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 Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 10:11 am
I am saving myself for marriage. is that wierd?
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Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 10:47 am
Of course not! That's your personal decision, and you're not the only who has decided to do so. Kudos for deciding to wait until you're married! Personally I don't know if I want to marry someone until I know if we're sexually compatible, but I haven't completely rejected the idea of waiting for marriage, but that's me. Only you can decide when you're ready to have sex, that's your decision and no one else's.
Well, your partner still has to consent to it, but you know what I mean ^_^
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Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 4:01 pm
I also give you props! That is a very hard thing to do with society today, and i envy any person who can stick with that idea. I myself wanted to stick to it, but i guess i wasn't as set on it as i thought. And now that i have had sex i am compleatly opposite, and glad i didn't wait. But, i totally support what your trying to do, good luck!! (meaning that sincerely)
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 3:40 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 7:07 am
Not weird at all. I know about 9 other people, both males and females, that are saving themselves for when they get married.
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 12:10 pm
ok, cool. thanks! some poeple made fun of me (like, off of gaia) and i wanted to hear ur opinion! thanks!
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 4:48 pm
no its not weird ^_^ more power to ya!
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 8:54 pm
Personally, I would say waiting until a legally binding contract has been signed is kinda iffy... It implies a lot of things. Not only sexual compatibility, but also that you won't live with your chosen partner before marriage as well, which I can see as being kinda... egh... There are so many aspects of a person that just don't come out until you've lived together and truly seen each other at your worst.
My personal opinion is that marrying someone before you've lived with them for at least a year is as bad as marrying someone you've never met.
But that's my personal opinion. You can take that with a grain of salt.
That being said, however, I certainly do advocate waiting for LOVE before having sex. And personally, I believe that you shouldn't have sex with more than one person in your lifetime unless the first person has died. Again, though, those are my personal morals and you can take those with a grain of salt as well.
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Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 10:50 am
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No of course it's not weird. I just don't agree with it. I think a good sex life is healthy. I think it's good experimenting new things but again, that's my opinion.
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Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 12:01 pm
Kukushka That being said, however, I certainly do advocate waiting for LOVE before having sex. And personally, I believe that you shouldn't have sex with more than one person in your lifetime unless the first person has died. Again, though, those are my personal morals and you can take those with a grain of salt as well. I agree. Personally, I would never have sex with someone unless I could see myself being with him forever (or at least the rest of my life). I think the idea of only having one sexual partner your whole lifetime is something to aim for, but you really never know what might happen in a relationship.
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Posted: Tue Dec 05, 2006 2:08 pm
Kukushka Personally, I would say waiting until a legally binding contract has been signed is kinda iffy... It implies a lot of things. Not only sexual compatibility, but also that you won't live with your chosen partner before marriage as well, which I can see as being kinda... egh... There are so many aspects of a person that just don't come out until you've lived together and truly seen each other at your worst. My personal opinion is that marrying someone before you've lived with them for at least a year is as bad as marrying someone you've never met. But that's my personal opinion. You can take that with a grain of salt. That being said, however, I certainly do advocate waiting for LOVE before having sex. And personally, I believe that you shouldn't have sex with more than one person in your lifetime unless the first person has died. Again, though, those are my personal morals and you can take those with a grain of salt as well. I agree with everything that she has said. I used to think that I would wait for marriage, but now that I've found someone who I absolutely love and who feels the same, I've changed my veiws. We see each other spending our lives together and he's helped me in ways (especially with my abusive situations at home) where most others have left me when I needed them the most. Sure we get annoyed with each other at times, but the love we share goes beyond that. Only for him would I have sex make love.
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Posted: Thu Dec 07, 2006 11:24 am
I agree with most of you, but did anyone think of the possibility that once you marry your loved one and have sex, it is possible that sex will be worthless, ie. not much pleasure. May it be for example because one of you is very conservative, and the other one wants to try out "New stuff".
I think it is also important and therefore having sex before marriage might bring more security into the future.
This doesn't mean that you should jump into the first bed you see. It has to be true love.
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