Fuzzy Necromancer
The genders have built-in restrictions. Guys are more concerned about things that would appear homosexual, because society gives girls more leeway in that direction. If guys pretended to be gay lovers, people would believe them, while girls can hug and kiss and squeeze boobs without people thinking anything of it.
I don't think those restrictions are "built-in," because that implies that they're natural, and there is nothing natural about gender restrictions. But I'll refrain from going on a tirade about that
sweatdrop As for getting hit on, it is an ego boost, but it can be really creepy sometimes. I have a few stories, and I'll start with the best one.
I met my girlfriend my freshman year of college, though she noticed me before I got up the nerve to talk to her. Now, I was a very naive and oblivious little girl then, and I didn't even realize how attracted to her I was at that point. I had seen her around and knew who she was because she was the VP of our gay pridey group on campus at the time, but I still hadn't spoken to her. Now, we're both art majors, and we both had to attend this gallery opening because of that. So she saw me there, and unbeknownst to me started following me around. I had no idea. At one point I actually decided to go introduce myself because of her position in the pride group, but I was still completely oblivious to the fact that she'd been shadowing me. So that wasn't overt hitting on, I guess, but we are happily together now. She didn't tell me about that until after we got together, which was like 4 months later.
Now for a less fun story. A couple years ago I was in the school library when this older man (like in his late 30's) came up to me and started talking to me. It seemed innocent enough, and eventually he told me that he thought I was beautiful and asked me out. I politely turned him down, and was really flattered. However, a few weeks passed, and then one day I was walking back from class in a very secluded area or campus and he shows up again...and proceeds to ask me out as if he never had before
stressed It was way creepy, and I was scared because of how alone we were, but I managed to turn him down again and get away before anything bad happened. I'm not even sure if anything bad would have happened, but it was still very...gyah.
And now the last one. I currently work at an Inn/restaurant, and one of the dishwashers has always been really nice to me. I figured it was because he had a crush on me, but he wasn't mean about it or rude, so I just let it be. Then a couple of weeks ago, towards the end of the night shift (which lasts until 11pm), he comes up to the desk (where I work from) and hands me some keys from the kitchen, saying "Here you go, sexy." I actually thought I hadn't heard him correctly, so I was like "um wtf?", and he proceeds to flat out hit on me in a kind of awkward way. So, kind of embarrassed, I tell him a) I'm taken and b) I'm gay. We proceed to have this conversation about sexuality in general, and in that he tells me that his girlfriend
eek has offered to have a threesome with him and the girl of his choice
burning_eyes Obviously, that was the whole reason he had been hitting on me in the first place. He didn't ask me to join them or anything, but it was still very AUGH!!!
gonk After he left, I still felt very uncomfortable, and actually did some art to make myself feel better. See here if you want -
No Boys Allowed.That's pretty much it. Other than that I haven't really been hit on, and I suppose I should be grateful for it
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