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 Posted: Sun Sep 03, 2006 2:46 am
Ok so here is the deal... I am here asking help on solving a BIG problem... My friend got his girlfriend pregnant and his girlfriend is my friend as well... So they both look to me and go what the F*** are we going to do the world is ending... But then I hear that my friend was drunk and had sex with another guy only 3 days prior to having intercourse with her boyfriend.
So now he doesn't want to accept the responsibility of the kid just to preserve the fact that the child will then have no dad he was fully ready to take the blame until the other guy came forward... I don't know what kind of advice to give them she needs help right now she needs to know if she needs an abortion or now. Then she needs money for doctors bills for check-ups if she wants to go through with the pregnancy.
So right now... in her parents eyes... I'm the father sweatdrop I know stupid move but I didn't know what to do! So now I have to convince my friend to take responsibility for his girlfriend or something... I really don't want to have to tell my other friend to have an abortion....
urg I hope I was making sense please respond I need help!
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Posted: Sun Sep 03, 2006 8:06 am
Well, that's very noble of you to want to help, BUT you need to get it out in the open you are NOT the father.
She needs to pursue the sperm donor (he doesn't deserve the title of father right now). True, she cannot get a paternity test done until the baby is born, but she NEEDS to talk to a lawyer or even the child support agency in your area. He is obligated to pay half of her medical bills, child support when the baby is born, and most like half of the baby's medical expenses.
I wouldn't hold my breath on your "friend" stepping in. I don't imagine what you anyone could say to make him act like a decent human being. I would reevaluate my friendship with someone like that, however. I don't know if he knows she slept with someone else about the same time as him. It's not your place to tell her what she should/shouldn't do. She needs to get to a doctor ASAP (some STDs can be difficult with pregnancies) and figure out what kind of care/options she is planning on doing. If she does decide to keep the baby, make sure she pursues the legal avenues regarding finances.
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Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2006 12:08 pm
She needs to make a choice on whether she wants to keep the baby or not. And you need to let her parents know that you are NOT the father. But, you could offer your assistance to her and I wish you luck.
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