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 Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 6:35 pm
Okay,i don't really know how to start this...
Hmm..alright, my boyfriend and i had a discussion about how it all went after we had sex today,that is something that we usually do and i think it's good. Tonight he admitted me that it was sort of boring him that i wasn't moaning. I must admit that i am not moaning all that much but i am clearly letting him know that it feels good and that i like it. He said it's okay since it's my way to moan probably but it's true. I think i don't know how to, yet i think it's stupid cause everyone knows how to lol, not sure if you all understand what i mean here <<
Second, he told me that it was depressing him a little that i wasn't coming. We have been having sex since about 2 months and half ish now and he's my first with whom i had sex so i think it's a little bit normal that i didn't came yet. I would like to know if there is anything i could do to help me coming when we are having sex or anything at all i could ((or he could)) do in this.
Thank you all for your time in reading and maybe,helping. -bows down respectfully-
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Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 9:16 pm
Just guide him. Make sure you tell him what gets you close to orgasm and what isn't getting you there at all. Some things feel nice, but you can just tell that they aren't going to give you an orgasm. Be honest about it. How long you have been having sex is not an issue. Don't let yourself believe that it's normal for you to not have an orgasm since you have only been having sex for a couple of months or because he is your first. Women can have orgasms their very first time. Many of them don't, however. It's not that they can't. It's more that many don't know what works for them, what would get them there, or how to tell their partner what it is that they want. Keep experimenting and trying different things if you do not feel that you have even been close to an orgasm with him yet. You can also masturbate to give yourself a better idea of what you like.
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Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2006 7:03 pm
Hmm,for that i understand, my partner made it clear the first day that i should feel totally free to talk to him,and i don't hesitate to tell him,maybe it's just that i don't know myself. Though, we tried one position that i think almost made me come to an orgasm but he came before and didn't continue so i lost it, but ever since i told him about it that's all that we're doing because he's really focused on making me come. I told him it's not a big deal,that atleast i like it even if i don't come but he says it's starting to get to him...
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 8:26 am
Tell himt o not make such a big deal out of it. The goal of sex shouldn't be orgasm - it should be enjoying sharing some special (sex) with your parter. Just relax and try other positions and techniques. Maybe something else will work.
And if not, then you can come back to the position after adding some variety and changes in sex with each other.
Btw in your signature, it's "wa" not "ha", even though yes it's the "ha" character. wink
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 8:37 am
It helps my girlfriend if we do a bit of foreplay, and also trying new positions every now and then helps her reach an orgasm.
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 11:35 am
Young men can often keep an erection for a bit after an orgasm, or can get another ererction very quickly. So even if he has an orgasm before you do, if you feel close, you might be able to keep going, or just give him a few minutes for a break.
You can try to have one, but also be careful not to try so hard that that's all you think about during sex. I notice that if I try too hard to have an orgasm, I often don't have one at all.
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 12:27 pm
Even with the foreplay i am extremely long to come, i really don't know why. I am sincere when i say it feels good and all but i just don't come XD Sometimes it's so long that i myself tell him to stop cause it's too long and its starting to bore me ._.;
But something i will try to do is to not think about coming like you all said. I must admit that after awhile when i see him about to come and i feel am not even half way i start to think that once again i won't be coming and then it goes poof --_-- I feel it's just something going in and out
Re to Nikolita: So is it "ha" or "wa" in the end? XD In my lesson it said it was "ha" but maybe i wasn't listening carefully when i took my notes >>;
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 7:31 pm
Guess i should just go on with it u.u
Anyway thanks for all the advices peoples.<3
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 7:41 pm
KajiMadoushi Even with the foreplay i am extremely long to come, i really don't know why. I am sincere when i say it feels good and all but i just don't come XD Sometimes it's so long that i myself tell him to stop cause it's too long and its starting to bore me ._.;
But something i will try to do is to not think about coming like you all said. I must admit that after awhile when i see him about to come and i feel am not even half way i start to think that once again i won't be coming and then it goes poof --_-- I feel it's just something going in and out
Re to Nikolita: So is it "ha" or "wa" in the end? XD In my lesson it said it was "ha" but maybe i wasn't listening carefully when i took my notes >>; Sorry I didn't reply sooner. whee I take forever to come as well. I've used a vibrator once and it worked (nope, nothing earth-shattering for me), but it took a bit. During sex, if it's not a position that's directly hitting my G-spot, I won't come, or it will take a very long time to get me close to coming. If sex is boring you when it takes a long time to get you to climax, switch it up! 3nodding Try something new! Add something, maybe try another position, use a vibrator, etc. Find ways to keep sex from being boring. Quote: Konnichiwa, Onamae ha Kyasarin desu. Hajimemashite -bows down- Onamae ha nan desu ka? I have my college Japanese textbook in my lap, so that's what I'm basing this on. In the romanji, it's spelt as "wa". I know it's pronounced as "wa" also, but they use the "ha" character instead of the "wa" character. So you'd say "onamae wa" in your signature, but if you were to use the actual Japanese characters instead of romanji, then in that case you'd use the "ha" character.
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 3:33 am
There are plenty of women who just can't come from penetrative sex alone. If it helps, have him finger you (or do it yourself) on your clitoris WHILE having sex.
Or, try oral, and maybe have him use a few fingers to imitate vaginal sex... like have him take 2 or 3 fingers and thrust them inside you while giving you oral. I know most women find that the most likely way to get there, and even if you don't, I guarentee you'll like it.
And if ALL else fails... there are some women that just can't do it.
*points to self and cries*
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 6:56 am
;_; So it really can happen that a woman can't come at all even by trying everything? =/
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Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 1:17 pm
KajiMadoushi ;_; So it really can happen that a woman can't come at all even by trying everything? =/ Of course. Some women go their whole lives without having an orgasm. Some go their whole lives without having one during vaginal sex; others can only have them during masturbation. Everyone is different.
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