Yugami Motto
Um, over react? Well how the hell was she supposed to react when the both of you jumped on LO like that. First off, hear me out, I am am mod of my own guild too, so I do know what i am talking about. I have about 800+ people to mod, so I know the stress of the job. You can't just go jumping on people when you don't know how the other person will react. You should have asked Shadowed how she felt or at least waited for her reply BEFORE doing anything. Yes, the way LO said it was wrong, she has admitted it to Shadowed over PM. Secondly...Shadowed said she did NOT feel offended by what she said. You should have just warned LO and asked kindly for an appology. As a fellow mod, I felt this was handled wrong and if anything, you should appologize to LO for jumping on her. For claming to be LO's friend..you all went about it the wrong way without even giving her a chance to appologize. Finally, had you wanted to warn LO, you could have done so over PM. It is plain RUDE to embarass someone over thread and totally unprofessional. I have had over twenty cases I can count of where peole have been warned, and I have done the warning. You can't just be...rude like that. Yes...LO did go about it the wrong way...but as a mod, you are supposed to be able to keep your cool and handle the situation calmly. That is all I have to say.
I've warned people too through PMs. This wasn't some 'zomg that's disgusting, you horrible person!' sort of post. It was offensive to tell someone not to have children because they might like shota. I found it offensive that she suggested that everyone who had liked shota shouldn't have children.
First of all, I appreaciate you're trying to support your friend, but making this go further is just out of hand. Would you want someone repeatedly making a situation worse by doing the same thing they just cautioned against? You say this should have been handled better by simply PM'ing LO. Well, why not take a bit of your own advice? Either of you. It would have reflected better if you had taken this matter to PMs, as I agree it got out of hand. Do you want someone questioning you authority? No, it's rude.
Second of all, I wouldn't have said anything, but Chieira's first gentle warning to please not respond to people in our guild this way was ignored. She could have been PM'ed, or responded to in a manner that would make me think that she didn't simply read it and brush it off. LO obviously had been to the thread after the message, because she commented on someone else.
Most of what I said was supporting that we all have different tastes in yaoi. I agreed with her, but at the same time I didn't want her to think that jumping on people was okay. By giving examples of what the difference was, I was hoping she would agree to disagree, as I know she has done in the past. Instead of responding with grace, she said that we 'all think ******** five year olds is sexy' and then left.
I know I can admit when I'm wrong, but I wasn't the only party in this situation that was. If LO wants to come back, then I wouldn't mind inviting her back at all. In the same token, I'm not going to apologize for something, when I was simply defending myself and another guild member who seems to have forgotten that I was trying to support her as well, if I don't hear one back. I wouldn't mind PM'ing LO, but with her parting statement, I doubt she wants to hear from any of us. Given that I'm a mod at the Naruto Yaoi Guild, and I know the PM that all in a certain situation were sent (one was sent to a close friend of mine as well) that was fair to all parties, not wanting to play favorites with anyone. That PM was responded with anger, which followed by LO leaving the guild. I was fairly certain that PM'ing her would only result in such as well.
And that is the last this thread will see of this conversation. It's very sad that someone that was a value to our guild stormed off. It's even sadder that a few ignore the situation for what it was, and cry foul on my end alone. How this finally settles is up to LO.
