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 Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 7:04 am
Charlie is being so weird. Even though he gave me an extra year before marriage, he's acting like we're getting married tomorrow.
He gets jealous, I know that I agreed to marry him, but saying that even one instance of hanging out with a guy by myself will cause me to want to break up with him.
He's also saying that he's afraid that if he gets married at 22, he won't be able to have the energy to play with them like would if he gets married at 21.
Then he brought the fact of his sister getting Hodgkins' Disease at 23, saying that if that were to happen he wouldn't have the energy to play with the kids or to please me. I'm not certain, but it would be extremely rare that two siblings would get the same disease at the same point in life.
He also told me that he planned on getting married at the age of 20, which is odd, since in other conversations he never planned on getting married. If he really wanted to get married at 20, why would he date girls that he knew would not get married by then, or were too young? In any of his arguments of making me change my mind about setting the date back, he doesn't make sense.
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Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:38 pm
maybe he has pre-marriage*sp jitters.
he's just kinda nervous about it maybe. and waiting is just making him think what if this and what if that. but honestly and this is my own opinion so don't take offense but by him asking you to marry him is basically saying he has trust in you and wants to be with you through thick and thin, and he shouldn't be getting jelous over you hagning out with another guy. If you're not cheating on him you should be fine. but by you wanting to set the date back that's probibly sending the message to him that you are having second thoughts and don't want to really be with him. and that's probibly why he gets jelous when you are around with the other guy(s)?
but yeah that's my 2 cense
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ConcreteAngel Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 2:59 pm
I suggest talking to him about how you feel. IT sounds controlling. He may just be really nervous. Calm his fears and get to the bottom of what is really bothering him. If he doesn't trust you enough to let you hang out, why would he trust you later? Sort it all out before the marriage. You don't want to go into it having troubles. If you can't seem to agree on things, break it off for a while until you know that it is really right. Don't do it just to prove something to him. If you love him and have told him so, that should be enough. If he doesn't think it is, he won't ever most likely and he'll constantly be jealous and suspicious
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Posted: Sun Oct 15, 2006 8:30 pm
ConcreteAngel I suggest talking to him about how you feel. IT sounds controlling. He may just be really nervous. Calm his fears and get to the bottom of what is really bothering him. If he doesn't trust you enough to let you hang out, why would he trust you later? Sort it all out before the marriage. You don't want to go into it having troubles. If you can't seem to agree on things, break it off for a while until you know that it is really right. Don't do it just to prove something to him. If you love him and have told him so, that should be enough. If he doesn't think it is, he won't ever most likely and he'll constantly be jealous and suspicious I agree, if you are married with problems then they get worse, it is easier to sort them out first.
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Posted: Mon Oct 16, 2006 8:19 pm
I've talked to him and he understands, but I have a feeling that something will come up that will cause a fight.
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