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 Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2006 10:39 pm
But what really goes through a boy's mind when they find that their girl is pregnanet. Just curious of what it is.
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Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2006 8:41 am
Everyone is different. I can imagine that some males might be happy to find out their partner is pregnant, depending on the situation, and some might be less than thrilled. Depends on the person, really.
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 2:37 pm
if the couple wanted to have a baby, then the guy will probably be thrilled. If not, then not thrilled....
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Posted: Mon Dec 04, 2006 9:00 pm
Judging from the men I've known, there are some very mixed feelings.
If the couple wanted the baby, men will usually be overjoyed, but also very anxious - in particular there will be fears that they won't be good enough as fathers. It's a huge responsibility to have a baby, a whole new human being who needs you entirely. There are other fears there too. My husband, for example, is afraid about having a baby (no, we aren't pregnant yet) because he's afraid that he won't get as much of my attention or my love.
Women have largely the same reactions. Sometimes there's the added addition of being afraid that they won't be sexually attractive to their husbands anymore if they have been re-cast as "mothers" instead of "wives/girlfriends." And, of course, fear of the changing body.
This is called "cold feet." People tend to get this feeling whenever something huge and life-altering is about to happen (such as marriage, retirement, graduation, etc...). It's just this feeling of fear that a change that may well have been much anticipated will have negative effects. There is a lot of doubt.
An unwanted pregnancy (which is different from unplanned, by the way), will probably have fewer positive reactions and more negative reactions. Fears, doubts about options ("can I live with myself if I get an abortion"), things like that.
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Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 8:46 am
Well, really this varies from guy to guy, but this is how my husband reacted (we have 2 kids together and he has a 13 year old from a previous relationship) and a BTDT viewpoint.
My first son (hubby's second) was not planned and it really was a hard pill for me to swallow at first. The only thing that helped me get through it was my husband whose first words when I told him were an enthusiatistic "I want it!" I was unsure what I was going to do with the pregnancy till I heard that from him. He never had anxiety or complaints about shared love or not getting enough attention. Crazy as it is, I was the one who was so scared and nervous throughout the pregnancy, he was my rock and it was the fuel for him to get through boot camp and other issues that year. And my fears weren't because of my changing body or my views on my sexuality. It was just that fear of the unknown, "Will I be a better parent?"
Now if you want to go into when he was 17 and had a child, I can go into that, it was a different scenario a bit. My second son was planned, so it was an easier time this go around, not so much an emotional rollercoaster.
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 1:47 am
When I told Mike I was pregnant in September of '04, his first words were, and I quote:
"Oh s**t"
Yep. That's it!
Course, we were 15 and 16, about to be 16 and 17.
About 2 weeks later he warmed up to the idea and was truly excited. Then I misscarried.
It depends on the person, if you were trying, and how close you are.
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 10:40 pm
As everyone else said, it totally varies.
I can imagine the reactions between a 30 year old husband and journalist and a 17 year old high school student would be QUITE different.
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