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 Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 2:57 pm
My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to do a group sex with his best friend and his best friends girlfriend. He wanted me and his friends girlfriend to be all over eachother when he knows for a fact that I'm straight; I got offended by the question and got angry with him because I feel like that was something that sexual activity is something that should be kept just between us and I also was offended to know that he was okay with someone else touching me; We've been together for two years and this is the first time he's asked me anything like that and he says he loves me but I'm now a little insecure about our relationship. Any Suggestions?
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 3:14 pm
Please give me some advice crying
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 4:40 pm
Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. If you don't want to, then don't. I can see how you'd be a little upset if he's never asked you before, but he's had his chance to ask, and you've given your answer. Don't let him pressure you for it, since you've already said no once and that should be enough.
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 4:43 pm
Nikolita Don't do anything you're not comfortable with. If you don't want to, then don't. I can see how you'd be a little upset if he's never asked you before, but he's had his chance to ask, and you've given your answer. Don't let him pressure you for it, since you've already said no once and that should be enough.
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Posted: Tue Oct 17, 2006 6:55 pm
Just because he asked if you would do that does not mean that he does not love you or anything like that. Some people do not see sex as a very emotional thing. Some see it as a pleasurable experience that can be shared with friends. If you are not into the idea, and do not feel the same way about sex that he does, he needs to respect that.
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 8:14 am
LorienLlewellyn Just because he asked if you would do that does not mean that he does not love you or anything like that. Some people do not see sex as a very emotional thing. Some see it as a pleasurable experience that can be shared with friends. If you are not into the idea, and do not feel the same way about sex that he does, he needs to respect that. Very good point, which I had forgotten. Some people view sex differently - he may not see a threesome or a foursome as that big a deal, whereas you said you were upset by the idea. As Lorien said, once you tell him no, he needs to respect that.
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 1:09 pm
I see, I like getting other points of view...It helps me understand a bit better. @_@ I really appreciate it and I'll make sure not to do anything I'm not comftorable with because then I would probably just regret it .
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 2:12 pm
I just know that there are somethings that would bother me if my guy asked me to do them. Although for me group sex isn't offensive, i can see ur point. If you don't want to, no one can make you. To spice up ur sex life, try making it an event for him once in a while. Dress up, create a setting, puts on some music you kno he likes. Show him it can be fun with just the two of you.
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 4:41 pm
Tell him why you feel the way you do and ask him what he thinks.
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Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 7:41 pm
Ryoko Yumi I just know that there are somethings that would bother me if my guy asked me to do them. Although for me group sex isn't offensive, i can see ur point. If you don't want to, no one can make you. To spice up ur sex life, try making it an event for him once in a while. Dress up, create a setting, puts on some music you kno he likes. Show him it can be fun with just the two of you.
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