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 Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:03 pm
Guh.
So like, my friend's in a real tight spot.
The place she's living in is a rented house.
She's only been there for a short while.
Well, all the sudden the person who owns the place, wants to sell it.
So they apparently gotta be out in November.
Friend has no money and no where to go.
Now, Mom and I have been talking for a long while.
She wants to move to Washington state. Real bad kay?
This is Mom's dream, to see mountains and live this life happily as she sees it.
And she's got the chance.
Yet.
Yet, she knows this friend as well as I do.
I'd die if I lost contact with em.
I mean, literally, I cannot be without this friend.
She lives in PA.
Mom has been so desperate not to go to PA.
However, this friend's like a second family to me.
Her and her mom.
I cannot sit back and let this happen.
Mom agreed, we'd go up there.
Least, I think she did.
I mean, I love my mom to death, however...
Can't her dreams be put on hold to save another family in need?
I know all of her life she's never gotten what she wants, and she has this chance.
However.
Isn't it the right thing to do to help others?
To make sure they wont live out of a car in a walmart parking lot?
I just.. I really don't know what to do.
I told mom that I'm going to live there anyways when I turn 18, however.
That's not till June.
So what can I do?
What do I do?
Break my mother's heart yet again?
Or save a family I've known and loved for so long?
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Posted: Mon Oct 02, 2006 8:30 pm
When you rent a place you usually sign a contract to agree to rent it for a year. Now if the lease says that the land lord can cancel the lease at any time, then they're le ********. But your friend might benefit from carefully reading over the lease and seeing if the land lord can cancel on such short notice.
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Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 7:15 am
Your mom can get the house in Washington, and then she could let your friend and your friend's mother rent your current house for an affordable amount of money. Maybe. gonk
What do you mean by no money? Did the landlord take payment for the whole year or something? Or do you mean that they can't afford more than what they were paying at the house they are being kicked out of?
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Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 11:51 am
You're in different states? I guess renting won't work... I wonder if the landlord's mortgage went up or something. Maybe you can have her ask the landlord to assist her in finding a new place. Can you actually do anything to help them? Maybe you can look up cheap apartment listings online, and help them find an affordable place... confused
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Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 3:17 pm
Gah, no, okay here, lemme better explain everything.
I'm in Florida. Friend's in PA. I'm not positive on their lease, but all I know is they're being forced out in November. They don't have any money to rent anything else and they have shitty credit.
Now, mom and I have a condo down here in Florida that we're trying to sell desperately, and our goal in the first place was to sell by November. Mom, had her heart set on getting to move to Washington state all the sudden, however, now she realizes that there's a family in danger of being homeless and all that other good crap (I reeeally don't want to mention what else is wrong, but it's health related. ). So, now she's all heartbroken about not getting her chance to move to Washington from Florida, and she's starting to plan to go to PA. However, I can randomly hear her muttering or cry about it and it breaks my heart.
What we're doing now, supposedly, is we're going ahead and looking for a duplex to buy from the sale of this condo in FL. That way my friend can have somewhere to live without being out of state, and I can be with her again, plus we can try to help my friend's family get back on their feet.
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Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 4:23 pm
I know the feeling. In the middle of 9th grade, my mom lost her job. I wasn't expecting that, and after it, I wasn't expecting to stay at the current high school because we were gonna move in like, April.
Then a friend of hers came to visit, and she was expecting him to come with some money, cause that's what he said he'd do.
He didn't. He bummed off of us, who really didn't have anything to be bumming off of. So we ended up moving in early July. For the longest time, I'd sit in my room and cry while Someday by Nickelback would play on my X-Box. That is, if I wasn't watching seasons of Buffy I borrowed from a friend.
I had a really good friend who's dad had been out of a job for about 3 years at the time, and they were maintaing a house of 3, plus two cats. She pretty much lives very comfortably, and has been living in a ceramic bubble her whole damn life. I'm trying to break it, and I think sometimes it hurts her, because she gets EMO on me.
Anyway, her family could've helped us, but they kept saying they could barely afford what they had.
Yet, they drive to Palacios (pronounced Pole-ashes), visit New York, visit Chicago, and her parents took a cruise during this time to Alaska.
Now tell me. How stupid is that?
So I understand your friend's position. I had to move in with my grandma, and I'm turning 18 next Friday, and someone asked me today if I was gonna move out. (If I had a job, I'd be out the next day. Screw the internet.)
