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 Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 8:06 pm
Im 18 and have been with this guy for awhile now..on and off dating for a good three years, serious dating for the last year. I love him, and he loves me. And we discuss mariage alot. Are we too young?
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 8:35 pm
I'm a bit jaded after having broken up with my ex of almost 2 and a half years, so don't mind me too much. No I wouldn't say you're too young, just don't get too carried away. My ex and I loved each other - then he changed. He got depressed and suicidal, and pushed everyone away. I've never seen someone just give up all motivation to do anything with their life.
My point is, there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion, just don't look at it as a "definitely going to happen" thing. He might change - you might change. s**t happens, life happens.
I would advise not getting married until you both have jobs and/or are living on your own. That's just my opinion though.
Good luck to the both of you. 3nodding
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Posted: Tue May 31, 2005 8:36 pm
If you want to go by legally then no not at all. The question is more about your feeling then your age. Do you feel ready? Does he? I was 17 when I had my first experience and that was fine with me. I felt prepaired so that was all that was important. In fact I actually had to count back to figure out haw old I really was because I had forgotten. It just wasn't an issue. If you feel too young then you probably are not ready. You will know when the feeling is right. Good luck!
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 12:06 am
When you don't have to wonder if it's right or not, is what I would say. You can be 75 and if you doubt, its not time. However if your 18 and feel 100% like this is right, then go for it!
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 2:41 am
what matters is, do u feel that u 2 are responsible enough to handle the consequences. if you are. than go ahead. i'm glad u waited till 18. *cheer*
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 4:45 am
It's not a question of age, but a question of maturity. Do you feel the two of you are mature enough? Does he? Not only must you be mature enough, you must be close mentally and physically. Also be able to take care of yourselves financially.
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 7:48 pm
well for me when i get married i plan to have a "good" job where i can have the money to support a family and if he has that or oyu have that then by all meens if you two are truly in love then go for it... only the law can stop you adn i am not sure the legal age of marrige so um ya...
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 9:39 pm
I don't think it's too young to be talking about it, but I think it's too young to actually do it. 18 is barely out of high school, and I think that in order to be financially secure, at least one of you should probably have a college degree. And you should definitely be financially secure before getting married.
Just think about it this way: if you're truly in love, then waiting a few years won't matter, because you'll still be together then, and you'll be in a much better position for marriage.
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Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2005 10:51 pm
Mikkara pretty much summed up what I had to say, but I guess I'll add:
If you've been on and off, there's a reason for being off. Something big enough to come between you. Until you figure out what it is and address it, than I don't think you should get married. You can't get a divorce everytime something bothers you.
I don't think one year of solid dating is really enough to know somebody either.
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Posted: Thu Jun 02, 2005 4:28 pm
You're too young if you're scared and being forced into it, you're to young if you aren't responsible for some sort of chore or job that produces regular income that isn't from your parents for taking out the garbage, you're too young if you don't feel ready.
That last one is the one that really matters. You're 18 and in a serious relationship. So chances are you know what sex entails, you know how it can and will change your relationship, and you know what precautions to take against pregnancy and S.T.D's, so the only real delemma left is do you feel like you're ready? Do you feel like you might regret it if you do? Do you feel like you might regret it if you don't? Are you only thinking about it because he's asking you to? And sexual urges aside, do you WANT to?
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 11:30 am
I am engaged to my best friend of three years and bf of 6 months. It depends on ur mentality and if you are truly in love and commited. Age is a slight factor but at 18 I think you canmake up ur mind...
<3 ryoko
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Posted: Mon Oct 24, 2005 1:54 pm
It is not a question of age but maturity because if you two are not matured your marriage that you are thinking of would be in ruins. Think what is right. Do both of you have a job? Do you share things equally where when something is to be done you can rely on the other. Also, how can you be sure that going with him is gonna be happiness. Think like the future. Look at the options you have and se whether if you two were together if he would stand up and be a man or not.
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