

2) Women have a very weird psychological makeup. We are told that if we don't enjoy sex, we're "frigid prudes." But at the same time, we are told that if we do enjoy sex, we're whores. Not to mention the emphasis on looking perfect, being set up to impossible standards of beauty. Because of this, women tend to have a lot more hang-ups when entering a sexual situation than men do that can add to a nervousness or tenseness that prevents orgasm. If you suspect that this may at least be part of your problem, many many therapists are now holding special sessions just for women having trouble orgasming to help them understand the psychological hang-ups that are preventing it.

3) For many women, vaginal stimulation that gets near orgasm can feel a lot like having to pee really badly (not to mention that the ejaculation itself is often confused with pee by those who don't know any better). A lot of women, being confused, will tense up to prevent wetting themselves when they approach orgasm and, therefore, lose the orgasm. It's important to understand that it is NOT pee, but ejaculation and that the feeling is a build up to an orgasm. If you suspect that this may be your problem, remember to just relax and let it go. Remember, women have two types of orgasms (clittoral and vaginal), so if it feels different from the orgasm you normally get while masturbating, that's why - not because you are about to pee yourself.

Other than that, experimentation is the key. Do remember, however, that it is perfectly normal for a woman not to be able to orgasm vaginally. Try experimenting with some mutual masturbation as part of your sexual activities with your boyfriend.