I'm sure your mom can survive a few months or however long it'll be in Pennsylvania so you can be with your friend. Soon, she won't have to worry about her little girl so much, and can then move to Washington with no guilt. I think your mom would feel guilty if she didn't help, no matter how much she bitches about actually wanting to go to Washington.
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Posted: Tue Oct 03, 2006 4:36 pm
Bleh, I keep hoping she'll be able to do that as well.
I mean, I know we're pretty financially screwed as well, but we do have a roof over our heads, food, clothes, and we can pay the bills. Florida's expensive in general, and PA is a lot less cheaper then Florida, so things would be easier. Plus, I already know where I could work and I could get health insurance back.
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Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2006 6:07 am
And then you wouldn't have to mess with the ******** in Florida. surprised It won't be as hot, too. (Of course, it'll be cold in the winter, but you can always bundle up.)
I haven't been to Florida in ages. My aunt and uncle live there.
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Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2006 9:30 am
My aunt and uncle live here, and are part of the reason why I hate my family. Listen to how my conversation with my Aunt went last night on the phone. D:
Aunt: Hey there Kai (no, not Kai, but I don't ever use my real name. I hate it. XP )
Kai: Oh, hello, how're you.
Aunt: Well, fine but I heard from one of my co-workers that you ordered a Homes and Land magazine for Dauphin County and some other places in PA. : D
Kai: Yes, that's right, to help a friend look... *not revealing true intentions*
Aunt: Ohhh, I see. Well, I was rather surprised to hear that. You know you and your mother really need to stay down here. I mean, you can't afford anything and besides, you'd never make it out on your own.
Kai: Right, well, is there anything else on your mind?
Aunt: Oh, right, um well... I wanted to see how school was doing!
She did not like the fact that I wasn't getting that pissed off with her, but she's part of the reason we're in so much debt. She talked my mom into buying this condo, when we didn't have the money for it in the first place. Not to mention she also went ahead and got brand new carpeting in the place, and expects us at this rate to pay for it. No. A thousand times no. I seriously hate my family for these reasons. My mother doesn't have a job. We depend on her church for food at random intervals. The power company already is screaming for 300$ a month now. (cause Florida Power and Light is nothing but a monopoly and a bunch of ignorant assholes)
I'd be so glad to maybe finish my schooling at Lumi's school or something like that rather then deal with the stupid Florida school system. Not to mention, I'd have my life back. I'd be able to wander to the mall and wal-mart on my own, as well as be able to freely go back to seeing old friends. Not to mention, maybe finally I could find my sister. D: Yeah, yet another angst period in Kai's life. Sheeeeesh.
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Posted: Wed Oct 04, 2006 5:24 pm
I totally meant Pennsylvania, not Florida. x.x My aunt and uncle life in Pennsylvania. Actually, I think they tried living in Florida for a while, but it didn't work for them. >..>
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Posted: Thu Oct 12, 2006 3:23 pm
Hmm...
I've been there before (where your friend is now). In May 2005, My single mom was fired from a job she'd had for 13 years because it was taken over by new management. Not more than a couple months later, we were evicted from the house we'd been renting for 16 years. We were told we'd have to get out in 2 weeks. We had no idea where to go. Mom tried not to look worred and said we'd make it, but things were looking pretty grim. We could only hope things would work out.
Like some kind of miracle, My mom's old boss (who now worked as boss elsewhere) offerred her a job. It wasnt much ( $8.00 an hour), but it was better than nothing. Not long later, an old client of my mother found out about us and said she was about to move and she was gonna sell the house. But she offered to rent it out to us for as long as we needed (and for only $125 a week too).
Long story short, we still live at that house, my mom was given a raise, and we're doing just fine. We can even afford Internet now. ^^
So I'm sure your friend and her family will come through this ok. They just have to believe they can. Something will work out, I know it will. 3nodding
As for your mom, it may sound a lil selfish, but she does have a right to dream. There are more ways to help your friend. You could send money to them, maybe search for some government subsudized living areas (places that adjust your rent based on your income) for them. They could stay there until they get back on their feet. That's what my mom was looking at.
Well, Thats all I can say. Just don't worry about it too much (don't get me wrong, you DO have a right to worry). Try to think positively. They'll make it out of this slump in their lives. Be Optimistic!
~Kitsune
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