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 Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 10:24 am
Sorry about the whining, but it's pissing me off.
One day, I was sitting by my computer, minding my own business. All of the sudden, *ping* an IM arrives from my good friend Sivs. Expecting some cheerful banter, I look forward to the conversation, and reply "hi." What he said was, "We have to talk. Pronto."
I'm still thinking, OK we're messing around, it'll be cool. So I respond, "OK, talk."
Now, what you must know about Sivs is that he is one of the few people that actually knows I'm bi, and is, as well, a very awesome person.
So he says to me "Casey told me that she thinks you're a lesbian." So I'm thinking "Ohmygodohmygodohmygod, " which is exactly what I typed to him.
Casey is a very good friend of mine. A few days before this conversation, she invited me to hang out with her at her new house. Apparently, I had been staring at her and acting too cheerful.
How the Hell does that make me a lesbian?!
And I have explanations for both accusations. First, if I was staring, which I adamantly deny doing at all, it was because she was wearing the most rediculous swimsuit I have ever seen. I mean, it was a hideous floral print and had these holes in the sides, for showing the stomach without wearing a bikini, I guess. rofl
Now for the cheerful thing. I had many reasons to fake cheerfulness that day. First of all, Casey, who was one of my really close friends, had moved away. Second, I have other things going on in my life that may have been upsetting me that day. So excuse me for pretending to be happy, so that you won't feel guilty for moving away, Casey!
Give me a break.
The good news is I think she only told Sivs, so she hasn't outed to the whole world. So far, I haven't talked to her about it, although we've seen each other since.
My question is this: Is it right for me to be so angry?
And should I confront her about it, or should I just let it go?
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Posted: Tue Sep 05, 2006 6:30 pm
You have every right on Akatosh's green earth to be pissed. (Excuse the Akatosh Pun, I'm an atheist and substitute god for various fictional gods from a game)
If she thinks you're a lesbian, or has a question, concern, or comment about you, she should've asked you and talked with you about it. NOT going and telling Sivs, at least Sivs was nice and told you.
I just think you should confront her and talk it over (and if you dont want to be out then just make up a lie.. Like if you were over and you hadn't seen her in a while you missed her so you were paying attention to her...whatever.)
And you have no reason to apologize for whining, it's understandable.
And if you're afraid of confrontation (like me) you could just ignore it, tell Sivs to talk her out of it, whatever, act normal, and try to not do anything that she might see as "Lesbian-esque."
Well my trazodone's hitting me and my hands hurt, here's my rant, CC is welcome, and I hope I helped you.
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 6:54 am
I agree that you have kind of a reason to be upset. That isn't a very good conclusion to jump to just because you were cheerful and staring. (And that doesn't sound like a very attractive swim suit by the way).
I think that you should talk to her, but as Sam-034 said, if you worry about confontation, have your friend talk to her. But perhaps she was just wondering if you were. Was she really serious in her claim??
Were there any other reasons that she might have thought that from before that day??
Is she an understanding friend, if so, maybe you could just tell her?? Mind, with that phrasing it sounds like a really easy thing to do and I acknowledge that it's not, just putting suggestions out there ^^
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Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 5:16 pm
cloakedinshadows (And that doesn't sound like a very attractive swim suit by the way).
color] Precisely. Though I myself am not exactly the fashion police. cloakedinshadows
Is she an understanding friend, if so, maybe you could just tell her?? Mind, with that phrasing it sounds like a really easy thing to do and I acknowledge that it's not, just putting suggestions out there ^^
I don't think I'm so comfortable with that. After all, she might assume that I'm attracted to her (based on the bogus staring thingee.) That... would really suck. I'm really just afraid of losing a good friend.
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