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 Posted: Sat Sep 23, 2006 10:04 am
I was abused for 16 long years of my life both phyiscal and mental and now I have a hard time opening up to people who say they want to help me. I can't talk to people unless they know what I've gone through and if I try to talk to people I start to shake un controlably and usualy have to stop talking because my words become slurred. I've tried to over come this many times but I'm still having problems with it. I have a boy friend too now who is always wanting me to go to for problems and lean on him for support but I'm still just un easy about going to anyone. Obviously I have a problem, and I really need advice. I've tried a sicaiatrist and they don't do anything for me. What do I do?
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Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 11:04 am
Try another psychologist, or a counsellor or a therapist. Just because one didn't work out, doesn't mean that none of them will work. It's a matter of finding one you're comfortable with, and one whom you feel will be able to help you. That doesn't always happen right away.
If you search through this forum, there are some posts from guild members who've successfully been able to get help from a psychologist/counsellor after trying more than one. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 3:49 pm
I also would suggest possibly hypnotism. Most people don't trust it but if you are not conciously having to relive it things may become easier for people to understand and help you. Best wishes.
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Posted: Sat Oct 07, 2006 7:37 pm
to be honest sometimes theraphy doesnt work... ive tried it and it just made things worst for me (and i went to four believe me i know it wasnt the threapist).. you have to find something that makes you smile all the time rather it be singing drawing or just walking in the park ... you need to make time for that ... sometimes not thinking about something as HUGE like this .. it helps you to heal and at the same time numb the pain... as far as talking with your boyfriend.. DONT force yourself to talk to him about it... take your time... forcing yourself to talk about something is not going to help you it will only make your emotions more tense...break to him slowly at your own pace ... or say through creative expression... like a poem.. speaking to people can be hard but unfortunately you CANNOT go through in life without talking to someone...
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Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 11:59 pm
Maybe you should slowly open up to this new guy or a close friend. The reason I think that you shake is because your scared/nervous. I wasn't abused physically, but I was mentally and it did affect my self-esteem. I opened up to one of my close friends and now if i have a problem I go to him for adviceor a shoulder to lean on. I think that your bf really does want to help you and I also think that you should try.
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