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I hope that nobody gets offended by this- my mother had 7 miscarriages. most of them happened when I was under the age of 10, but they've left a big impact on me.

I'm scared. I'm terrified of getting pregnant. I'm so scared that what happened to my mum will happen to me too. I don't think I'd be able to deal with it.

and I'm sad. I'm so sad. I should have had little brothers and sisters to play with, to boss around, to look after. instead I was the lonely youngest child who's much older brother ignored her and bullied her. I missed out on so much because I lost the oppurtunity to be a big sister.

when my mother lost her babies, I lost family. and not many people understand that. they think that I was too young to know, to care. but I still remember watching my mother in pain, knowing that my little brother or sister was dying. that I'd never get to see them.

I'm sorry if this seems like one big self pitying rant, but I have to get it out. I need to let it go. if I don't talk about it, it's going to eat away at me like cancer.

edit: I'm 20 years old (nearly) and I've got polycystic ovarian syndrome, so I'm not 13 and worrying for nothing.

Why would anyone be offended by the fact that your mom had miscarriages?

Anyway, with her medical history, if she went to the doctor each time like she should of, they probably found out some reason why this kept happening, which would be good for you to know. Your mom probably knows, but it's something that isn't often shared with children. If you ask her and tell her you'd like to get pregnant but you really need to know why she had so many problems, she SHOULD be willing to tell you. If not, that's pretty damned selfish of her, to be honest.
...But, there is the chance that they truly didn't find out why she was miscarrying... after all, it was a decade ago or more, right? Medicine wasn't as good then as it is now, even.

Also, if you're planning on conceiving you should talk to your doctor while you're still in the planning stages (and especially because you've got PCOS), and they should assign you an Ob/Gyn to help you along and monitor you, to try and prevent anything that could cause miscarriages.

Good luck to you.

My mother had a miscarriage when I was very young, and I only vaguely remember it, mostly being told one day I'd have a sibling and then a while later being told I wasn't going to. For a long time I wasn't even sure if the memory was real, until I finally asked a few years ago. I think she's recovered from it, but it was hard on the family for a while. My grandmother also miscarried several times when my father was a child, though back then (the 1950s) it really wasn't talked about. It's an unfortunate part of life, but I like to think that it happens for a reason, in my mother's case she had diabetes that she developed while carrying me, and she thinks of it as a blessing in disguise since a second pregnancy could have hurt her.

I'm very sorry that happened to your family, but I hope there's a silver lining somewhere.

My mother had two miscarriages too, I wasn't supposed to be the oldest child, I know I wasn't born for this one, but she was pretty fixated on it untill about 2 years ago, it's due date and the date it died being a very sad day for her for both the babies. One I was alive for and was quite sad to think I would never meet them and see my little brother's or sister's face. The second miscarriage was quite a late one too, so everyone was very excited about them arriving, I think it was about 5 months along. The baby had died in her womb and she had to have it removed, it weren't the typical clotty mess job. Anyway what I wanted to say is, I can understand where your concern is, and I'm worried about stuff like that too, but it should be fine. And don't let your mother's miscarriage or your ovary problem prevent you from trying to have a baby, 'cause your body tries it's upmost to keep your child alive and you should be perfectly able to grow a baby to full term and birth it xd
(By the way I'm almost 18, not 12 or something sweatdrop )

I know that my mom's mom had a miscarrage and my younger sister told me that my mom had some miscarages too, I don't know how many. But I'm worried that I could also have one when I try to have children. I also wonder what my life would be if I had those older brothers or sisters and not be the oldest in the family confused