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I'm happy to say that I have honestly never said anything like that to someone. I'm hoping it stays that way.

I don't really tell anyone how I feel up to there face. Most of the time it's my family telling me these things. To them I'm the only fat cow in the family or something. My parents are skinny and my brother is some what normal. Though here is the daughter which they think is a mistake or something. I don't normally tell them up front how I feel, for I have given up on talking to them. My parents don't understand what I'm going through and I think do care. So I write everything down in my diary. In my diary if anyone was to read it would think this girl is a psycho and needs help. I guess I do, but entry after entry is nothing but my pain, for I don't write good things it it, for why would you write in a diary about how wonderful your day went. Once in a while I do fire back and my Mom and make her feel embarrassed in public. Like yesterday we were shopping for clothes..and she was pissing me off going, "I wish you could be in the junior section. Why can't you lose weight so you can dress like your friends? This clothes are so ugly." So I went into the dressing room and locked myself out and didn't answer her when she told me to unlock the door. I don't feel embarrassment anymore, but my Mom sure does..and she was beat red when she is yelling at her daughter who is on the other side of the dressing room door...

My oh-so-wonderful grandmother actually said "The worst thing in the world to be is fat" (yes, those exact words) to my mother, who is also a larger woman, and me, during dinner. Apparently, having a weight problem is worse than killing people...

...we don't talk to that grandmother anymore.

But I hate when people feel the need to state the obvious. I just want to say "No s**t, Sherlock, I know I'm fat, I have to live with it". But I don't. I just glare, which is usually enough to shut them up.

My ex friend of a size 2 used to call this one girl a heffer, simply because she gained weight and because she changed boyfriends alot... and could pretty much get any guy she wanted because she's confident. I'm sure she is currently calling me this as well. But what I've learned is this...

With all her wonderful helpful advice about how I should drop weight to be healthier, and let me make a note here that nothing is wrong with my health... no high blood pressure... nothing, or look nice or be able to wear a certain style... or that I should have a slimmer body to match a pretty face... I realized.

I'm getting married. I have a stable relationship and I'm happy... and she has a boyfriend who sleeps around on her with 3 or 4 other girls. She's unhappy, and she's reliant on others to make her feel better or worth something.

And I wonder... who needs help? Besides...

I bet she's never had a cute British boy tell her that "You look like a bit'o hollywood, smashingly beautiful and sexy"

I would stop talking to my grandmother too if she was that bloody ignorant.

Because I'm overweight, I am very careful as to what my girls eat, as well as make sure they get a chance to go outside and have some activity.

But because I'm overweight, people assume that my children will also be fat. I'll never forget when my mother invited the neighbours from across the street for dinner. We were eating and Joan decided to say "Amber, don't eat too much or you'll get fat" then her husband said "Yeah...Crystal, Amber...you don't want to be fat, right? No one wants to be fat...you need to slow down"

surprised scream stressed

I wanted to go and kick them in the ******** faces. I said that they should keep their ignorant comments about weight gain to themselves, that no child should start thinking "OMG am I fat?!" and that if they continued to speak like that, I would take the girls upstairs *this is when we were living in the same place, it was sectioned off so that my hubby, the girls and I had our own part of the house and my mother & step father had their own part*. They looked stunned that I said anything and mumbled something about not meaning to cause trouble, but I said their inappropriate comments were not needed NOR necessary...gawd...could they be any MORE rude?! They shut up from that point on...stupid ********.

That Reminds me of a seen in red vs blue..
"Hey Sarge? How many can's of beans should we bring?"
--"Californians can;t have beens dumbass! THey have carbs! They Die if they eat those!"
"Oh Right! Extra beans then!"

OMG thats really sad blaugh