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 Posted: Fri Sep 15, 2006 2:14 am
My first post in this lovely guild I was asked if I'd like to join and I'm just kinnda looking today for someone to listen to me I guess.
Well my due date is this Sunday the 17, our first child and my husband had to leave this morning to go to work out of province. sweatdrop
Its not him being gone that I mind, I've traveled quite a bit and am use to being away from family and friends for a couple of months at a time....its him missing the birth of our child thats killing me. I will miss him terriable, up until now longest we've been apart is a week and we are best firends and spend so much time togeather that him not being around is gonna be so very strange.
I wanted him to be the first one to hold the baby, the one to cut the cord, introduce him/her to the family, be there for me and so much much more.
And now hes gone, he maybe able to come in 6 weeks for 2 weeks or he may not be home till a couple of weeks before Christmas depends on which schedule they put him on at work.
I'd like for him to come home after 6 weeks but again its more becasue I want him to see our child.
We need the money this job is gonna bring, he's a fisherman and the last couple of years haven't been great and of course we didn't know that was gonna happen and decided to build a new house. Always they way of it, isn't it.
We've been married for 3 years this comming October and have been togeather for 7 years this past June.
His brother left with him this morning to go to work for the same people and my Dad is leaving tommorow to join them.
I currently live in an apt at my parent's house so my Mom will be very close at hand to help with the child but she works shift work and does quite a few night shifts.
If anyone else has been in a similar situation or is in a similar situation now just looking to talk about getting through this time in one peice and with your sanity intact.
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Posted: Sat Sep 16, 2006 10:59 pm
I feel for you, but I can't say that I've been there. Hubby was at the birth of both our children.
I'm at a loss because I want to offer help, but everything I type up sounds lame. sweatdrop
I do hope that all goes well with your delivery! 3nodding heart
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Posted: Sun Sep 24, 2006 4:04 pm
My second daughter was involved in a near fatal auto accident that resulted in 24 major surgeries and 6 years of frustrations. My husband was away on business with his job at the time it happened and my oldest son (and 4th child) had just come down with chicken pox that day. I wasn't even able to reach my husband until the next day to let him know what happened. My mother, who lived next door, took charge of the other children and let me go take care of this daughter. That night, in the wee hours of the morning, I had to sign a form to allow for the possible amputation of my 16 year old daughters right foot. It was a horrible night! (They did save her foot but the hours waiting and knowing if they had to take it she would know it was me who gave permission to let them were some of the worst I have ever experienced.) I think what helped me the most was a wonderful support system with my extended family and friends and my faith in God. It also helps to know that life cycles and can be very rich and rewarding as well as very challenging. Everything that we can deal with in positive ways helps to make us and our children stronger and more grateful for the times when we do have what we want to happen actually happen when we want it to. The challenge is to look for things to be thankful for and not spend too much on feelings of guilt or being overwhelmed.
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 12:25 pm
My husband will ideally be there for the birth of our second child, but since he's a police officer it's mostly a matter of how long I'm in labor and when they let him go so he can be with me. It'd be lovely of course if I managed to go into labor before he was scheduled to go in that day, but...no way of knowing, really. My last labor was 25+ hours, but that was mostly due to scarring. This time they're saying expect labor as short as 4 hours. So assuming I notice the contractions right away and call him right away and there hasn't been a phenomenal crime wave, he might make it for the last bits. I'm really going to miss him during the rest of labor, because he was an absolute rock the first time and really kept me calm and took care of me.
I *do* know he's scheduled to work Christmas, and good luck getting that day off. I'm not sure if I'll be able to do any of the usual Christmas stuff by myself. It might be all I can do to get our son up, feed the baby, get presents opened, and make sure meals happen. I'm sure my in-laws will be absolutely frosty if I can't make it to their cookout, but they really aren't helpful. They always liked to grab my son and take him out of the room, which made him panic and cry, which they would ignore because holding the baby, for them, seems to equal some sort of capture-the-flag game. I know my family will be helpful, because my mother always has been, so I guess that's a plus.
All that, and I'm still positive your situation is rougher. Especially since this is your first baby. First babies are so important to everyone involved. I hope all the women in your family are able to pull together and support you during a really tough time. Good luck, and may your delivery happen soon and be easy.
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Posted: Thu Oct 05, 2006 12:11 am
How are you doing now? Is everything ok with the new one and are you happier? I would love to hear how everything went and how you are now
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Posted: Fri Oct 06, 2006 12:04 am
If anyone else has been in a similar situation or is in a similar situation now just looking to talk about getting through this time in one peice and with your sanity intact.
That is a precious picture of the new little one. Thanks for sharing with us
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Posted: Sun Oct 08, 2006 2:16 pm
*Squeeeee* Congratulations! That is such a sweet picture!
When you can, please let us know how you and the wee one are doing. A blow-by-blow delivery story is also welcome. I hope all is well, and I hope Daddy comes home soon and safe.
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