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 Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 4:15 pm
i've been friends with ashley for 7-8 years,for a long time i've thought of her as my best friend but since the last year or so it's changed.Like if she thinks something's funny i won't and all she does is talk about stupid stuff.last week some guy on our bus was taking his trash out and the trash can was full so he set it beside the trash can.ashley says,''i think that's enough trash.'' and she keeps on laughing and saying that.finally she shut up about it(me in my head:thank you god if there is one!) but when we got to school she started up again.i couldn't listen so i went into the gym.with some other friends. and it always seems like she's putting me or someone else dumb,i'll say something and she goes "ya think?!" or she's talking about some girl who she thinks is a slut.she calls my friend amy that,get this amy is her friend too!, or people she doesn't even know.trust me amy is a little perverted but not a slut. and today i was talking to becca and sean(fellow office aides) and sean said that he never liked ashley because she was annoying and becca called ashley 'her bully' when she was younger.i sat there nodding because what they were saying was true.
. for the past week she's been thinking that something's wrong when i don't talk to her.there's not a problem,i just don't feel like talking,i'm pretty quiet.this morning she asked me and i said,''nothing is wrong!" and i said it real huffy like,raising my voice.then i went into the bathroom because i was pissed at her,locked my self in the stall and started kicking the wall{hence my new signature}(this actually helped me calm down,i stayed in there until the bell rang) and today this was our conversation:
ashley*comes down hall to my locker,her's is beside it* why didn't you say hi to me today? (and her voice is just whiney like.)
me:hi *mumbles due to the fact my head is in the locker(i'm putting away my backpack it's bottom locker)*
her:yopu didn't say hi to me
me: i just did!
her:not this morning
me:whatever*starts to walk off,feeling pissed*
her:why aren't you talking to me.is it monthly problems?
god,that really pissed me off. lately i've been wanting someone to talk to so why not talk to her?she's the problem so i should tell her right?try to fix things? i might but i can't do that,i've never been able to confide in her,when an old friend told her about this crush i had i asked ashley not to tell(trust me it was a hopeless liking or i would have told him) but she did when i talked to her about it her excuse was:you gave me a challenge" maybe i shouldn't hold grudges about things that happened in january-march but i can't forget about that. maybe i'm the problem for just not opening up (i could never talk to a person i know about anything i swear one day some stranger somewhere is going to have the pleasure of hearing my life story) or maybe she's the problem.i don't know.i'm probably the problem but this feels good to write down.
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 4:25 pm
It seems like both of you are part of the problem; it's all a failure to communicate.
Her: Maybe she is annoying, maybe she isn't (I don't know her so I can't say for sure). Some of her behavior sounds a little immature, especially calling someone a slut behind their back. You might want to call her on that, or at least ask why she insists on gossiping or putting people down behind their back. Also, if you can't confide in her, then maybe you should tell her that you don't feel like you can trust her, or find someone else to talk to.
You: You talk behind Ashley's back too. You said yourself that you were agreeing with your other friends when they called her annoying and a bully. Instead of just agreeing and doing nothing, why didn't you say, "hey, it's not cool to talk about people like that," or "well, maybe we should try talking to her since she's our friend." Also, if you just storm off when she does talk and kick the bathroom walls, that doesn't accomplish very much. Even if you consider her annoying, just running off won't fix things.
If you still consider her a friend, then talk to her seriously. Tell her that you feel like things are changing, and you are having a hard time trusting her. And if she is capable of being mature, you have to at least listen if she has any concerns. If you don't want her as a friend, then you should at least tell her why before you start overreacting or ignoring her.
Hopefully that didn't sound too negative; I'm just trying to be objective.
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Posted: Tue Nov 14, 2006 4:49 pm
AraTeran It seems like both of you are part of the problem; it's all a failure to communicate. Her: Maybe she is annoying, maybe she isn't (I don't know her so I can't say for sure). Some of her behavior sounds a little immature, especially calling someone a slut behind their back. You might want to call her on that, or at least ask why she insists on gossiping or putting people down behind their back. Also, if you can't confide in her, then maybe you should tell her that you don't feel like you can trust her, or find someone else to talk to. You: You talk behind Ashley's back too. You said yourself that you were agreeing with your other friends when they called her annoying and a bully. Instead of just agreeing and doing nothing, why didn't you say, "hey, it's not cool to talk about people like that," or "well, maybe we should try talking to her since she's our friend." Also, if you just storm off when she does talk and kick the bathroom walls, that doesn't accomplish very much. Even if you consider her annoying, just running off won't fix things. If you still consider her a friend, then talk to her seriously. Tell her that you feel like things are changing, and you are having a hard time trusting her. And if she is capable of being mature, you have to at least listen if she has any concerns. If you don't want her as a friend, then you should at least tell her why before you start overreacting or ignoring her. Hopefully that didn't sound too negative; I'm just trying to be objective. no it's not negative,it's the truth.i do realize all of that especially about me.
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